Where are the butch lesbians?

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  • CJ_Holmes
    CJ_Holmes Posts: 759 Member
    Laughing my butt off! I told my girlfriend sometimes I feel like there is something about gay guys that is attractive to me, but not like in a sexual way. I think you could have a bit of a point though. Something about the androgyny and being able to pull off both masculine and feminine at the same time :)

    i have seen some lesbians that i mistook for really cute guys!

    The worst is when you think you see a cute androgynous lesbian, and then realize it's a middle school boy. Moment of horror!
  • We're around. Just keep your eyes peeled for us!
  • rita27ny
    rita27ny Posts: 820 Member
    hi
  • Quiing
    Quiing Posts: 261 Member
    Hello ;)
  • rita27ny
    rita27ny Posts: 820 Member
    how r u
  • rita27ny
    rita27ny Posts: 820 Member
    im not butch
  • amastre
    amastre Posts: 176 Member
    Butchish gender queer person reporting in.
  • lastchancedance89
    lastchancedance89 Posts: 26 Member
    Oh we're everywhere, girls. :)


    My sentiments exactly.
  • LadyDi126
    LadyDi126 Posts: 18 Member
    Laughing my butt off! I told my girlfriend sometimes I feel like there is something about gay guys that is attractive to me, but not like in a sexual way. I think you could have a bit of a point though. Something about the androgyny and being able to pull off both masculine and feminine at the same time :)

    i have seen some lesbians that i mistook for really cute guys!

    The worst is when you think you see a cute androgynous lesbian, and then realize it's a middle school boy. Moment of horror!

    Bwhahahahaha!!

    My other half is butch and fabulous and loves gay men. She's far more attracted to men than I am, despite the fact I was married to a man for 7 years. Go figure.
  • paperfiish
    paperfiish Posts: 52 Member
    Is there a specific word for people who are both, but not at the same time? Like I know stem but I was under the impression that was more like mixing it up all at once? I literally have lacy dresses & fancy flats next to leather jackets & combat boots and it just depends on how I wake up in the morning. A friend called me a swinger/switch hitter once, but that just makes me think of keys-in-the-pool parties and bad baseball analogies.
  • missdelarocha
    missdelarocha Posts: 32 Member
    Is there a specific word for people who are both, but not at the same time? Like I know stem but I was under the impression that was more like mixing it up all at once? I literally have lacy dresses & fancy flats next to leather jackets & combat boots and it just depends on how I wake up in the morning. A friend called me a swinger/switch hitter once, but that just makes me think of keys-in-the-pool parties and bad baseball analogies.

    Ahaha I was just about to be the first person to add in that I'm not exactly the same all of the time, I go through phases.
    I like edgyness always though, I wear jeans and t shirts or tanks and shirts, but I'd be happy to wear some hard looking more femme clothes like Aaliyah, Cassie, Gwen Stefani, Cara Delevinge and Ciara, those are some examples, they do/did the more masculine thing sometimes.

    Can I just say that it's usually the persons attitude and swag that makes it though?
  • amastre
    amastre Posts: 176 Member
    I definitely feel like swagger and attitude do play a role in being butch, even moreso than clothing choice and personal style.
  • MartialPanda
    MartialPanda Posts: 919 Member
    It's all about that swag/walk. Apparently girls know i'm gay in a hot second. I don't always wear men's clothing. Sometimes I do. However, even when i'm wearing women's clothing......ladies who like ladies......automatically know i'm gay. I'm just walking around. It's about how you walk and talk and act a lot of the time. Clothing only "helps"

    It's funny though because apparently as much "gay" as I give off guys still hit on me...........and i'm like......bro

    i'm wearing a men's shirt, tie, and shoes. Do you really think i'm into you? They say "Oh I just thought you had swag"

    Exactly.........
  • I am new to the boards and I'll just tell you... I couldn't pass for straight or femme if my life depended on it. I go from jeans and tees and a ball cap to tailored suits and silk ties.

    I am very in love with my future wife.

    If you all need any recipes re worked let me know. I am a chef.
  • paperfiish
    paperfiish Posts: 52 Member
    I definitely feel like swagger and attitude do play a role in being butch, even moreso than clothing choice and personal style.
    It's all about that swag/walk. Apparently girls know i'm gay in a hot second. I don't always wear men's clothing. Sometimes I do. However, even when i'm wearing women's clothing......ladies who like ladies......automatically know i'm gay. I'm just walking around. It's about how you walk and talk and act a lot of the time. Clothing only "helps"

    It's funny though because apparently as much "gay" as I give off guys still hit on me...........and i'm like......bro

    i'm wearing a men's shirt, tie, and shoes. Do you really think i'm into you? They say "Oh I just thought you had swag"

    Exactly.........

    Ok, that makes a lot of sense. Swag is definitely a good indicator and reaaaaally attractive <3 I have no swag (and don't really mind, it's definitely not natural to me) so I think I'm probably not who this thread is looking for :p
  • alternativemommy
    alternativemommy Posts: 12 Member
    I'm a gender bender when it comes to style. Generally I wear women's clothing to work but not girly clothing (please don't confuse the two!) But I usually wear men's pants on the weekends with t-shirts which are gender neutral...although I do own a dress or two. Butch is more of an attitude! Clothing does help though with identity!

    But apparently have no trouble with attention from both sides (women or men). ;-)
  • chrissyshott
    chrissyshott Posts: 1 Member
    Right here, right here. I'm working on the first novel in what looks like is going to be a series of butch-hero romances if anyone wants to volunteer to beta read.
    This is what I need in my life, haha <3
  • Aloha ;)