I am pretty sure you should have been at the 7-21 hours Scooby per week to start with, so you're TDEE would've been even higher?

Yeah, I totally get it but from where I am standing, you are working out a lot especiallly with the high NEAT with the 4 kids.
I can only base of my numbers but here was me before my recent activity change:

5'7"
almost 34 years old
145-150lbs
TDEE 2850

Workouts were all mood dependent but this is roughly what I did:
*3x a week heavy lifting/compound lifts 30-60 minutes a time/ varied depending on my mood

*5x a week some kind of intentional "cardio": 2x a week high intensity cardio 30-60 minutes (running/ellipitical/etc), 3x a week low-moderate recovery type cardio like walking on treadmill or exercise bike at lowish HR 105-125

*Walking with 40lb bag to bus, from campus to hospital and back: 3 hours

*One day of student nursing, about 6 hours on my feet in a hospital. Wasn't running around but keeping my feet moving pretty regularly there.

I have no kids. My pets don't need to be walked. I was so busy with school, that I just sat around studying when at home. I didn't even have time to clean my house, cook and keep up with laundry so very little NEAT at my house. So I think its very possible your TDEE is much higher than 2300. You are very active, same height with a higher weight than me (which means you get to eat more calories!)

My TDEE was basically off the chart of Scooby's calculator and I didn't realize it:
My calories were higher than the 5-6 hour level on the MENS calculator (2700) but not quiet as high as the 7-21 hours on the mens (3000).

The highest amount of calories recommended for me on the women's was for the 7-21 hours level was only 2,733.... and I was actually about 115 calories higher than that

Just my opinion though!
I actually hadn't realized there was a gender option on Scooby so I was going off of mens numbers from the beginning. Good thing too, otherwise I would have been more and more nervous as my number got higher and higher! Remember that the calculator is just an estimation.

Plug it in to this after you make your copy. Split the piyo time between lifting and hard cardio if it truly is with rests on the lifting parts. If more like circuit training - all under hard cardio.
it's the daily activity you need to add on with 4 kids, with last option checked.

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1G7FgNzPq3v5WMjDtH0n93LXSMRY_hjmzNTMJb3aZSxM/edit?usp=sharing

Good job wanting to evaluate changing eating goal as activity level changes.
Life lesson there.

The lifting calorie burn is based studies using sets and reps between 5-15 to almost failure on last few, and rests from 2-4 minutes.
So if that is indeed what part of the workout is like, that would apply.

And using bodyweight on some exercises can be exactly like that, pushups and pullups come to mind.
But bodyweight squats and lunges? Usually not unless truly starting out. In which case it does if apply if rests are long enough.

Most videos seem to keep rests short like 1 min or less, making it circuit or calisthenics type workout, so more cardio to the mix, and pretty intense.

Compare to walking 4 mph, if it feels more intense than that, then hard cardio. If it feel easier in intensity but harder in weight, then using lifting. Then again, could feel the same as walking up 3-4 mph, so use that one.

But most the calories is coming from daily activity.

So you decide if the 45 hrs of a normal workout seems more slow moving like option 3, or constant moving like option 5 you picked. If you get to plop down for some computer time, or bills, ect, for 2-3 hr chunk daily, and the evening is calmer because almost everything has been done, then I'd suggest option 3.
If you are constant moving throughout the day and in to the night, option 5.

You could try upping cals 100 every 3 days until you get to a higher number say 2650 and try that for a month to see how it goes. My guess is your tdee is higher than you think!