This is a dilemma for me too. I try not to talk about dieting ad nauseum, but if we're planning something involving food I check the menu first to make sure there's something there that works for me (i'm eating vegan as a diet, not as an ethical/moral choice). If I feel I could make another suggestion, I'll do that, or I'll just eat before and then only get coffee. But when it's come up on first dates, I'm open about saying what I'm doing, just try not to harp on it. And those dates haven't led to anything more, so maybe it's because they're weirded out by it, or could be something else... so many possibilities as to why one date doesn't go to a second.

If I was meeting up with someone at a restaurant or something, I would get the name before hand (mostly since I would be meeting them there) and look up what their menu is. If I found that I couldn't eat anything there, I would let them know hey, I'm living this type of lifestyle and I can't really eat anything there. How about we go....and give a few suggestions for another place. That way you are upfront and honest about it from the start. Like someone said before, if for some reason they aren't good with that, then they are obviously not the right person for you.

Oh and as for the topic, it would not bother me if she had specific dietary needs as long as she doesn't push it on me. For an example, I could date a vegetarian, but I would not want to give up bacon. If she is cool with that, then awesome! I personally don't have any restrictions except for soda pop. I avoid that. I would work my calories to make sure I am still within my target goals by the end of the week.

We frequently discuss healthy lifestyle...in fact, we just got off the phone and along with the normal "how was your day dear" stuff and working out possible weather and child related and issues that have the potential to derail our weekend plans, we talked about what we did for exercise today and tossed around a couple of new ideas to shake our routines up a bit.

Of course, it may be different in our case because we already know each other and know that health is a high priority for both of us. We have different thoughts on some things but all in all, it helps to be open without making a big deal of it.

Lastly, I have found that in most cases I can find at least one item on the menu that is a good choice. If all else fails, I order a nice salad with grilled chicken.

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lacroyx wrote: »

Oooh, this reminds me of a dating site I read a online article about. It's premise is on eating. You match up based on having similar food likes. I will see if I can dig up the article later and post it here.

Considering where I live, I'd love to see that article please.

@Follow_me found the dating site, created a new then closed/deleted the topic, figured it would be better to just contiune the discussion here.

Couple of articles on the HiDine dating site. Some people slam it, others think it's a great idea.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2516983/Critics-slam-new-HiDine-dating-website-single-women-seeking-fancy-meals.html

http://uptownmagazine.com/2013/11/hidine-the-online-dating-site-that-eliminates-going-dutch/

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I'm a little more casual with what I eat. If I'm going out for a meal (I won't say date as they hadn't bend any.) I eat light the rest of that day unless I know what to expect.

But generally I'm happy to eat what I like but don't go silly. May mean a bit more strict for a day or so but not worth ruining a good night over.