I think it would take a lot to reach a point where it was a serious problem. It also very much depends on the guy. The important thing is to take care of yourself and be healthy! Weight and appearance matter in that they're related to your physical and mental well-being. As long as you're happy and healthy, your partner will probably be happy with you! Also, one doesn't balloon up over night, so I'm sure if he had a problem with it, there would be a lot of time to discuss it before it got to a very serious point.

Physical attraction is definitely an important part of a relationship, but not to the point of superficiality! Someone shouldn't scold their partner over a couple extra pounds, but if they have serious concerns about their health then it should be discussed. Communication is key!

You should read the book "His Needs, Her Needs," which is about how to affair proof your marriage. It tells about the top ten things most men need and the top ten things most women need. For men, sex is, of course #1 on the hit parade. Also on the top ten are a recreational playmate and . . . for his mate to remain in basically the same shape as when he met her. The man who wrote the book is a marriage counselor (or something like that), and he tells about an obese young woman who decided she wanted to get married. She lost 100 lbs. and started working out at the gym. I'm pretty sure she met her husband at the gym. They worked out together, got married, etc. Once they were married, she figured she'd landed him and didn't need to work out or continue to eat healthily. She gained back all the weight she had lost. The husband was astounded. He'd never seen her when she was obese, so he felt as though he'd been scammed. The wife felt that he should love her unconditionally, no matter how much she weighed. She refused to lose weight, and the marriage failed.

The thing is, though, you should want to stay at a healthy weight for yourself more than for anyone else. I want to be attractive to my husband, but I also want to remain free from the joint pain that comes with being overweight, I want to be able to hike mountains, I want to fit into my motorcycle leathers, I want to be healthy, AND I want to wear cute clothes. (The last reason is really shallow, but really, cute clothes make it way easier to want to go to work in the mornings.)

BTW, the book is dead on when it comes to my husband. It's also pretty dead on when it comes to my needs, too.

. As they say, never stop dating your spouse!

I think that's the most important advice of all. It's hard to do when so many "life" things are pulling at us, but it is essential.

You should read the book "His Needs, Her Needs," which is about how to affair proof your marriage. It tells about the top ten things most men need and the top ten things most women need.

Great book!!! And, yes, I think it's really important to take care of yourself throughout your marriage.... I've been married for over a decade & my hubby and I are both serious about healthy eating and exercise. He's not letting himself go, and I'm not either. It's important to both of us.... But, there are some men who care more about appearances than others.... For instance, my hubby really doesn't care if I cut off my hair & sport a pixie cut. He doesn't care if I wear my gym clothes all day long. But, there are some men who put a lot of stock into their woman's appearance (hair, clothes, etc). Still.... Despite hair/ make-up/ clothes, your good health is VASTLY important! It's important to YOU - not just your man. So, do it for you.... and, he'll benefit in the process.

I'm on board for trying to look good and stay in shape but we do deserve unconditional love and so do the husbands. After 15 years of marriage I guarantee that your husband will see a lot grosser things than a few fat rolls. There's stomach viruses, walking in on each other accidently in the bathroom, omg CHILDBIRTH, my husband watched my c- section he seen them lay my guts up on my stomach. If you make it a long time in a marriage then the visuals won't matter as much.

I think attractiveness matters as well. Though, you can't expect your spouse to look like a fitness model - unless their job is revolved around fitness, and even then, every body is different. After my husband and I were married, we didn't put on much weight like everyone says, just about 10-15lb each. Though, we did also move to another country. I am a stay-at-home wife, which many may label as someone overweight and lazy, and, being a military wife, there is that label too. Sarahjane135 is right, there is far worse (illness, 'woman time', and childbirth among many others) things to worry about with your spouse than a little chunk!

My husband and I have talked about letting ourselves go, in our later years. I want him to be attracted to me, just like I am attracted to him and along with that mindset, as well as his workout schedule, I find motivation to eat better and do some sort of workout. You need a HEALTHY body and if you feel good about yourselves, you'll feel better about your relationship, I'd say!

I just got married three months ago, and I'm terrified of becoming a "fat wife." My mom and many of my siblings are overweight, and that is not a road I want to go down. My weight has fluctuated my entire life...at one point, I was anorexic, lost almost 60 pounds, wore a size 0 and only weighed about 110 pounds, which is not good for me because I'm 5'7 and my "healthy weight" is higher than that. I beat anorexia, but now I'm trying to lose weight without getting caught up in that again. I've gained 5-10 pounds since we've gotten married, and I hate it. My husband says he doesn't care and he thinks I'm beautiful, but it bothers me. I also have a major sweet tooth, so when we're out shopping I try to keep him from buying things that will be a temptation for me, but he's still constantly bringing unhealthy food home but then he doesn't even eat it, I do! Any advice? I can't get him to eat any vegetables, either.

And I feel like I mostly carry the weight pretty well; I have a big butt and big boobs so that's where a lot of it is, but my arms are getting flabby and you can start to see the extra fat on my stomach

I gained close to 50lbs during my pregnancy. I was restricted from dieting and exercising(due to spinal cord problems) till my baby was 6 months old. I was 160lbs when my baby was 6 months. But my hubby was constantly confirming that i was looking good and the weight will go off by itself once i reduced breastfeeding (i.e in another couple of years). But my mom made me realize that i have to lose weight and people are criticizing me on my back.

I waged a bet that i'll reduce my weight before my son's 1st birthday and now 2 months to his birthday, i haven't reached the goal but i am close to it at 138-140lbs. Recently, a relative saw me after 4 months gap and she was talking about how i loosed so much weight in few months in front of my hubby and another stranger walked up to me and told that i looked pretty. Back to home, my husband was so happy and was enacting the praises

He then told me , that people criticized my weight to him also, stating that my mom was
much lighter that me! He didn't tell that to me then because i would be hurt.

Husbands who love, will love you no matter what. But becoming healthy and slim, is in turn a reward from us to the loving husband!