:( Frustrated. Anyone experience not having a supporting family?
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Im with Farback on this issue. Its all about getting the balance right. Another suggestion is keeping fit together. Suggest working out together or going for walks together. hope that helps
Unfortunately My other half is no active at all. I asked and invited, but she's not buying into it.0 -
Finding a balance between our relationships/family commitments and our personal goals and desires is always difficult, and I think the best way to minimize the conflict is through communication. I find myself keeping my feelings and thoughts bottled up sometimes when I'm hurt or disappointed but the best way I know to get over those feelings is to tell the person you're most concerned about how it feels when they aren't supportive.
I get a few chuckles from various family members and friends when I tell them what my goals are but when they see that I'm serious about it over time they seem to come around. I've told my husband explicitly what I want out of this fitness journey and even though I believe he thinks I might be a little crazy he's supportive for the most part. I do hate it when he tells me "don't hurt yourself"......so annoying........
The people who I grew up with are on a completely different journey. While I workout and watch my food intake, they are the complete opposite. Some of them have not seen their feet in years and that's ok if that's what they want.0 -
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nikkib0103 wrote: »
Double Bingo!0 -
Some interesting developments after I originally posted this. Within this past year I have been havin breathing/asthma issues. I have been seeing a doctor, who turned me to see a lung specialist and then a cardiologist (Dr Gould). Dr. Gould (30 years’ experience) didn't like what he heard in my heart. He required me to see another specialist today. Appointment is at 3:00pm today, 09/18/2015. Jesus is my Savior and I have been praying with others. I'm thinking positive and will accept anything that the Lord places in my life. Good or Bad, I will accept the results. #godisable.0
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TravelinGal7147 wrote: »You look extremely fit and I do understand that you want to maintain that. keep in mind that starined relationships can be as damaging to your body as extra weight and lack of exercise. It did not escape me that you will be 55 on your next birthday and that you loss you dad at 55. Talk with your family about your fears which i suspect are there even if you are not acknowledging them. Perhaps this will help you understnad them better. Good luck.
Thanks. I had a son when I was 40 and knowing that my dad didn't take care of himself I wanted to do better and be there for my son. When I was overweight and out of shape at 40, my Dr. gave me 5-6 years if I didn't make a positive change in my life.0 -
Most people need a wake up call.0
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MostlyWater wrote: »Most people need a wake up call.
I certainly got mine. Just got back from my 2 mile lunch break walk with my rebuilt heart, and I'm taking it to the fire hall gym after work to 'lift things up and put them down'.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7gzmoqmL7g 0 -
My ex actively undermined my attempts to change my lifestyle for the better... everything from criticizing my training plan to having tactical "panic attacks" which strangely coincided with my planned workouts.
She's an ex for good reason.0 -
MostlyWater wrote: »Most people need a wake up call.
I certainly got mine. Just got back from my 2 mile lunch break walk with my rebuilt heart, and I'm taking it to the fire hall gym after work to 'lift things up and put them down'.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7gzmoqmL7g
Oh God......am I supposed to slather myself with baby oil when I lift weights?????
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1299batman wrote: »Some interesting developments after I originally posted this. Within this past year I have been havin breathing/asthma issues. I have been seeing a doctor, who turned me to see a lung specialist and then a cardiologist (Dr Gould). Dr. Gould (30 years’ experience) didn't like what he heard in my heart. He required me to see another specialist today. Appointment is at 3:00pm today, 09/18/2015. Jesus is my Savior and I have been praying with others. I'm thinking positive and will accept anything that the Lord places in my life. Good or Bad, I will accept the results. #godisable.
I hope everything works out okay with the specialist. My husband has a heart condition but it doesn't keep him from doing anything he wants really............so good luck!!!
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MostlyWater wrote: »Most people need a wake up call.
I certainly got mine. Just got back from my 2 mile lunch break walk with my rebuilt heart, and I'm taking it to the fire hall gym after work to 'lift things up and put them down'.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7gzmoqmL7g
Oh God......am I supposed to slather myself with baby oil when I lift weights?????
Right is right and wrong isn't.0 -
Congrats on changing your life and losing weight.My husband is very fit, but still takes for granted that I will do all shopping, cooking, washing up, planning a dessert, providing a breakfast & leftovers he can take to work, etc. Well he is working back east for four months & the weight is FALLING off me because I provide none of those 'extras' he likes so much. I don't plan to reopen the specialty catering ever again! Ptttht!!
We have a cleaning lady come for 8 hours once a month. That eases the household load and she gets us caught up on laundry and most other things.
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1299batman wrote: »Some interesting developments after I originally posted this. Within this past year I have been havin breathing/asthma issues. I have been seeing a doctor, who turned me to see a lung specialist and then a cardiologist (Dr Gould). Dr. Gould (30 years’ experience) didn't like what he heard in my heart. He required me to see another specialist today. Appointment is at 3:00pm today, 09/18/2015. Jesus is my Savior and I have been praying with others. I'm thinking positive and will accept anything that the Lord places in my life. Good or Bad, I will accept the results. #godisable.
I hope that your appt went well.
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1299batman wrote: »Some interesting developments after I originally posted this. Within this past year I have been havin breathing/asthma issues. I have been seeing a doctor, who turned me to see a lung specialist and then a cardiologist (Dr Gould). Dr. Gould (30 years’ experience) didn't like what he heard in my heart. He required me to see another specialist today. Appointment is at 3:00pm today, 09/18/2015. Jesus is my Savior and I have been praying with others. I'm thinking positive and will accept anything that the Lord places in my life. Good or Bad, I will accept the results. #godisable.
I hope the appointment went well. Please let us know. Some of our members have or had serious heart issues and will undoubtedly be willing to lend support should there be unwelcome news. Sometimes it really is just an abundance of caution. My cardiologist was iffy with a reading and sent me off on a stress test. My heart turns out to be fine, and will benefit from my current and future planned weight loss. Taking charge and knowing what you might be up against are the best weapons we have.0
