Nervous and Excited at the same time

Hildabean
Hildabean Posts: 71 Member
edited November 9 in Social Groups
I received my surgery date of February 2nd. I am so worried that I am making the right decision until I go to bed and have to use the CPAP machine. Or I move with my bad hip, Or just moving in general. I know this is going to be a major lifestyle change I just hope I don't fail. This is my last hope. Please give me positive words and encouragement but plz do not sugar coat. I need to know what really goes on. Thx!!! God Bless

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  • maries31964
    maries31964 Posts: 15 Member
    What surgery are you having? I had RNY on Jan 24, 2005. I will never sugar coat anything for any questions you might have. I was 317 the day I laid on the table, knees grinding, lower back hurting, sleep apnea, extremely high blood pressure. I was scared, but I knew I wouldn't be around to see grandchildren or at the very least be with a walker or cane or worse if I didnt go through with it. I had dieted my life away up to 317 so my metablolism was shot. The first part of your journey will be what we all call the "honeymoon stage". You will drop weight fast I lost over 100 the first year. I reached goal 155 not quiet halfway thru the second year. I felt great on top of the world! I did end up with anemia and was put on meds and needed a blood transfusion before having my hysterectomey the first year. But I was on meds a short time and learned take vitamens with iron. I kept my weight off and was fairly healthy for the first 5 years. I went thru a nasty divorce and stress and with that bad habits returned, slider foods. I started getting sick off and on. Not feeling right. And then I would eat carbs and then feel good. I didn't realize it but I was developing another known issue "Reactive Hypoglycemia" it goes by other names too but this is the most popular. By time I was diagnosed by a Endocrinologist that was familiar with bypass patients I was full blown by A1C was a 5.8 just 2 shy of diabetes!!! I also gained 54 pounds!! That was June 2009. I have since had many many episodes of confusion, white flashing lights in front of my eyes, passing out while I learned all over again what I could and could not eat. That same year, all I drank was coffee and got severely dehydrated, my intestines collapsed and I was in the hospital for 4 days and narrowly avoided surgery to remove the collapsed piece! NEVER EVER DID THAT AGAIN I DRINK WATER LOTS OF WATER AND LAY OFF THE CAFFIENE NOW! I have lost 6 pounds in over 2 years. But I took a kick in the self esteem, became a carb addict all over again. Like they say your body is fixed, but your head isn't. Any and all addictions and issues you had before will be with you on the other side of weight loss. I am finally doing better and doing the 5DPT and have a good support group. Now the real work begins to get the last 48 off. I have learned NO carbs except HEALTHY WHOLE GRAINS and even then limited. I am back to basics measuring my foods and following the rules you will have for life. I take 2 Chewable Flinstone complete with iron, B12 Complex Liquid, 2 Chewable Fish Oil, 2 Chewable Calcium Citrate, 1 10,000 mcg chewable Biotin EVERYDAY without fail and my blood work has been PERFECT! Would I do this surgery again??? In a heartbeat without a shadow of a doubt! Would I change anything? YES YES YES! 1. I would never have touched soda 2. I would have drank water to the tune of 8 or more glasses every day like I do now 3. I would of never went off my plan and never touched bad carbs and slider foods. 4. I would never touch caffiene 5. I would have stayed with my support systems. There are LOTS OF US out there with weight gain, all around the 5 year mark, but if you listen and do exactly what you are told and even once at goal DO NOT EVER FORGET your healthy eating habits and realize that it is hard work to stay at goal you will make it for life. It will be the best thing you ever did and you will never regret it. PROTEIN FIRST, VITAMENS, WATER, NO SLIDER FOODS, NO SODA, NO CAFFIENE, SOME FORM OF EXERCISE and you will be great! I am here feel free to friend me, ask me anything at all. And a nother good source of support. . . .FaceBook LivingwithWLS Project 2014, she is starting the new 2015 Livingwith WLS Neighborhood her name is Kaye Bailey she has two books out there and the people there are great! They are at all stages of the journey. Hope to see you there!
  • loriloftness
    loriloftness Posts: 476 Member
    I had VSG on 11/19, so I am a newbee. I will tell you that in the month/weeks going up to surgery I often thought, "what the h*ll am I thinking?" I wondered if I could do this, if I should do this, if I was making a mistake. But, along with the body aches, I had sleep apnea, high BP and pre-diabetes. I sat myself down and make myself contemplate whether I could lose the weight and reverse these medical conditions without having the surgery. My honest answer was NO. Further, I was not willing to go any farther in my life (I'm 54) with these medical conditions that were bound to get worse, not better. So, I had the surgery. I will say that even at 6 weeks out, I can already tell that there is a much bigger "mind" component than the "physical" one. I could let myself fall back into grazing all day, or choosing nutrient deficient foods (you know, like cookies & candy) instead of healthy choices. I think all of us have a gremlin in our head that tells us we can't do it, and will fail. Don't let your gremlin talk you out of something. If you don't think the surgery is right for you, make sure it's for the right reasons, not because of fear.
  • Hildabean
    Hildabean Posts: 71 Member
    What surgery are you having? I had RNY on Jan 24, 2005. I will never sugar coat anything for any questions you might have. I was 317 the day I laid on the table, knees grinding, lower back hurting, sleep apnea, extremely high blood pressure. I was scared, but I knew I wouldn't be around to see grandchildren or at the very least be with a walker or cane or worse if I didnt go through with it. I had dieted my life away up to 317 so my metablolism was shot. The first part of your journey will be what we all call the "honeymoon stage". You will drop weight fast I lost over 100 the first year. I reached goal 155 not quiet halfway thru the second year. I felt great on top of the world! I did end up with anemia and was put on meds and needed a blood transfusion before having my hysterectomey the first year. But I was on meds a short time and learned take vitamens with iron. I kept my weight off and was fairly healthy for the first 5 years. I went thru a nasty divorce and stress and with that bad habits returned, slider foods. I started getting sick off and on. Not feeling right. And then I would eat carbs and then feel good. I didn't realize it but I was developing another known issue "Reactive Hypoglycemia" it goes by other names too but this is the most popular. By time I was diagnosed by a Endocrinologist that was familiar with bypass patients I was full blown by A1C was a 5.8 just 2 shy of diabetes!!! I also gained 54 pounds!! That was June 2009. I have since had many many episodes of confusion, white flashing lights in front of my eyes, passing out while I learned all over again what I could and could not eat. That same year, all I drank was coffee and got severely dehydrated, my intestines collapsed and I was in the hospital for 4 days and narrowly avoided surgery to remove the collapsed piece! NEVER EVER DID THAT AGAIN I DRINK WATER LOTS OF WATER AND LAY OFF THE CAFFIENE NOW! I have lost 6 pounds in over 2 years. But I took a kick in the self esteem, became a carb addict all over again. Like they say your body is fixed, but your head isn't. Any and all addictions and issues you had before will be with you on the other side of weight loss. I am finally doing better and doing the 5DPT and have a good support group. Now the real work begins to get the last 48 off. I have learned NO carbs except HEALTHY WHOLE GRAINS and even then limited. I am back to basics measuring my foods and following the rules you will have for life. I take 2 Chewable Flinstone complete with iron, B12 Complex Liquid, 2 Chewable Fish Oil, 2 Chewable Calcium Citrate, 1 10,000 mcg chewable Biotin EVERYDAY without fail and my blood work has been PERFECT! Would I do this surgery again??? In a heartbeat without a shadow of a doubt! Would I change anything? YES YES YES! 1. I would never have touched soda 2. I would have drank water to the tune of 8 or more glasses every day like I do now 3. I would of never went off my plan and never touched bad carbs and slider foods. 4. I would never touch caffiene 5. I would have stayed with my support systems. There are LOTS OF US out there with weight gain, all around the 5 year mark, but if you listen and do exactly what you are told and even once at goal DO NOT EVER FORGET your healthy eating habits and realize that it is hard work to stay at goal you will make it for life. It will be the best thing you ever did and you will never regret it. PROTEIN FIRST, VITAMENS, WATER, NO SLIDER FOODS, NO SODA, NO CAFFIENE, SOME FORM OF EXERCISE and you will be great! I am here feel free to friend me, ask me anything at all. And a nother good source of support. . . .FaceBook LivingwithWLS Project 2014, she is starting the new 2015 Livingwith WLS Neighborhood her name is Kaye Bailey she has two books out there and the people there are great! They are at all stages of the journey. Hope to see you there!

    Thanks so much for your honesty. I am having the RNY. Love the tips you have given. I tried l finding on facebook but couldn't. Feel free to friend me ( Rachelle Oberjohann Bolling ) on Facebook and if you can please add me to the groups. Thanks!!
  • Hildabean
    Hildabean Posts: 71 Member
    I had VSG on 11/19, so I am a newbee. I will tell you that in the month/weeks going up to surgery I often thought, "what the h*ll am I thinking?" I wondered if I could do this, if I should do this, if I was making a mistake. But, along with the body aches, I had sleep apnea, high BP and pre-diabetes. I sat myself down and make myself contemplate whether I could lose the weight and reverse these medical conditions without having the surgery. My honest answer was NO. Further, I was not willing to go any farther in my life (I'm 54) with these medical conditions that were bound to get worse, not better. So, I had the surgery. I will say that even at 6 weeks out, I can already tell that there is a much bigger "mind" component than the "physical" one. I could let myself fall back into grazing all day, or choosing nutrient deficient foods (you know, like cookies & candy) instead of healthy choices. I think all of us have a gremlin in our head that tells us we can't do it, and will fail. Don't let your gremlin talk you out of something. If you don't think the surgery is right for you, make sure it's for the right reasons, not because of fear.

    Thanks so much for you honesty. Much appreciated. I am having the RNY. I am afraid of my mind. I have Bipolar Disorder and Panic Disorder. So I am afraid what that is going to do with my challenges. Glad your surgery went well, and God Bless
  • ChaniGetsHealthy
    ChaniGetsHealthy Posts: 32 Member
    I too have Bipolar Disorder. Make sure that if you are on medication that your work with your doctor to make sure you can still take it after surgery. I will need to switch one of mine because it's an extended release and my surgeon told me that with RNY (which I will be having) it will be processed too fast in my body. I see my doctor in a few weeks and will be trying a new medication. I also see a therapist which helps manage my moods immensely. Good luck! Feel free to add me as a friend if you need additional support :)
  • Hildabean
    Hildabean Posts: 71 Member
    I too have Bipolar Disorder. Make sure that if you are on medication that your work with your doctor to make sure you can still take it after surgery. I will need to switch one of mine because it's an extended release and my surgeon told me that with RNY (which I will be having) it will be processed too fast in my body. I see my doctor in a few weeks and will be trying a new medication. I also see a therapist which helps manage my moods immensely. Good luck! Feel free to add me as a friend if you need additional support :)

    I am seeing my Bipolar doc on the 14th and we are going to have to talk about the meds. Hoping all will work out I have been on these for quite awhile. I am not seeing a therapist due to the one I was seeing was in a location that gave me a lot of anxiety. Hope to start back up shortly after surgery with someone closer to home.

    When is your surgery date?
  • grim_traveller
    grim_traveller Posts: 625 Member
    Best decision I ever made. No complicstions, no problems. Follow your plan to the letter, and you'll do fine.
  • garber6th
    garber6th Posts: 1,890 Member
    Best decision I ever made. No complications, no problems. Follow your plan to the letter, and you'll do fine.
    I second this!

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