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ireallyneedit
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I have never been the type of person who shares my feelings a lot. I keep things inside but here I feel I can share what I feel and will not be judged etc. I have always been in control with a huge job.....husband away and in charge of the girls....etc. etc. etc. I am very confident and get along in life well.....lots of friends etc. Since retiring gave up a lot of that....husband now does finances and controls more...left my home town and friends an although feel good cause we are helping single Mom and 12 yr. old I have lost something in the meantime............doing ok with all that but....................now although have been border line diabetic or yrs. always under control...bp also etc....colestrol...........now I am diagnosed with diabetics cause they changed the ranges and now although bp ok normally not for diabetics and same with colestrol..............yikes I feel so out of control.............I am going on colestrol meds although I do not think I should I guess it is for prevention...........I go to the States and medical insurance will surely be affected a lot.........I am ranting I know but really and truly I do things right for the most part and feel cause of the changes I have to adhere but not in control...................ANY THOUGHTS ANYBODY GOING THROUGH THE SAME.....LIKE I AM NOT HIGH IN SUGAR FOR THOSE WHO KNOW LIKE JUST OVER 7...COLOSTROL GOOD.....BP IN THE HIGH RANGE BUT NOTHING OVER....NOW CAUSE OF DIABETICS DIAGNOSIS EVERYTHING HAS TO BE LOWER??????????????? HELO
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I do understand what you are feeling - as I get older I feel I have lost control of so much....it is a very hard adjustment to make. When I get too down and too depressed I really REALLY try to find something in my life that I do have control of and focus on that... I tell myself things can get worse... are are worse for others.... try to enjoy 'this minute'.... (that is what I tell myself).... wish I had more to share - feel free to email me if you like - we can vent to each other.
Just remember we are ALL here for you anytime....and we will not judge, cause we are all going thru the same things!
((hugs)) :flowerforyou:
Pam0 -
Ireally need it,
You have a lot on your plate to deal with right now. Just keep doing the best that you can. You have had a lot of changes all at once. You are taking care of others, which is admirable but make sure you take the time to take care of yourself. You are important.
Happy Trails,
Claudine0 -
Linda,
Being diagnosed with diabetes is such hard blow. I was diagnosed right after I had a surgery several years ago. It is not the end of the world, however I can understand why that huge word can change everything. Now you have to deal with Metabolic Syndrome -- which, as you know is the addition of those other things in addition to the diabetes. Losing weight is one thing you can do to help yourself. Learning how to deal with stress is another way. Will you be on Medicare when you come back to the states? I am on Disability Medicare and my husband is on regular Medicare. Both of us have diabetes and we have insurance coverage. Learn to share your feelings -- if not in person to your friends, but to us. This is a safe place to let it all out. I just read an article in Woman's World (September 8, 2004) about Metabolic Syndrome that may have some good ideas for you. I have no idea if they are good ideas or not, but it was weird that I just happen to open that magazine to that article right after I read your plea for "Help".
Lyndal0 -
Hi Linda,
You have been through a LOT of changes and congratulations on handling that well. I do not know by personal experience about having diabetes but I do know how a medical diagnosis can send one reeling as yet something else we cannot control. Please correct me if I misjudge what you are saying but I think you may be feeling that things have spiraled out of control right now. I find it helps me at these times to look at what I CAN control. You are already doing that by 1. Writing down how you feel to clarify things and 2. Being on MFP which allows a few things you can control..... especially how much you eat and how much you move. (within the constraints of your diabetic diet). Keep it up and it will get easier.
Wanda0 -
Thanks so much for your message. I am feeling better already - the rant did help and I plan to share my feelings more. MYP is an excellent way to do that and it is true no judgements just helpful messages and inspirations thanks. My hubby and I decided to go on a mini vac. and it is nice walked like 3 hours today and pool exercises for an hr. Nice casino and room etc. Also going to my home town next week and seeing friends etc. will be great but no ability to use a computer so I will be off the grid here but will eat well and log manually. I am staying at friends and we make healthy meals together so all will be well in that regard.
The best to all of you and thanks so much. Have a great long weekend. Linda0 -
When I first was diagnosed with with heart failure, my heart function was extremely low. I was told not to lift, walk far, no stairs, no exercise, but had to learn how to handle stress with a difficult boss and learn how to relax more, and basically learn how to say, "I can't do it all and I'm done working 7 days a week. I had to always have my cellphone on my body in case i felt lightheaded. Heck even dealing with all the doctors, insurance, etc. was stressful. It may seem like the opposite of your feelings but it wasn't. Everything that I was accustomed to, I had to change. I was told over and over that my health was extremely fragile at that time. And it was critical that I do so. My heart was in control of my life, not me. It sent me into a depression. Frankly, I went to a counselor. It wasn't the first time in my life and may not be the last. I'm a firm believer in talking things out with a professional, non-biased 3rd party. The average number of visits to counseling is only 6. They have a way of helping you understand what needs to be done to adjust to a situation and the steps to take to do it. :flowerforyou:0
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I can only reiterate everything that Charlie said. So often we think we can fix everything on our own but counseling puts things in perspective. There is no judgement. It helps you sort out your feelings and gives you guidance on how to handle the stresses that come along. A counselor won't necessarily agree or disagree with what you are doing but will definitely help you to better look at what you are dealing with. He or she is an unbiased 3rd party.
Claudine0
