This kind of mentality kept me smoking for years longer than I should have. I would quit smoking then flub up and smoke one after two weeks and then go buy a carton. Once I learned to climb right back on the wagon after falling off, I finally made it stick. I haven't had a cigarette in four years now.

I think that the best thing you can do is realize that all is not lost. Don't weigh yourself tomorrow, just carry on as before and weigh yourself in a week or so. You are okay, I promise.

It's weird how we take "control" by losing control. I can relate to that feeling of standing in a grocery store line up, going out of my way to buy food that I know I'm going to eat all at once. It's tough, but remember that it's only working against your happiness. Try to find some different outlets.

Grab a book and go to a coffee shop to unwind, go for a walk and bring a long some music, go visit a friend, have a bath, write your thoughts down and rip them up. Sometimes it's tough to figure out what you need instead, I definitely tend to find more success in doing something to distract me if I know my emotions are based on something I can't control (such as stubborn husbands).

Just remember you are worth it, and if you do fall back on old habits - remember every moment is a fresh start. Drink some herbal tea tonight to help both calm you, and help you wake up not feeling the after-effects of over eating. I also recommend for moments where stress gets the best of you, a supplement called L-theanine. I used to use it for mild anxiety, and I found it helped me calm down enough to be rational about my decisions. It's essentially just a calming ingredient found in tea.

I'm sorry your husband was being stubborn. If you can, open up to him about how you're trying to cope with things differently. Even if his feelings are valid, perhaps you can help each other cope when problems arise.

Keep positive!

Great post and awesome responses! It's so amazing that you were able to identify what feelings were going on during this binge, that's so important. It's important because the next time they come up I can do something different, and there were several great suggestions already on this thread from folks. The good news is, one slip with a binge, even if it was a whole package of licorice and chips, isn't going to add weight on. I didn't to the weight I'm at by one binge episode. I got here by dealing with all my emotional moments with a binge over several years.

I loved the comment about quitting smoking. That's totally my mentality. "Oh crap, I messed up and didn't do this right, so now I'm bad and must punish myself with even more badness! You bad baddy bad bad!" Then I'd usually binge for about six months, pack on another 5-10 lbs, and feel even worse about myself.

I've had a few binge episodes this go around. This time, instead of throwing in the towel and going right off the deep end, I'm taking a deep breath, realizing I can't undo all the work I've done so far by one binge, and getting back on track immediately. Having other people who understand, that I can talk to when I'm feeling triggered for a binge or in the aftermath of a binge has made all the difference this time. So far, the few binges I've had, had only lasted one "meal." They haven't been all day affairs, and haven't been back to back either. They have been several weeks apart, and the ones I've caught at the trigger stage, before they turned into food, waaaaay out number the actual binges.

Accepting I'm not going to do this perfectly has been so important to me. You original post talked about your husband not being supportive or saying something mean that made you sad, I've had to start paying attention to how I'm talking to myself and treating myself. Once I can treat me how I want others to treat me, then, I think, I'll be much more firm in my stance when dealing with others. I can't really expect others to treat me in manner I'm not willing to treat me, so start being more gentle and understanding with yourself first.

Great advice. Just don't give up!!!!

After I have done something like this, I pick myself up, dust myself off and carry on because I am human and will have bad days and days where I will binge but I am not those days I am more than that. In the past I would allow it to derail me but this time I am accepting that I am a frail human who will have bad days and one bad day is not the end of things it is just a minor speed bump in life.

A great website that I have been using to help me through the difficult times is...

http://pockethungercoach.com/

See if it helps Its a small step but does make you think about why you want to binge eat at that moment