In my experience, I did move for love too. You and I gave up a whole lot (leaving the Bay Area) to come to the EU. I have felt home sick on and off since I got home from Easter. But, before I even got to Sweden, I knew at the time that moving there would be best for the both of us. If my fiance (unemployed and unfinished edu) came back to Cali with me, we'd be living at my parents place and he'd have no universal insurance, no job, and have to pay for school. With what money we thought? No money. In my perspective, CA is outsourcing physicists from India and China. I'd have no future in CA because I'd be competing with peers that would take "slavery" to get a green card into the promise land. I can't afford insurance now that I'm 25 in CA. I've been trying to be independent of my parents because they shouldn't have to pay for my school, room, and board. It's just not friggin' possible. I'm not good with juggling school and work back there. So, I weighed my decision. I remind my fiance when it's necessary. I gave up what was the Holy Land of what Sweden lacks completely, however, It was worth it. My future was worth it. My mom doesn't see it, because she was a immigrant to CA herself except against her will. She will always tell me "I told you so" every time I say I miss this or that, but, my financial situation and career depends that I live here (besides love of course). Maybe one day she'll understand that if CA was better for her future as told by my grandmother; Sweden is better for mine.

Aside from what I came to Sweden for, I have no common parental ground with you. We are childfree. But, I come from a very torn family; two generations of divorces on each side including my uncles on my father's side. I have my brother; and cousins who experienced divorce and my god, it affects them. Our parent's divorce still affects us. My fiance also comes from a divorce family. If you can't stay in Germany for you or your husband, stay in Germany for your kids. Do it for them. Your kids are your miracles. Raise them as best as you can. Give them a complete family and when that age comes, maybe they'll want to go home with you. If you have family in L.A, maybe foreign exchange in high school may be an option. Don't give up. Play with the hand that was given to you and make the best out of it during the time being. Do it for them. That's my advice.

Good luck. Stay safe.

-lg

I understand. It's not easy. I didn't finish my B.S degree in Physics when I moved. I am basically right now sitting on my *kitten* taking random course and self studying Swedish so I can get back to finishing my degree. I know it's my fault for leaving early, but I wouldn't of had it any other way. I didn't really want to go to S.F State. (I gave up intercollegiate sports for that. /rant) Anyway, I am also unmarketable because my Swedish is insufficient and the market is *kitten* backwards and they'd rather take able Swedes than foreigners (can't even get a job doin' dishes). The next best thing is education.

Are you a German citizen?
Yes? Fantastic. That also means you're an EU citizen.
What does this mean?
If you can apply for colleges in Germany, there are foreign exchange programs and English programs available to you. This also means that if you wish to relocate within the EU; say the U.K; you can do it with ease.

Try googling how the college system works in Germany. (use google translate if you have to!) Apply if you can and start taking classes ASAP if programs aren't available to you in English. If you have to, study you *kitten* of in German, because knowing the EU, I think you'll find a hell of a lot more programs to apply for than any UC, CSU, or CCC could EVER offer. With EU education, it means total fluidity on equivalence in qualifications. After you're done with edu, you can go anywhere easy within the 22 states. I don't know how Germany does their edu thing, but if you're lucky, education is free for German citizens.

I understand your frustration. I get similar reactions for speaking English in a small town. I hope living close to Stockholm will change that, but I'm not crossing my fingers for a naturally xenophobic country. I will take whatever I get while on my journey here. If my final destination is in Switzerland, then so damn be it.

I am going to do some research for you, cause I am interested in finding out as well. I will update this post with links to help you.

Edit:
Wikipedia has some info about applications and equivalent certs outside the German state. Look under "application for german universities."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Education_in_Germany

I found the site responsible for applications within the German state. I believe it works the same way as the Swedish site works. You apply and then you have access to a list of course from universities all over the country. However, since you had edu in the U.S you have to get your transcripts sent over to the admissions offices here. Then, if you qualify, you can apply for courses, otherwise, you may have to test.
http://www.hochschulstart.de/index.php?id=3348&L=1
http://www.hochschulstart.de/fileadmin/downloads/DoSV/WiSe_14_2015/SfH_Flyer_en_Bew_WiSe2014_15.pdf

This German site is a directory for classes, programs and such. Use it to find what you want.
http://www.studienwahl.de/en/index.htm

I also found that students have access to financial aid. Maybe you can qualify.
http://www.bafoeg.bmbf.de/

I'm not sure. I'll look into it.