November 2016

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  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    Well today I have gotten very little accomplished. It seemed as though I couldn't get moving. I did go to the flea market. I tried have been hearing so much about LulaRoe leggings and someone was selling them at the flea market so I tried them on. Well I already thought they were overpriced because I think they are about $25 and I don't care how soft they are they are leggings! I get mine for $4 at WalMart. Anyway, I tried a pair on to see what the rage is all about. Oh my gosh y'all!!! As I pulled them on, I pulled a small hole in the leg of them. The woman said well that's never happened before. What else would you say! I wasn't pulling that hard! They didn't fit well either. They bunched up at the knees and I wouldn't have wanted them any tighter. I wondered how a pair of stretchy pants can fit people a size range of 0-12 or 10-20. Then the woman still tries to get me to try a dress. Really!!!! Sorry if you like LulaRoe but they aren't for me! I think WalMart is has come out with some a sueded version that cost a little more that is supposed to be more like theirs. I don't even think I will try them unless they are warmer.

    I spent more money at the flea market than I planned to spend. I found some good deals on some things for me that I liked, and a couple of small gifts for people for whom I didn't need gifts. I could use them as last minute gifts but they are kind of unusual and I don't think many people would like them. They are handmade lavender scented sachets made with essential oils. I got them for a steal. Essential oils are becoming more popular but do people use sachets anymore? I got some for my mom and a friend who I know uses essential oils and of course myself. The friends with whom I went to the flea market bought very little and I made up for what their lack of spending. The flea market is usually only once a month but will be held again Thanksgiving weekend due to Christmas coming. I also have a special Christmas shopping opportunity at church next week. So many opportunities - so little time, money, and gift giving opportunities! I did remember someone else for whom I need to get a gift but I will probably just give her and her kids a gift card because she's a single mom with 3 year twins and she is without a job. I can trust her to use it wisely. Unfortunately she does smoke but hey, I over ate for most of my life so I can't say anything.

    Sometimes I wish I didn't make any Christmas decisions until after Thanksgiving because I still find stuff that I want to buy and I already have gifts. I like (ok love) to shop. Last night, I purchased a birthday gift online for a friend whose birthday is next September. I will probably give it to her before then because it will be hard to wait that long and I think she will like it. It was only $10. It's not uncommon for her to give me something every time she sees me so whether it's a hand me down blouse or a small something she bought for me because she thought I would like it. I am also going to order part of her Christmas gift for next year this year because I have already bought all of her Christmas for this year. I actually gave her part of her Christmas for this year today. I didn't know if I would see her again before December 1st and I wanted her to have it to enjoy during the month of December because it's a Christmas decoration.

    I haven't put up a Christmas tree in probably 10 years for many reasons - I had a cat and I didn't want her to destroy it, I was in major depression and didn't want to deal with it, and my house was a major mess. This year my house is clean and I don't have a cat so I bought a simple 6' tree. As much as I am against decorating for Christmas before Thanksgiving, I think I may go ahead and put it up when I get a chance which may be Thanksgiving day. I get busy with work and I may not have a chance to put it up if I don't do it by Thanksgiving. I am looking forward to having a tree again.

    By the way, if anyone else is like me and doesn't know the names of sugar alcohols the common names that I found are Erythritol, Maltitol, Hydrogenated starch hydrolysates, Isomalt, Lactitol, Mannitol, Sorbitol, and Xylitol.

    Good night friends!
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    When I ran over to mom and dad's I asked them what they are doing and they said Nope the kids aren't even as they aren't married. I was like ok sounds good.

    If something happened to my husband I think that would be it for me and decorating for Christmas. My sister and my mom go all crazy for the holidays and for me the holidays are rough. I put up the tree now for my husband and that's about it. I don't have a problem with getting gifts and holding onto them til the holiday as I don't like crowds so I'm like woo hoo I'm done I'm not venturing out in this. My biggest problem is my husband who keeps giving me stuff to get for him. He is done he is not getting anything else.
  • JanolaBarbara
    JanolaBarbara Posts: 322 Member
    Hello! Sorry I dropped out for a bit. I've been feeling under the weather, but I'm much better after a weekend spent doing things with friends. Friday, a new friend and I spent the afternoon on one of the islands, walking around the grounds of an old estate that is now open to the public. So lovely! On Sat I went to a yarn/knitting show with a couple of girlfriends. I enjoy knitting and these yarns and notions were so luxurious and soft and beautiful, but a lot of it was way out of my budget. Still, it was nice to look and I did buy a cowel kit (yarn and pattern) and a skein of clearance yarn. After that we had lunch then headed to the NW Chocolate Festival. Oh, my goodness! It was a chocolate lover's dream come true! I ate sooo much chocolate!!! I was sick of chocolate!!! We each brought ziploc baggies so once we were full of chocolate we could still bring home samples (which I gave to my hubby who really enjoyed them over 2 days-- smart). Then yesterday we had another couple over for dinner and we played a game and talked so everything's good. However, I had a major headache almost all of Sunday. I took some ibuprofen and then it was much more tolerable. I'm pretty sure it was either all the chocolate or all the sugar from Saturday, since I gave up eating both for weeks for that very reason.

    Anyway, I'm feeling better today and I want to get out and go on a good walk, maybe by the beach today.

    @2020pinktogo -- Sounds like you made out like a bandit with those boots! Naturalizers are nice and comfy. I am the Christmas decorator in our household. Hubby likes looking at the tree but if it was up to him he wouldn't bother. I do all of that. Yikes! I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but I don't.

    @blitzbis -- OMG- what a terrible thing for your coworker to deal with! Glad she and her son found a way of working it out. Like you, I hope he is sincere. I do some Christmas shopping during the year and I try to keep track of it on a spreadsheet, but I do most of it after Thanksgiving. It's traditional in my family to hand out (figuratively) your Gift Wish List at that time.

    @1skholloway -- Goodness! What an ordeal you've gone through! I also try to stay away from all sweeteners, real and artificial. I find that my tummy is happier and my anxiety is kept in check when I do. I hope you're able to feel better and get off the medications. Thanks for sharing the names of the sugar alcohols. Isn't it amazing how the companies play "hide and seek" with some of their ingredients? I'm gluten intolerant and I had to learn some of the secret names for gluten, like "modified food starch".

    I hope you all have a good week!
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    so my grandmother keeps going to my mom don't you want to live to be a 100? Well my mom keeps answering no as there are days my grandmother really has no clue and my mom is like I don't want your sister to say I am past my best buy date like she does about your grandmother. So you know how your talking and not paying much attention and I just said a number of what would be a good age to live till. Well I only gave myself 3 years to live my mom goes did you forget how old you were or what. I have no clue but I guess I need to change that number. ;)
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    So there is one woman at work who is a bully. there is no other word for her. I thought by this age the bully's would be gone but Nope the only good thought is she plans on retiring in 5 years. So I just have to deal with her for 5 years. Yesterday when she kept sending jabs my way i didn't respond. I'm hoping she will just get tired of it and take me off her radar.
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    Oh @JanolaBarbara sorry you aren't feeling well! I'm glad you had a great weekend. I wouldn't trust myself at the chocolate event. I would eat myself in to oblivion.

    Overeating is my concern about the upcoming holidays. I'm actually considering taking my own food to the thanksgiving dinner. My mom will probably not be happy about that. The good/not good news is that my oldest brother had another heart cath yesterday and was found to have 90% blockage around his bypass. He's 55, had bypass before the age of 50, is diabetic, weighs probably 300, and is a heavy smoker. Can you say wants to die early???? He's a motivator for why I lost weight. I don't want to get diabetes and it's prevalent on our dad's side of the family. I have a strong genetic resemblance to Dad's side of the family. The doctor told my brother to get off carbs and said the family needs to support him so mom is rethinking Thanksgiving. Mom made the dressing last week so we will have dressing but I think she's reconsidering desserts. Meanwhile my sister-in-law said she was going to eat stuffing for Thanksgiving. (She's from Maryland and uses a different word for it. We don't stuff the turkey and she doesn't either. Traditions...) Anyway, maybe our family's Thanksgiving meal will be a little healthier this year. Last week Mom told me to start eating normally. Go figure.

    I also think I have figured out what to do about my work Thanksgiving meal. It's going to be Louisiana themed foods which means etouffee and gumbo. I think there will be turkey and dressing too. Yesterday I had to schedule an appointment for that afternoon at 3 so I can say I need to work through lunch and I will more than likely have enough work to skip the meal anyway. Oh darn I have to miss a sea of tempting foods!

    Happy Tuesday everyone!
  • NewOR2015
    NewOR2015 Posts: 1,018 Member
    My workplace has a Thanksgiving meal as well...actually, three! I attended the first one and did okay avoiding most of the tempting items. Today there is a lunch with parents and an after school "dinner" with staff. I plan to skip both saying I have lots of things to do. Why they would have both in one day I don't know! Plus, in case we haven't overindulged enough they are setting up a "dessert bar" for our planning time. It's like they want overweight teachers.
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    @NewOR2015 oh my goodness! Good for you for picking and choosing the Thanksgiving meals you attend.

    Well now I actually want to attend our Thanksgiving lunch at work because a co-worker who had to retire in January for health reasons will be attending. It will be held on his birthday. I haven't seen him since May. I may just speak to him and his wife and return to my desk. Everyone will want to visit with him. I just need to go visit him at his home.

    I went to the gym last night for the first time in about a month. I was pleasantly surprised that I hadn't regressed a lot during the last month. It felt so good to work out again. I had a huge endorphin high afterward! I look forward to getting in even better shape than I was before I got sick.

    With my part-time job being so busy until Christmas, it's very hard to make time to go to the gym right now. I felt like I was turning to mush because I wasn't working out. I have to work on better time management skills so I will have time to work out. Working out will help me to have more energy and less stress. The month of December is going to be extra high stress for me this year. I have to plan and prepare how to handle the stress so that I won't be overcome by it and I can manage it and not react to it. Actually I see that I am procrastinating so that may be how I am dealing with stress and I need to stop that NOW before things get worse.

    Sorry for talking things out on here or journaling my thoughts. I guess I am working out some thoughts on here that I wasn't really aware of before I started typing that last paragraph.

    Happy Thursday y'all! I am going to make time to go to the gym tonight!
  • blitzbis
    blitzbis Posts: 366 Member
    I have missed out on so much. Sounds like everyone is making great strides and really planning ahead on their Thanksgiving meals to avoid slipping into old habits!
    Things at work are settling down. My coworker has finally be able to talk to her son and they have a plan for his paying her back as well as doing some manual labor around the house (did I already mention this?)
    I have been on a losing streak lately and feeling pretty proud. Then I had a couple of my therapists out 2 days in a row and so I had to do group. NOt a bad thing, but during the time I usually have time to get a workout in at work, I had to do notes. Lights flickering....more later
  • JanolaBarbara
    JanolaBarbara Posts: 322 Member
    @blitzbis -- Wow! Congratulations on your losing streak. XD Glad things are settling down at your work. Do you have any Thanksgiving plans?

    @1skholloway --Glad you aren't too out of shape. Isn't it strange how the more stressful life is, the better exercise is, but the busier we are and the harder it is to get exercise in. Glad you'll be able to visit with your old coworker.

    @NewOR2015 -- Wow! So much temptation! I don't envy you. Good think you've got plans in place. The good thing about having 2 in one day is that you can get them both out of the way in one day. Good luck! XD

  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    OK I had the scare of my life thurs night I was the late person in so I got the crappy parking spot. Some days just go that way. Well when it was time to leave I noticed someone at the side of the building but didn't take much heed of it till he started to follow me to my car. I was literally running to my car him making tracks behind me and my boss comes out and she is screaming and running right behind us. I don't know how I got into my car locked the door seconds before that guy was on me and as my boss was still running and screaming he took off. I throw on my lights and she comes up and goes ok I have never come out of this building and ever been so scared for anyone as I was just for you. I was shaking and I said me too. So I guess the next day the officers and the tech guys pulled it up on video and were like Holy crap. the other head tellers were teasing I heard you made Pat run last night but when they saw it made both of us shake thinking about it they stopped the razzing. I actually heard Sean say to them if the other officers hear you it won't be pretty the video would scare any of you.

    So anyway I survived this week. I am hoping for a very dull week next week.
    By the way it's starting to snow here.

    Glad to see everyone is doing so well. I need to start logging again as I put on a few lbs but I'm not eating and i need to get all the 1200 calories. My husband noted this and stated you ate 2 power bars a banana and 16 potato chips and went to bed. If you aren't going to log your food then I will start to make you dinners you may not eat chips for dinner anymore. What can I say I kind of got into the come home eat a few chips and go to bed routine. Not looking to see what I need calorie or health wise is making for one soon to be unhealthy camper.
  • NewOR2015
    NewOR2015 Posts: 1,018 Member
    @2020pinktogo I'm glad you weren't harmed, and that your boss was there to help. Very scary.
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    @blitzbis congrats on the loss! @2020pinktogo 'so glad you are safe!

    I needed to work Thursday evening and I was tired so I didn't go to the gym. I am having trouble of getting back in to the swing of working out and making the most healthy eating choices. I am maintaining so I'm doing ok.

    I am going to takes Tuesday off work so I will miss our Thanksgiving lunch. I have an appointment that afternoon and can get a few other things done that day. I have one vacation day left and I need to use it this week because we are getting new software in my department and we can't work this again until the 29th. It will be hectic until mid-late January after that. The software was supposed to read Nov. 1 and we weren't supposed to be starting on it during our busy season.

    I have decided I am going to tell Mom that I will take broccoli or a green salad to the family Thanksgiving. I will probably be the only person to eat either one. That's ok. If I took cheese sauce for broccoli, someone else might eat it. I don't need cheese sauce and don't usually eat it so I don't think I am going to be concerned with taking any if I choose to take that. I found a good sale on broccoli today. I would have bought more but didn't know if I had room in my freezer.

    I cooked a turkey breast in the crock pot today. It tasted good but for the price, I will be sticking to chicken in the future. I got about 18 oz of meat or 6 servings for a $10 piece of meat. I also had to deal with the skin and bones. The taste is different but not better. I think I really wanted thinly sliced deli meat anyway.
  • NewOR2015
    NewOR2015 Posts: 1,018 Member
    @1skholloway Good planning for day off and healthy eating.

    I'm headed to see family tomorrow. I'm not going to stress about food. What will be will be.
    Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
  • NewOR2015
    NewOR2015 Posts: 1,018 Member
    @2020pinktogo I had to get back on online because I just remembered that Nov 23, 2015 was our start date for this group. Congratulations on our anniversary. Thank you, KrisM111, wherever you are!
  • JanolaBarbara
    JanolaBarbara Posts: 322 Member
    @NewOR2015 -- Enjoy your time with your family and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

    @1skholloway -- Yum! I love broccoli, steamed or roasted! I'd totally eat it if I was there. XD. Always a good idea to bring something you can eat. My hubby and I would bring roasted cauliflower and the turkey to my family's T-day, but this year we're enjoying a quiet Thanksgiving at home.

    @2020pinktogo -- OMG! That is so scary! Lucky your boss was there. :-( I agree: Hope you have a boring week.

    What with one thing and another, I've been having difficulty staying within 1200-1300 cal these last couple of weeks. :-( Staying home for Thanksgiving will definitely help. Will also be less stressful. My headaches are back today, accompanied with vertigo. I took some migraine meds this morning and the vertigo was pretty much gone by late this afternoon. Hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow.
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    Yeah since the incident it's been rough I have gotten into a funk that I can't explain but the depression i feel is unbelievable. Of course as my daughter suffers from depression and I have been better at hiding it as well as my mother and others in my family it's like why can't I just let this go and move on. I need to get dressed and get moving I overslept this morning good thing hubby had off and woke me.
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    thanksgiving went well I was in drive thru mon and tues and the exhaust from the cars makes my migraines worse but I got thru the days. Just one more this week and the weekend. Yesterday my daughter forgot something at my mom's so I dropped it off at her boyfriend's parents as they live a few blocks away from us and they are having dinner with them on sat. OH big mistake :# His parents told me that they want my husband and i to come over for a dinner chat. UGH!!! I said hubby works 3rd shift how about lunch as they were not taking no for an answer and I couldn't go alone. I don't think they really get my husband and I we really don't socialize. On holidays I do my side he does his. When my daughter was little we did them one day one the other day another but now Hey his sisters food is awful I don't want to go and so we just do the each does their own family. So when I get my doom date I will let you all know. It really wasn't pretty they were grilling me about my new job. We are all the same age but they are very domineering and they don't understand how my husband could have stayed at the same job for over 40 years and is 60 years old. I didn't even tell my husband how they said he should get a new job as I want him to go with me to this dinner. I just hope it all goes well.
  • JanolaBarbara
    JanolaBarbara Posts: 322 Member
    @2020pinktogo -- sheesh! I hope this dinner goes well.

    I had a nice Thanksgiving. I cooked all day; made an apple pie from scratch! and made wild rice stuffing. We pretty much snacked all day, then had our turkey dinner. I did have football on all day, too. :-)

    I'm still a little dizzy. I may have Benign Positional Vertigo. The dr. gave me some movements to do and basically, I need to take it easy until it goes away.

    Hope you all have a good weekend!
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    @2020pinktogo oh gosh! This meal sounds more stressful than family Thanksgiving.

    @JanolaBarbara it sounds like progress is being made regarding your health problems. I hope the treatment plan works for you.

    I bought an Instant Pot on Amazon on Black Friday so maybe I will start cooking a little more.

    So today is my family's Thanksgiving meal celebration. I haven't reported weight loss for the last couple of days in case I don't make healthy choices. Who me???? The food addict?? The girl who ate four cookies on Monday. :# I hope all goes well eating wise and all the way around.

    I gotta get busy. I need to clean house before I go.

    Happy weekend to each of you!
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    My husband goes WTH I didn't even ask your parents permission to marry you. I can count on one hand how many times I have been there it doesn't mean I don't like them. I just don't like to eat and run which when you work 3rd shift always happens. Then he goes WTH do they have to say to us that they can't say in a card. LOL I only wish I knew ;)

    I am trying the essential oils the peppermint for my migraines. I'm on medication which I take daily but I'm having more of them as I have a problem with exhaust fumes. I don't want to say to them at work hey could I not work in drive thru it's making me sicker than a dog. I can understand why the others moved positions after being there just a short period of time.
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    Well, I did okay on my eating yesterday. My downfall was that there were dry roasted nuts placed on two tables in the house. I ate way too many of those. At least, I went for a walk for about 30 minutes. I did gain a pound back but I'm hoping it's a lot of water weight. Hey, a girl can hope, right???!!!!

    I made mashed cauliflower in addition to broccoli. I was doing too many things at once and didn't get the recipe right but I liked it okay so I took it anyway. I didn't expect anyone to eat it except me. Mr. Get Off All Carbs actually tried some. His assessment of them was "they are better than a stick in the eye." We have a brother who experienced a heart attack at 44 while working out on a treadmill at his healthiest point in life. He has a brain injury as a result. When he's eating good food at Momma's house, he shovels food away like someone could take it away from him at any moment. (It's odd because he lost his sense of taste and smell as a result of the brain injury.) The stick in the eye comment actually slowed him down and caused him to pause.

    Ralph, a/k/a Mr. Get Off All Carbs, poor wife was diligently reading the wheat belly diet book and some other diet book. She gets on lets get healthy kicks, spends a bunch of money on books and such and they may lose a few pounds but they have little success usually. My brother was already complaining about going to Christmas parties because the food is going to be so good and he won't be able to eat it. They live across Lake Ponchartrain from New Orleans so they are surrounded by good food. Ralph had lost about 12 pounds. He did eat less than usual.

    Anyway, the visit was ok. Something small but meaningful to me happened when I left that has me depressed today. It wasn't the second time it happened. Nobody walked me out of the house or hugged me bye. Mom gave me a sorta hug. It was cold and about 8:15 p.m. so I understand why nobody walked me out. Everyone else at least gets hugged bye. I am the only kid who lives in the same town as our parents. Everyone else lives at least 2 hours away. My sister and oldest brother and their spouses were spending the night with our parents. I just don't fit in with my family anymore. If I bring up anything like that with my mom, she always blames me or tells me I am wrong. The last time my sister and I talked when I was major depressed I mentioned the distance in our relationship and all she did was agree there was one. I hate having to go play happy family with people I see a couple of times a year who seem to care so little about me the rest of the time. I have given up trying to stay in contact with my brother. He doesn't even reply to a text. I realized last night that I don't want to either. I am trying to process it all and get out of the funk before I return to work tomorrow. I don't want to see people today. I just want to stay in bed and sleep. I have done that and watched a movie. I have loads to do at home and work.

    Work is going to be busy and probably stressful this week - actually through at least the middle of January. I don't need to be depressed on top of it. Maybe I will go for a walk. I just go in some essential oils and one is a blend called uplift. I plan to soak in it. Maybe I can diffuse it too.

    Sorry to unload on y'all but I needed someplace safe to vent. I am crying as I sit here typing. I cried a little this morning.

    Ok, I just took a moment to text a few friends and reach out to them.

    This will get better, hopefully sooner rather than later. I also have to start formulating a plan for our New Year's trip because it last 3 days and if 8 hours affects me this way, I can't handle 3 days.

    I hope y'all have a nice relaxing Sunday.
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    @1skholloway I haven't been on because of migraines or I would have answered you sooner. <3 Visit your mom during the year when no one else is there and as you have no real closeness to your family and they make you depressed go some place that brings you joy for the holidays. I know that sounds callous but sometimes you just have to put yourself first. I'm sure you have friends who either don't have family or whose family is far away and you can start having your own get togethers. It doesn't have to involve gift exchanges it can just involve getting together for a good meal or even just go and serve others at a soup kitchen. It'll feel better to serve others and you may meet others who will truly deserve your company. Put yourself first and just say to your family I won't be there this year I made plans maybe next year. Next year comes around just repeat. You send them out Xmas cards be friendly but don't be the dog that keeps getting kicked. They can't say anything if you're always there during the year helping your mom which you are. I hope you are feeling better. <3
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    Sorry you're still dealing with the migraines Sue. Thanks for the good advice. You comparison of a dog being kicked matched my thoughts. It will take courage to skip the trip. I'm not sure that I have that much. My sister texted me yesterday to see how I felt because my ulcer was giving me problems Saturday. I replied with short responses and didn't ask how they were. I was better by Monday and ok Tuesday. I have a month to think and pray about what to do. At least I did lay the groundwork last weekend and tell my family I may need to work and not be able to attend.

    I tried cottage cheese again last night. My body is handling it better but still not normally. I'm going to wait a while before trying it again.

    Happy Wednesday friends!
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    I know the pain of an ulcer it's not worth it. This past month my ulcer has been unbelievable I say if you have gifts for your family either put them in the mail or drop them off the next week or so no later. Just with the explanation I have to work or things have come up and I want to make sure the gifts are here just in case I don't make it but I'll do my best to come with no intentions of showing up. Put you and your health first. Then see if you get thank you's if you don't then next year you get them smaller gifts till the gifts just disappear. Just say how about we not exchange gifts anymore. More than likely they will say that's fine with us. Life is short you should be happy. Do something that makes you happy. <3
  • 1skholloway
    1skholloway Posts: 341 Member
    I can tell you I won't get thank yous except from my sister. I would get gifts from my sister and oldest brother and their spouses and maybe my other brother and his spouse. I doubt my nieces will get me a gift. We aren't supposed to exchange gifts anyway. My dad can't stand not getting us gifts so he gets us gifts. That started back gift exchange. I don't spend much but I did spend more this year and the gifts are personalized so I can't use them for anything else. The gifts for the grown nieces/nephews are small and can be used for other people. The great nephews get so much stuff they won't know if I don't send gifts if I'm not there. Our family trip was supposed to be about spending time together as a family and not giving gifts. We have been doing it for over 15 years and I haven't missed a single trip. It will be hard to miss. The trip this year is to a place we have never visited that has great places to hike and visit near by. I really want to visit it. I can mentally prepare, stay busy on my own during the day and keep to myself. I can always leave early. If I stay home I will be depressed too, even if I spend time with friends. I have a month to think about what to do.

    My therapist tells me I'm the most mentally healthy member of my family. She's probably biased. The dysfunction works for the rest of the family. It worked for me for a while. Now that I am getting healthy, it no longer works for me.

    Happy Thursday!
  • JanolaBarbara
    JanolaBarbara Posts: 322 Member
    Sorry I haven't been on for a bit. I'm still suffering from vertigo (10 days now). I went to a physical therapist who is trained to deal with vertigo today. I felt awful afterwards, but now I am feeling a lot better. She says to take it easy for a couple of days and then to try doing my normal routine. It would be nice to walk for more than 20-30 min and to drive. Since my husband is on a business trip, I haven't left the house, not even to walk, except to do my appt. I haven't even been able to get a tree and do much decorating, which I love.

    @1skholloway , I can relate. I haven't felt like I fit in with my family in a long time. No one calls me, not even on my birthdays. I do get hugs when I'm there, but no one really makes the time to be with me (unless I drive all over LA to see them). I would have to initiate, or spend time with my sisters who also traveled down. I know that a lot of my family has mental issues, so I try to be patient and not take it personally. Anyway, I decided this year to do basically what @2020pinktogo suggested and stay home for the holidays, which I am loving so far! No stress, make my own healthy food, no traffic headaches. It's great! I will just go down some other time and spend a long weekend with whoever is around. I figure I'm almost 50 so can stay home and have a quiet holiday if that's what I want. Of course, if anyone wants to come up for the holidays they are more than welcome to.

    @1skholloway -- I hope you are feeling better. It seems like you are working hard to get healthy, inside and out. Keep it up!! Most of us also just give gifts to the kids since money is tight. I feel lucky to be able to get presents for everyone. I do try to keep them small so that no one feels bad at not getting me anything if that is the case. I used to be upset that hardly anyone said thanks, but now I give gifts because I want to and not expect anything in return. Then, I just enjoy the shopping and wrapping. XD

    @2020pinktogo -- I hope you survived working the drive-thru and that your migraines are better. You give good advice. Sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves and that means to put ourselves first.
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,512 Member
    I survived the drive thru less traffic which helps the fumes and headaches. plus I had two very delightful people which made it fun too.
  • NewOR2015
    NewOR2015 Posts: 1,018 Member
    I actually joined the December thread only 1 day late!
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