Anyone dealing with crazy family stress?
Pinkranger626
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So my wedding is in 30 days. I should be over the moon excited, but instead I am just stressed and upset and anxious thanks to a bunch of family members (both sides) that are making my wedding all about them. From seating arrangement drama (which is ironic because I haven't even done the seating chart yet and they're already complaining), to bridesmaids drastically changing hairstyles, to guests inviting extra guests.
I spent a good amoutn of the week upset and crying off and on. As of today I have picked myself up off the floor and decided that I'm not going to play nice anymore since no one else seems to care that they're hurting my feelings and upsetting me. I will enjoy my day and I will not allow their selfishness ruin my days leading up to it either.
Anyone else dealing with this stuff?
I spent a good amoutn of the week upset and crying off and on. As of today I have picked myself up off the floor and decided that I'm not going to play nice anymore since no one else seems to care that they're hurting my feelings and upsetting me. I will enjoy my day and I will not allow their selfishness ruin my days leading up to it either.
Anyone else dealing with this stuff?
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I'm so sorry to hear it's getting so crazy!
I just started, we haven't even picked a venue yet, but already I can feel my temper starting to creep in the wrong direction with one family member. I'm just trying to keep everything under control, but I don't really know how to put my foot down should things get out of control. I'm just hoping it magically doesn't get any worse.0 -
I know for me, the biggest help has been that my fiance is on my side. He's actually called people on his side to yell at them for upsetting me. For some reason when it comes to weddings people really change. Stand your ground if its something that you really care about! If you make a change on something to make someone else happy then you're not happy and the whole point of the wedding is to have it be the way that you and your fiance want things.0
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I hear you on the guests inviting guests. A surprising amount of people have assumed they have a plus one for some reason. It's driving me nuts....0
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I hear you on the guests inviting guests. A surprising amount of people have assumed they have a plus one for some reason. It's driving me nuts....
I can't believe that really happens. That seems so insane! It's like the epitome of rudeness!!!0 -
I hear you on the guests inviting guests. A surprising amount of people have assumed they have a plus one for some reason. It's driving me nuts....
I can't believe that really happens. That seems so insane! It's like the epitome of rudeness!!!
I'm shocked too. Never expected it but it's been happening a lot. It's hard to tell people that just because they are dating someone doesn't mean they automatically can brings that person.0 -
Here is a great RSVP card-
http://imgur.com/XQBWcLD
My favorite option is "Can't wait to hook up with a groomsman in the men's room then spend the rest of the wedding crying at the bar without explanation"0 -
Also, when I first got engaged, my friend Sara told me- You'll be amazed what other people want you to do for them on your wedding day.
She captured it right there. It's supposed to be YOUR wedding right? So why does everyone else ask you to accommodate their crazy? I've been pretty lucky so far, nothing nuts from my family, but a few strange requests have come my way and I think... wait, why are you asking me to do this?0 -
This made me giggle- not because it was funny, but because it describes what I have been going through recently... to a T.
Yeah, my family has its fair share of crazy. Between me working full time, maintaining my home, saving up for my wedding/honeymoon (in Dec for wedding, next May for honeymoon), working out, normal family/friend obligations, bridesmaid drama, fiance's crazy work schedule and actually doing things for the wedding (making decorations, invitations, etc), I'm just about going nuts now... 6 months out!!!
My mom in particular has been a real treat. When my fiance and I announced our engagement, she basically disowned me and told me not to contact her. Then she called me a month later in tears to ask why I hadn't called her. Things have since gotten better, but both of my parents are basically ignoring the fact I'm getting married. In fact, I've been engaged for 18 months and I think I can count on one hand the number of times they've even MENTIONED the wedding, let alone offered any help. But- they're very quick to mention family obligations that I blow because I don't have enough time. Needless to say, they're not helping at all financially, so that makes things even harder. Ugh.
Add in the fact my cousin has become a trainwreck and there's the drama of whether or not to invite her or not, etc, etc, etc.
I certainly hope I don't have the guests inviting guests thing... If I do, this'll be me in a month or two:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-JrAjDGLco3M/URJGOVnW6hI/AAAAAAAACO4/jgeaDdrNGfA/s1600/Bridezilla+scary+bride+crazy+bride.jpg
Keep sane (and breathe), everyone!0 -
It really is amazing how selfish people are! It just blows my mind, how on a regular day anyone would even think to ask some of these things from someone, but as it's your special day can you please make these accomodations because otherwise I'm not coming.... fine, then don't come!!
Three weeks out, and I can't wait until the drama is over, it's not been very fun to plan any of this in the least. I'm just hoping that I have a good time at my own wedding after all this.0 -
I've encountered my fair share of drama (most of it is only vaguely relating to the wedding, but it still really hurts), but my fiance keeps telling me one thing... As long as he's there at the wedding, and we're getting married, it'll be the best day ever (no matter what goes wrong, and something will go wrong).
Stay strong, beautiful brides, even if the day of is stressful, you're still marrying the love of your life! 0
