is it Ok to be selfish?
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MostlyWater
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A (70 year old) friend decided that she accomplished whatever she wanted to here, and left.
I know that technology isn't easy for us so I don't blame her, what does she need it for?
However, it's fun for me to be here and cheer you on, to hear about your parties and what you ate, and vacations and how you fit exercise it.
So, I guess it IS OK to be selfish, huh? We do what we want, right?
I know that technology isn't easy for us so I don't blame her, what does she need it for?
However, it's fun for me to be here and cheer you on, to hear about your parties and what you ate, and vacations and how you fit exercise it.
So, I guess it IS OK to be selfish, huh? We do what we want, right?
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The word "selfish" used to be problematic for me; too long of a story and not relevant to the thread. Eventually I figured out what I thought "being selfish" meant wasn't an accurate reflection of the meaning of the word.
It isn't selfish to choose your own path or to take ensure your own needs are met. We are responsible FOR ourselves and responsible TO others. It is a critical difference.0 -
The word "selfish" used to be problematic for me; too long of a story and not relevant to the thread. Eventually I figured out what I thought "being selfish" meant wasn't an accurate reflection of the meaning of the word.
It isn't selfish to choose your own path or to take ensure your own needs are met. We are responsible FOR ourselves and responsible TO others. It is a critical difference.
Well said, and plus five for the Princess Bride quote.
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Wuv. Trew wuv.
Love that movie.0 -
We often confuse taking care of ourselves with being selfish. That is the problem. It is actually selfish NOT to take care of yourself. I went to Catholic school. I had nuns. All I can say was it took years to learn what being slefish is and is not after that.0
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@MostlyWater I should clarify that my remarks were addressing the word "selfish" as opposed to the subject of your thread. I am sorry for hijacking the thread.
"Selfish" is one of the manipulations my ex-wife used on the kids and I quite liberally… Realistically, the one who was selfish was the one making the accusation. It's funny how we sometimes use words in our daily lives but never look them up in the dictionary because we "know" what they mean. Sure enough, like @nikkib0103, my understanding of selfish wasn't accurate. Luckily, even old dawgs like me can still learn.0 -
Selfish
1.
devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
2.
characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself:
selfish motives.
1. self-interested, self-seeking, egoistic; illiberal, parsimonious, stingy.
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The operative word in that definition is ONLY....I care about my family, my friends, my students....but I am concerned with my own well-being now. It makes me better able to care for the others when my own needs are being met first.
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When we're talking about health-related self-care, I like to invoke the airplane metaphor: You put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others . . . otherwise, you won't be able to assist others for long!0
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I use the airplane thing myself.0
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nikkib0103 wrote: »We often confuse taking care of ourselves with being selfish. That is the problem. It is actually selfish NOT to take care of yourself. I went to Catholic school. I had nuns. All I can say was it took years to learn what being slefish is and is not after that.
Had to laugh! Product of the same education and upbringing.
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