Yeah, I would be interested to hear of other people's plans as well. My wife and I are in a similar situation - two kids, and neither of us can find time to really commit to exercise. Eating healthier is not a problem, but we both need the physical exercise. We're going crazy trying to figure out when we'll be able to get to the gym for something more strenuous than taking the kids for walks or to the park!

Definitely take the time and find some yummy recipes that are better for you. I have 5 kids and a husband who loves food (who is also blessed with a high metabolism), and they would scoff at a "lighter" choice of salad or something, but I've managed to find some pretty substantial meals that are a better choice and still satisfy the masses.

Because my husband and I eat so differently, we came do an agreement LONG ago that "mealtime" had to be "mealTIME" and not "MEALtime." It's the time we spend together that is important; not that we eat the same things.

We typically agree on many things (simply prepared veggies, little or no fried food, lighter meats such as chicken and fish), but also diverge in several important ways.

I typically eat about 3X the veggies he does; and he typically eats about 3X the meat that I do and 4X the bread that I do.

So, a typical meal at home for us is an agreed-upon protein --say fish or broiled chicken with no skin-- and then he'll wrap his in a tortilla and make tacos, while I'll take mine and put it on a big pile of greens and call it salad. Or if we share a crock-pot pot roast, he'll have more meat and potatoes; I'll eat more of the carrots and celery.

I bought smaller dishes and started just doing more active things together. More nightly walks, Sunday morning nature walks or walking around the city instead of driving from place to place.

Its incredibly hard since my husband has a lot more willpower than me when it comes to dropping bad eating habits but I am always more willing to eat healthier food options. I get derailed with treats and cheats. I have found success in weight loss with the 21 Day Fix (don't worry I'm not a beachbody coach). Its really simple because it takes all the guess work out of portions and what to eat. That means each of us sticks to the amount of containers we individually need for the day. My issue comes in sticking to it. I crave sweets like crazy. With the kids, they end up eating what we eat or they have the option to eat something else. With my teens, they can make it themselves if they don't want to eat what I made. The littles pick at everything but I might just end up making them a pbj or something else later if they ask.

I think the biggest thing is that you have to advocate for your own lifestyle change regardless of what everyone else is doing. Even if it means more work, like making separate meals for the kids. And sometimes it also means not worrying about what your spouse is doing or if they're on track.

I'm a father of 3 (14, 13, 2), and husband of one. I'm active duty military and my wife was as well until recently for over a decade a piece. I'm on your level when it comes to commitment and implementation and my wife is probably more in line with yours. The happy medium for us is control of my kids breakfast, reliance on smart at school meal choices for lunch, and compromised dinner choices for all of us. I prep my own lunches and snacks and do the same for about half of my wife's meals and she eats something out or from her hospital cafeteria on night shift. The only secret I have to success is compromise brother, I have to cave and save some carbs or some fat from the day to waste on the evening so my teenage girls can help me make quasadillas for supper on a random Thursday with too much snow to try and run it off. I justify it in my head with the 80/20 rule. My girls and I cook a lot of our meals together as a family activity and they like stuff teenage girls are going to like, so we buy skinless cuts, lower fat meats, random concessions to make things a little healthier then I just practice portion control. Most of my workouts are in my garage with kettlebells or other equipment I have and I'll plan meals that need to bake for 30 minutes or so around evenings I want to knock something short out so we can prep together then they can Netflix and monitor the oven with my 2 year old while I pick things up and put them down.