Hello all-

I need some serious advice about a guy I met at a dating auction a few months back. We went out once, but he ended up nearly standing me up before a planned second date because he " lost his phone." I used that excuse to basically say I just wanted to be friends and left it at that. However, there were other concerns that got to me during the first date: 1. he went on and on about his ex and how she had issues and was crazy, didn't want to do things with him, and crashed his car. 2. He called other girls in the dating auction skanks and *kitten*. All the girls in the auction appeared to be professional and nice women. I don't know how much of it was true, but that was a huge red flag to me. In addition, he was super clingy to me right after we met. He texted me like multiple times during the week before our first date and that turned me off. That doesn't include friending me on FB also. He even sent me messages saying he couldn't stop thinking about me after I refused to go out with him again because his actions.

Fast forward to last week. He sent me a message wondering if we can reconnect. He made small talk with me and asked if we can hang out. I said yes, but I was a little skeptical but agreed anyways. He asked me how long would he be able to have me out until, i said we shall see. He suggested 5 am because he supposedly hasn't been out since the time we went out in Feb. due to assisting with a local campaign. As a result, I reminded him that I just wanted to be friends, and I will not be giving a second chance. He said he accepted and understood my point of view and just wanted to have friends. Last night we were suppose to hang out, but my car battery died at my cousin house. I called him to say I wouldn't be able to make it, but I suggested next Saturday as a viable option. He said okay and that he wasn't taking no for an answer. Then today I get a text that he wants me to participate in a parade with the local mayoral candidate he's assisting, but I declined. I got no response.

My intuition is telling me that this guy is going to keep reaching towards me until I give in. I wonder if I should just tell him I am not interested in being friends or anything except casual acquaintances. Eventually I think he's going to be expecting more and more from me especially if I give him a window of access to my life. I just got rid of an emotionally abusive man a few months ago, and I sadly think this one has the potential to at least emotionally draining if anything.

What do you ladies think?