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kimfierro
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My name is Kim and I have been using fitness as a way to deal with the grief over the loss of my daughter almost one year ago.
I'm a mom of 2 girls (one is 3 and one in heaven) and I'm mainly a SAHM, but do work a few hours per week.
My goal is to work out everyday and lose a few more pounds (not sure right now how many).
I'm a mom of 2 girls (one is 3 and one in heaven) and I'm mainly a SAHM, but do work a few hours per week.
My goal is to work out everyday and lose a few more pounds (not sure right now how many).
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I am Liz and I have been grieving for quite a few years now. First my daughter passed away from health issues in 2000 and then my mom was killed in 2005. The pain is still so new...like it was just yesterday that they passed away.
I have decided that I need to find myself and get on track. I want to feel beautiful and be happy.0 -
Hello. My name is Kachina ( sorry no profile pic yet) and I recently joined fitness pal ( today). In 2008 I came home to find my father dead. He was young as was I. It was a very traumatizing experience that caused me to sink down in life. It was difficult because it is final. I wasn't able to say bye, I love you or I'm Sorry! It was just.....FINAL. My health and mental health decreased a great deal. I put myself last because I had to take care of my mother, her household and everyone else-I held back my grieving. The next two years were tough because other bad things happened to me and my daughter which only brought me closer to giving up on myself. My father is a big part of why I have found myself on this site and even why I have turned towards God. The pain that one feels when you loose a child, mother, father, brother etc. ... Is not something everyone can understand. Sometimes I don't think I understand it either. You miss them. You want to share with them so much but they are not there. You know you have to move on but sometimes .... Deep inside-- You don't want to. Currently I'm training yo become a Doula and work with a non- profit in the U.N. I think a lot about my father especially since I will be getting married in September ......0
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Hi! My name is Karen. I lost my 17 year old son almost 16 months ago! It has been hard! I lost almost 30lbs before he passed and since then my weight has been up and down! I need to get back on track!!0
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Thank you for sharing your stories. I'm so very sorry. I lost my daughter almost a year ago and it's so hard to lose a child!
I have found working out to fill up my patience bank and help me get through the days. I'm always in a better mood if I work out.0 -
Hi! My name is Karen. I lost my 17 year old son almost 16 months ago! It has been hard! I lost almost 30lbs before he passed and since then my weight has been up and down! I need to get back on track!!
Karen, sorry to hear about this. You can definitely meet your goals. Let's do it!!0 -
Thank you for sharing your stories. I'm so very sorry. I lost my daughter almost a year ago and it's so hard to lose a child!
I have found working out to fill up my patience bank and help me get through the days. I'm always in a better mood if I work out.
This is so very true. Working out is definitely an upper! I'm looking forward to getting back on the healthy track!!0 -
Glad I found this group. I seem to use exercise and workout programs to try to offset the demons while on this journey of Grief I have been placed on. My son was killed while serving in the Army with a tour in Iraq back in 2006. People can't believe some of the extreme fitness stuff I've done. But they don't understand that I don't do it to get fit and lose weight. I workout to fight the depression and loneliness that tug at me.0
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My name is Diane. I just started My fitness Pal and was surprised to come across this topic. We lost our 28 yr.old daughter to suicide 6 yrs ago. Very traumatic experience and still feels like yesterday. One know one should have to go through. I have gained 30# in the last 6 yrs. I am still grieving and always will but this weight gain has to stop. Depression has taken it's toll on me. My husband and I are grieving in different ways. I have 93# to lose and hoping this site will help me to get there. I have managed to use the DVD walk away the pounds 5 mile walk. Walked 4 miles of it yesterday. So that is a start for me. Sorry I do not have a profile pic, yet. This is devastating to all of us whom lost children know matter the age.0
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The journey of grief is different for each person, even different from husband and wife. Don't expect him to understand yours, as you cannot identify with the pain he feels. Just accept that the death of a child is far worse than anything previous. Don't understand it, don't think of it as something you will get over. For you will not. Grief is ever changing. So the journey is never predictable. Some days we take steps forwards, then some days, backwards or even sideways. As long as we keep taking steps. That is what matters. We keep taking steps. And some times, all we can do is just breathe.0
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Hello, I joined MFP after losing 20 pounds. I lost an additional 12 pounds before my sister passed away in November. She committed suicide just before Thanksgiving. I turned to food for comfort and gained some of the weight back. I started running as a way to clear my mind of all of the unanswered questions. Some days are better than others but I keep trying to move forward. I'm glad to have found this group.0
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Oh man, I'm so very sorry to hear about your son. I agree that grief is different from person to person. I never miss a work out because I need it to get through the day. I totally get why you do what you do. Do you do marathons or other competition type things?0
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I obviously don't know how to use the reply button. That last message was for 3rdwoozie0
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Oh my gtdattitude. I'm so very sorry.0
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Sorry to hear about your daughter. I think I've learned it is hard no matter if it's a year or 20 years.0
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I'm so very sorry Kachina. I'm happy to hear about your pending nuptials. You have something nice to look forward to.0
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Kimfierro, I have completed 7 marathons, and about a dozen 1/2 marathons. Exercise has become a way to deal with my isolation and grief. For when I kick my own butt, a lot of problems seem to go away.0
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Wow Woozie! I'm impressed!0
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Hello,
My name is Crystal. I am a Wife & Mother of two terrific kiddos. I was actively changing my lifestyle starting in May of 2013; I was exercising regularly, eating well & losing weight.
June 30 2013 my life shook. My mom, who was visiting my home, died suddenly of sepsis. I was able to keep up a basic routine but the diet began to fail. Aug 26th 2013, 8 weeks after my Mom my Dad died. Exercise, nope. Diet, nope. Motivation, nope. I began to not “feel well” regularly. I assumed it was stress. I ended up in the emergency with severe stomach pain. They found a large (soccer ball sized) mass. FFWD 3 months and 1 major surgery. They informed me that the mass they removed despite their initial belief was in fact Cancer. Now I am facing a road of recovery & healing physically and emotionally. I need to change my life, I need to give myself power. I am looking for support & positive vibes from like minded people!
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Oh wow Crystal! I'm so very sorry for your loss, but glad you are here for your kids!
I am happy you are here!0 -
:flowerforyou: Thanks0
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Hi everyone, my name is Rosy. My dad died on January 16th from stage 4 cancer in his esophagus. I haven't been on mfp lately ir have exercised. His funeral was wednesday and someone suggested this group when I told them about my lack of everything fitness. Not really sure what I am looking for by joining this group...just need to get back to me and feel like Rosy again. I don't know.0
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Welcome Rosy. I feel as though it's good to be around others who get what you are going through and we are all using fitness as a way to deal with our grief. I'm hoping we can help each other.0
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Thanks for sharing your stories everyone. The will to move forward is very inspiring.0
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Rosy, you can find that exercise of any kind can remove pain and sorrow. I work out to remove my demons of my grief. Not to get physically fit. But it works. You might start small with a walking group or just doing something physical to be a part of your day.0
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I'm from a very large family. 12 kids. A sister was stillborn, a brother killed by a hit and run truck driver we believe. All my grandparents and also my parents all passed back in the late 80's. My mom died at the age I am now. I'm the only one of the family that has lost a child. All but 2 siblings came to funeral. Family is all throughout US. Shock takes over and I know they were there but don't remember even talking to them. I know I did, they informed me. Still to this day 6.5 yrs. after our daughters death I don't remember much of the day she died, funeral. I have to be reminded so many times. Having a traumatic experience and trying to move on is very hard. For 6 yrs. I didn't care mostly about myself. All of a sudden it came to me I cannot keep doing this to myself. I have to move on. I have a hubby, daughter and two beautiful grandkids to keep me going. Yes, I think of my other daughter all the time, first thing in the morning and last thing every night and so much in between. It helps me to work out at the gym. Many years ago Tiffany and I use to go to the gym together, we loved kickboxing. I know she would not want me to grieve so much for her and to move on. For the past month I have been feeling better mentally and physically.0
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I have gained weight and can not seem to stop eating. I am 54 years old, feel tired all the time, my body hurts and I do not move as well as I would like. My son died earlier this year. He was only 20 years old. After he died, I turned almost immediately to food. Today is May 1st. I have hope and want my health back. I do not want to honor the memory of my son by wallowing in depression and food. I want to regain a healthy weight so I can live my best life.
I miss my baby boy so much.0