First, kudos on taking ownership of your regain. It's a hard but necessary step.

If your husband is supporting you 100%, it's time to become MORE REAL about what that means. Maybe he needs to start taking control of all the food that comes into the house. Maybe anything bought in "bulk" forms needs to come in and IMMEDIATELY get portioned. (I do that, everything in large bags gets weighed and put into snack or sandwich bags)

Start a food routine. Figure out half a dozen breakfasts, lunches, dinners and snacks that you like and start a rotation. Keep it simple, and keep it routine. It may seem boring, but food needs to nourish us and not excite us. Yes, it's a benefit to have that at times, but make that a special situation and not the norm.

Is your diary open? Please add me as a friend and ask any questions about my meals. (When you add me, please up WLS in the request or I deny.)

How do you work your food intake? By calories? By protein? Do you watch your carbs and fat? Count your macros?

When it comes to exercise, do not give up because of your size! I started at the gym one month post-op weighing 260+ pounds. I IMMEDIATELY started with a trainer. My only restriction for him was no jumping and no running. As soon as I found my "fancy pants" (spanx-type with boning in the back to keep them up) I left it at no running, but do pretty much anything he wants me to. (I have tendonitis in the insertion point of my Achilles heel, there are times I can barely walk, let alone try to jog or run.) If you don't have the money for a trainer, talk to someone at the gym to get a free session to show you how to use the equipment. It may be with a manager, or a front desk person, but they'll show you how to work the equipment. You can also ask if they have free fitness assessments. That will give you an idea of where your heart rate should be. You want it more in the fat burn zone, not in the cardio zone. People tend to get into cardio for too long, we want to burn fat, working too hard will not allow us to do that.

To help me get to the gym, I have my bag packed and ready at the door the night before. I plan my food the night before, make any shakes I may need the night before. That way, there's no reason to have a bad morning that causes me to screw things up. I keep my gym bag mostly packed, I always have extra socks in there, deodorant, my exercise book, headphones, and my shoes. When I come home, I take my work clothes out of the gym bag and take off my gym shoes and immediately put them back in the bag. My bag is never NOT ready to go.

*****Now, this may seem insensitive to some, but it's the tough love portion of the message. If you don't think you can handle it, accept the portion above as a virtual hug and stop reading.*****

You did this to yourself. You put yourself through an incredibly drastic elective surgery. No one forced you to do this. You knew going in your history with food and diet. You knew that everything you've done failed. You've had more than a year to figure out why. You need to seek out a counselor to help resolve your issues with food. There is clearly an underlying issue as to "why" you can't do it. Your stomach can only hold so much food. If you are only 14 months out and already regaining, the 12 month "honeymoon" period is over and it's only going to get harder. Protein shakes are not an answer. Figuring out your relationship with food is the answer. Redefining it and looking at yourself under an emotional microscope is part of that answer. Hoping another tool will solve things will only band aid a more serious issue.

I hope the best for you, really. I will be your biggest supporter, but in a realistic way. I only want that from those around me. I don't want people saying, "you can do this!" when I'm screwing up. I want people to shake me back to reality and tell me to get my crap together. If that's not the type of support you need, privately let me know and I'll back off. *smile*

If there's any way I can help, please let me know!