Probably more people than you might think. Your husband is still recuperating and he probably doesn't feel like himself, or know how to feel at all. I mean, he just had MAJOR surgery. It's perfectly normal to feel frustration, fear, anxiety, and even question your decision. Having weight loss is a life changing event, and you are in completely uncharted territory. I know personally, I had one or two "what the heck did I do?" moments. I mean, it's scary at first. But you get used to doing things differently, you start feeling better and seeing results, and it gets better. Now, I can't imagine how my life would be if I had not had surgery. It was one of the best decisions I ever made and I would do it over again in a heartbeat. No regrets at all. If you husband (and you) are patient with the process, you will feel more at ease as you go along. Good luck to both of you!

To be honest, the first months after RNY surgery, I just hated everyone, everything, and really wanted to back out of it. Now almost 8mo post-surgery, I'm fine. Yes, there are times when life is difficult, but it's better than the weight. He's healing and that's going to last a couple of months. Adapting to a new way of life might take even longer. Stick with it. It's absolutely worth it.

You too also have the advantage of having each other to support you. I know that my poor husband hasn't been eating his normal way since I did this. I am not cooking for him as I am doing MY own thing. He does well for himself, but we don't share food like we used to. Even grocery shopping is more of a YOURS and MINE instead of an OURS. He has tried some of my recipes (ricotta bake, chicken crust pizza) but prefers his own. I am happy with both of those recipes. Give your husband timeto heal and he will be feeling so much happier with his decision. Don't let this take away from your own committment to it.
Good luck going forward.

The first thing my husband said to me after surgery was "I regret this so hard right now." He's 18 months out and has no regrets at all despite going through some scary complications.

In my almost two-month postop experience, I've gone through a lot. That first month was full of trip-ups, crappy diets, lack of energy, a little depression, TMI side problems, etc. I totally empathize with him. What made it better for me was having a place like this to commiserate, and find inspiration with other patients. It really helped to change my outlook, look past the liquid-only hell, the energy-drained days, and look forward to the running a 5k, or fitting in a roller coaster seat. You should see if he would be interested in joining.

Also, I made sure not to alienate myself from my friends during that time. Human interaction works wonders, for many people.

3 weeks from now you'll be asking him that question and he will be the one telling you YES - it was worth it!! Good luck to both of you. No regrets for me!!

Oh man I think a lot of us could be the poster children - I actually broke down on day four in the hospital in front of my bari coordinator crying asking why why why did I do this - she was so patient and reminded me to live a great life... I wish I could say that was the last time I asked myself that question...Five months later I can say without a ounce of regret or hesitation what was I thinking asking that! BEST decision ever! I am less that five pounds from my surgeons goal (not mine!) and feeling better than I have in years! My finance had his surgery a month after me - it helps to have a buddy to work through this with most days. I say most days because when something isn't going right for you and is for him or vice versa remember it's not their fault or yours - we are all just different Best wishes and remember those first few weeks are the worst and suddenly just a distant memory