Not sure I can do this
maoribadger
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This eating plan from the nutritionist is tying me in knots. I'm fed up and tired. I'm dealing with a huge mess my man child of a husband has created right now, my five yo is struggling with anxiety, my four yo seems set to defy me on everything in the world and have had to call my health visitor as I'm at end of my tether dealing with her meltdowns and THEN I'm trying somehow to slot in hitting my calories and protein goals. I can't deal with this plan anymore. My relationship with food is bad enough without feeling like I'm being told how to eat and can't deviate or I'm doing wrong. I'm not an athlete I'm an exhausted night shift nurse and I nearly burst into tears in a café today because I couldn't work out what to eat....so I ate chocolate...again. I've just imploded the last three days. I don't wanna go back to what I was doing g before but I need to change something bc this is making me stressed and miserable and im STILL NOT LOSING ANY FECKING WEIGHT.
My mate keeps telling me to hold out til I see her tomorrow but I'm ready to walk away
My mate keeps telling me to hold out til I see her tomorrow but I'm ready to walk away
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Okay, first of all, super duper huge hugs. My home situation right now is *kitten*, but in whole different ways than yours.
What you are doing isn't working. What you were doing isn't working. Have you ever considered looking into lowering your carbs at all? Once you start, it's easier than you think. I was hardcore on the bandwagon against this for decades!
If you want to do any research, check out the launchpad in the stickied post in this group. it gives options for all manner of doing low carb eating plans, including the scientific research proving this is a healthy way to eat when entered into correctly. There are websites for lifters doing this same plan, called Ketogains (I think there is one here and on Reddit...)
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/394-low-carber-daily-forum-the-lcd-group
I can share with you my personal experiences, but emotional eating is mostly gone. Stress eating is geared toward eating plan friendly. I don't struggle as much to find foods to eat. I have go to convenience items. I don't miss the foods I no longer eat because there are better options. My taste buds have changed.... My ENTIRE LIFE HAS CHANGED since 1/15/15...
I wish you nothing but success in whatever path you take from here!
HUGS,
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Thanks for the hugs and thanks for the thought but Keto isnt for me.
What I was doing before was working after a fashion, I never felt deprived because I could work food I enjoyed into my day and I was losing weight. Its simply that I wasnt eating enough for how much I train.
What I am doing now does make me feel better physically but its too restrictive, I am having to only eat certain things and I can feel myself getting stressed by how narrow I find it. I need to be somewhere in the middle I guess.
Dropping my cals to about 1800-1900 would still give me enough energy but its my protein. Shes got me trying for 40% at the moment and its ridiculous hard. Im thinking 30% is more doable and gives me wiggle room for things like lunch out or eating a treat here and there because I can have a few more carbs. At the moment I've reached the point where I've just rebelled against how restricted I feel and I am bingeing on complete rubbish and comfort eating which is a huge backwards step as I have tried so hard to break those habits.
As for the rest I am fairly sure I am just PMTing and its being exacerbated by my idiot husband and the kids pushing my buttons. If it transpires that is PMT thats cool (hard to tell as my meds mess with all that). If not and I keep bursting into tears over things like menu choices Im going to revisit the subject of my meds though Im hoping its the former as im 3 weeks on only one not two now0 -
Hugs. Wow, honey. Keto is restrictive, but low carb can be anything like 150-100 grams and under. Always something to check out... Some people can eat "treats" as you say it, but I can't. I know a number of people in our group enjoying great relief from their mental conditions on this way of eating, that's the only reason I thought of you.
If eating at your macros when they are reasonably set works for you, awesome. It just didnt' for me. Glad we're not too alike, that would make life boring.
I'm at a bad point, too, but for me, my way of eating is my comfort at this point, because I know what to do and it works for me. Everything else is freaking shambles, but... c'est la vie, right?
My guy is working my buttons, and this time of year is hard not being able to see my daughter. As for meds, I added a supplement that threw my whole cycles into a tizzy, and I'm just recovering, so I GET that...
Hugs, hugs, and hugs.
P.S. Sending up super good thoughts that you find a program or at least numbers that work better for you...and maybe once you get the lower level down, you can bump back up! Rebelling against the hell of your plan isn't good for anyone. More HUGS0 -
Thanks hon. I've already altered my cals down to 1885 so not super low and my macros to 40 carbs, 30 fat and 30 protein and am going to try again tomorrow. I did have a good PT session tonight which has improved my mood a little0
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Lise, sending you big HUGS and super good vibes that you get some relief in food, mate, children some time soon. I think this is just a week from Hell for all of us. I Too am going thru it, but just like Carly, for different reasons. Maybe it's the moon.
Please take care of you as you are the most important person in your equation.
Hugs,
Cari0 -
Thanks Cari. We could all do with a break it sounds like
Well I spoke to my nutritionist again. Ive dropped 100 cals so have a target of 2000 but will probably shoot for 1985 but more importantly shes dropped my protein goal to 160g. Nearest I can approximate in MFP is 150 which is 30% which allows me to up my carbs to 40% which I am much happier with. Will give it a good try anyway0 -
I am set at 40 carbs, 30, 30 too. When I first started the journey I was eating 50 carbs, 30 fat, 20 protein. It takes some work but is not impossible, whereas when I initially tried protein at 40 there was just no way that was working out and I was feeling like I was failing all the time. Tbh I dont hit 40, 30 30 all the time, but it is what I aim for and when I dont quite make it I dont feel bad about it for whatever reason, it is just a guideline I try for when having an on day. However I do not do weight training and I know your protein is important in that so good luck!0
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Thanks tishtash. Going to go back to logging tomorrow after a really bad five days.0
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I'm off-kilter from all you amazing ladies, but I'm eating on a specific plan geared for me by my endocrinologist... I'm doing 5% carbs (25 grams per day max, total - or net if I'm eating a lot of veggies, so I can subtract out fiber), 15-20% protein, and the remaining 75-80% in fats for FUEL. I'm honestly loving it. I haven't felt this wonderful in my body EVER in my adult life. It is working very well for me... I know it isn't for everyone, but I'm glad I FINALLY listened to my doctors and stopped believing I could never break my ridiculously huge carb/sugar/junk cravings without medical intervention....though I suppose a new eating plan is an intervention of sorts...0
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