Ask her not to buy goldfish because it sabotages your weight loss. I am sure she will understand.

Please take the following in the spirit in which it is offered - love, hope for complete health, and mutual support:

You need to practice saying no to goldfish, especially if you are capable of downing a bag at a time. This sounds like compulsive behavior, and you should consider seeing a specialist who can help you deal with these challenges. I know that there are certain foods I just can't eat, because I can't eat just one serving.

A 6.6 oz bag of goldfish crackers is 7 servings of 55 crackers, totalling 1050 calories, 133 grams of carbs, 42 grams of fat, 21 grams of protein for the entire bag. Post-VSG that is my entire day's worth of calories, three times as much carbs as I want to eat, and only a third of my minimum daily protein goal. Not a good nutritional investment.

One serving of dark chocolate kisses is 9 kisses, totalling 190 calories, 25 grams of carbs. Not the best food that you can eat, but not horrible if you can get in the rest of your macros and stay under your daily goals. If your mom spreads out 8 kisses (less than 1 full serving size) over the entire day, gets enough protein and liquid from other sources, and manages to lose weight, she is probably doing okay.

If you could eat 1 serving of goldfish spread throughout the entire day, it would also probably be okay.

You should make sure to journal exactly what you eat. If you do that, you know exactly how bad a bag of goldfish is for you. There can be no mistaking it.

It is up to you to make good choices, put yourself in healthy surroundings, talk to your supporters honestly, and seek help where needed!!

Good luck!!

I'm really sorry your mum is not the most supportive role model for you right now. I myself and almost 4 month post-op VSG, and I've learned so much about nutrition and food during this phase. You know, we tell ourselves (at least I did), okay, just 1 more spoon or 1 delicious Ghiradelli coconut chocolate egg w/ ONLY 6 g carbs - that won't hurt anyone. Unfortunately, most of us who've had to take extreme measures like WLS can't do just one spoon, and it's not entirely our fault. There's a neurochemical response that we don't see that ensures the dopamine flow associated w/ food consumption is not cleared as easily. It's best to stay away from theses food all together and politely tell your mum she's not doing you or herself a favour by doing purchasing these goods.

So I've kinda progressed to a point where I shun a majority of packaged food because they are designed for maximum shelf life (which means they are likely higher in preservatives, salt and sugar being primary; and refined - fiber is removed), thus maximising food industry profit at the expense of my health. I'm not saying that moving down this path is the right life style for everyone, but looking at most packaged food in a different light may help you resist these foods, because you will encounter Goldfish w/o your mum.

A "trick" my nutritionist shared with me is to have a healthy snack, such as raw nuts. Wait 20 mins after I've enjoyed my snack. If I'm still craving Cheetos (my weakness, of which I've been clean for 3 weeks), go ahead and have a serving. What I reported back is that it just doesn't taste as good. She responded "bingo". After my healthy snack, my craving is curbed... kinda like that steak tastes so amazing when you're really hungry and kinda "meh" if you're not so hungry.

Try to stay on track and pull your mum back on with you!

Glad you managed to work it out and are back on track :drinker:

Sounds like you've worked out a great plan. I am trying to set myself up for success by saying I don't want to put food in my mouth that is not contributing to health. The only craving I've felt since surgery are for those freaking little mini cupcakes with buttercream icing. I swear, they are my downfall! I used to buy a 12 pack and eat them all and hide the package from my teen boys so they wouldn't know. Last night in the car they made a comment about them and how they knew I was eating the whole package. They are by the front door at the grocery store and they are always on display with streamers and big colorful signs.... UGH!

I talked with my nutritionist about it and I told her there would be nothing that I could substitute that would give me the cupcake fix -- I would only eat ones with yellow cake and buttercream (no chocolate) -- and if it wasn't exactly that, it wouldn't solve that craving.

So, for me, I've just decided those have to be on my NEVER list because I know I can't stop at one and they are NOT going to help me lose weight and gain health.

Sometimes we just have to say "NO"!