thanks bookworm. This emotional stuff can get you, working on it, not perfect but better.

talking with son again, we had a cookout with a friend of mine that makes great money and has a great house. I told my son her house was wonderful and he begins to criticize me saying Well I guess you told them how great their house was and house expensive it was about a hundred times. He said like you do me and my sister. Well my adult children are very materialistic but make great money and I am happy for them. I have told them this is great, Wow, what a house.

I have never made or seen that kind of money. I have always made an ok income and have an ok house. But I mean it to be complimentary when I comment this house is great! Why is he offended, I guess he thinks that I think that he spends too much money or something, who knows.

I tried to explain that I think it is great and don't know where he is coming from. He doesn't respond. But for some reason it irks him and it irks me that he sees something that I don't even mean. I haven't figured out how to handle this kind of stuff, usually eat. I guess he just shocks me. I guess some people take you the wrong way, I guess it is their problem if they do! I will repeat this to myself. If someone wants to tell me I have a great car,house,weight loss,husband, bring it on. I love compliments, geez!

Do ya have people like this in your life that seem to be on another wave length or something. Have no idea where they are coming from? Maybe it is because he spends every bit of money he has and is broke and feels guilty for having such a nice house, who knows?

thanks bookworm, I think your coworkers are making snide remarks or are jealous. My gosh you are taking your husband to the VA not frockling around at the lake or beach! Maybe my son is jealous of us because we are not in debt.

Oh I just told him how I felt, he says oh I am just joking, you just speak your mind. Well it isn't doing any good, he doesn't get it, but it makes me feel better.

Thanks bookworm, I like it when you said his attitude. I asked him why he had such an attitude with me, couldn't think of that word! Gosh I hate confrontation, no wonder I had rather eat.

bookworm, what a great visual! Stepping on my feet, yep you would push them off or say get off. That is very helpful. I am a pushover and spoiled my kids too much, they feel very entitled. I think this eating stuff at least with me is a lot more to it than just it taste good. I hate to be so vulnerable and put this personal stuff out there but I only have 2 friends from the gym on here, everyone else is strangers but gosh sometimes we need help and someone to lean on. I am sure this will help me with my weight problem.

Yep, I just got back from a walk. Working on taking care of myself. Thanks again, very helpful.

Oh my, it has been a confrontation week. Realizing I eat a lot rather than deal. Neighbor brought over an air conditioner to use until our central air got fixed. I went out and bought a small 5000 btu $109 from Walmart to carry us over I returned his to him. . He then proceeded to run my life, telling me to buy 2, go to Lowes, and when I bought one, then he insisted I put his in the bedroom. I said No thanks, I bought what I wanted and I just want 1.

Geez, I am learning to say No a lot with pushy people and not worry if they get mad (well not so much any more). My MIL use to be pushy like this but I liked her but you had to stand your ground a lot. I use to would have kept his air conditioner and put it in the bedroom just to keep peace but now I am beginning to think of myself. I have lost weight and feel better about myself.