Living The Lifestyle Thursday Late Addition Sorry! 1/18/18
imastar2
Posts: 6,369 Member
We had a Snow and Ice day yesterday in Atlanta Metro and North Ga and got my days mixed up. This morning I had an early meeting and totally forgot to post the LTL.
We meet here to explore, share, celebrate, and (sometimes) agonize over how we do (or don't) incorporate weight loss guidelines into our daily lives. "It's a lifestyle, not a diet" is easily and often said, but sometimes not so simply put into practice.
This is a thread for everyone. If you're new to GoaD, or to weight loss, your questions and comments are always welcome. If you're maintaining, or a long-term loser, your thoughts on the topic may be just what someone else needs to hear. If you're reading this, join in the discussion!
Each weekday, a new topic is offered up for discussion. Thread starters for January are:
Monday - GadgetGirlIL (Regina)
Tuesday - 88olds (George)
Wednesday - Beachwoman2006 (Cindy)
Thursday - Imastar2 (Derrick)
Friday - Jimb376mfp (Jim)
Today's topic: "JUST SAY NO!" We've heard this phrase and so how do you react to "JUST SAY NO" to your food choices. Do you ever feel slighted sometime? because you know that if you don't, the dreaded weight gain comes back. Do you tell yourself I'm just going to be happy with the way I have to eat to maintain or lose weight.?
We meet here to explore, share, celebrate, and (sometimes) agonize over how we do (or don't) incorporate weight loss guidelines into our daily lives. "It's a lifestyle, not a diet" is easily and often said, but sometimes not so simply put into practice.
This is a thread for everyone. If you're new to GoaD, or to weight loss, your questions and comments are always welcome. If you're maintaining, or a long-term loser, your thoughts on the topic may be just what someone else needs to hear. If you're reading this, join in the discussion!
Each weekday, a new topic is offered up for discussion. Thread starters for January are:
Monday - GadgetGirlIL (Regina)
Tuesday - 88olds (George)
Wednesday - Beachwoman2006 (Cindy)
Thursday - Imastar2 (Derrick)
Friday - Jimb376mfp (Jim)
Today's topic: "JUST SAY NO!" We've heard this phrase and so how do you react to "JUST SAY NO" to your food choices. Do you ever feel slighted sometime? because you know that if you don't, the dreaded weight gain comes back. Do you tell yourself I'm just going to be happy with the way I have to eat to maintain or lose weight.?
0
Replies
-
I know I have to say no but I don't always JUST SAY NO!.
Lately I just have gotten all weak with my choices and I'm not really sure why but I'm off course in my mind, willpower and guts to
JUST SAY NO! . It's as if I have just lost my way with this process. I say I want to but I'm not backing it up with action. I feel tired and disgusted but yet I know I can't continue this mindset. This is the longest period this has been going on for me in a long long time and maybe ever since I started WW. I've done pretty well with the meals and like not going crazy with those but with the sweet snacks at night or even a few during the day has been totally out of control. I know all the talking points about don't bring it in the house throw it out get it out of sight etc; but I haven't followed that line of thinking either. I'm gearing up in my businesses and am getting busy. Not sure if that is having an effect or not. I like busy because usually that takes my mind off being hungry or wanting to cheat with the sweets etc: Tomorrow Friday is my weigh in and it's probably not going to be a good one. I'll have to deal with it move on and get back to my senses and get this attitude back under control. I'll continue on as I have in the past and face this board and work on though it and not walk away and just vanish. Why would I ever want to do that just saying. One thing for sure I will be saying JUST SAY NO! to quitting
My confession or rant is over for tonight. On to another day in the morning. Face my WI and my attitude. See y'all tomorrow.
SW 400.8
CW 323.2
Next GW 300.0
Final GW 185.0
77.6 lbs Total lost
0 -
On the advice of Cindy @beachwoman2006 and others, I don't just say no to any food, though I might say it at some particular time (or as I saw recently "Not today, Satan"). I believe keeping both considerations in-mind helps temper the "restriction" imposed at any particular moment.
For me, the intention for going through this effort is becoming clearer: to enjoy the benefits of life in a smaller body. I'm finding I can get behind this reason far more than I could saying I need to lose X number of pounds or that I do this because I 'should' be healthier, etc. I'm feeling it and I still remember myself 80 pounds fatter. I don't want that but I'm not naive enough to think it could never happen again. After all, as Charlie @crewahl reminded me, I'm "not cured; I'm just a fat guy in remission".
As someone who's worked with systems for decades, I accept the reality that there are tradeoffs and especially for me in this context. While nothing's off the table (thanks GOAD) everything comes at a price. Right now I'm gaining some momentum more fully appreciating what I can do with the body I've worked to create. I certainly don't kid myself about where's I'm at in that regard. However, I do find myself wanting more so I'm willing to make the tradeoffs to maintain my weight and enjoy life in a smaller body. To do that, I've got to say no at times. Fair tradeoff as far as I'm concerned...1 -
It think I start the week with limited number of NOs in my repertoire. I try to avoid using them up.
Sometimes Just Say No is the only option but I try to avoid that. Sometimes Just Say No feels great. Like I can conquer the world.
OTOH few things in weight loss feel worse than Just Say No fail. :-(0 -
"JUST SAY NO!"
If I wanted to, I probably couldn't. The flexability WW offers allows me , within reason, to enjoy whatever I really want to eat.
Do I make choices, based on plan, remaining daily SPs, what's going on the rest of the day/week? Of course.
Am I always successful? No. However, often enough to "maintain" my current weight, instead of going back up into the 300#s.1 -
I reads an interesting article on developing discipline as a muscle in regards to WL. The premise was that every time you used the discipline muscle it made it stronger. If we give in to every temptation EVERY time we do not strengthen our discipline/will power.
I know when I'm struggling with a decision to "JUST SAY NO!" or say "Oh it's OK I'll count the Points." I feel "stronger" when I Just Say No and the desire for it goes away. Much of what we want is just a mental idea that it will taste good. But how long does that Taste Good feeling stay with you? Not as long as the remorse of eating it and having a Gain at WI!
Start developing your discipline muscle, it does get stronger through repetitive and recurring use. Eventually it becomes a GOOD Habit and and something you just do.1 -
There was an article about decisional fatigue a couple years ago in the New York Times(?). The basic premise is that we all have to make many decisions throughout the day about all aspects of our of lives. At some point we just get fatigued and that is when it is easier to just give "Just Say No" the boot. I know that is true for me. Much harder for me to stick with my plan after a long, draining day at work when I've been blindsided multiple times.1
-
Avoidance and diversion work ever so much better than trying to stare down the devil with no no no. Even folks who appear to have "willpower" are often taking their minds elsewhere.
Habits and diversion is the key.2 -
This is a really topic. I agree with podkey on habit, diversion, and avoidance. I also agree with Cindy about decision fatigue. Sometimes when I'm really beat, I just can't make any more decisions.1
-
'No' is a great tool for me when I'm feeling weak. In those moments, saying no to myself once, and meaning it, is much easier then making a decision over and over. And in the end, I feel great and am proud of myself. I love turning a tough day into a victory. I had a saying on my GoaD page, went something like ... Sometimes it's easier to say 'no' then 'no more'.
On the other hand, I haven't ever said no to anything with the intention of it being forever. Sometimes I've given up a problem food for a time, but I always know I'll eat it again. For example, I recently gave up diet Coke. It was necessary! I was drinking close to a 2L a day. It was crazy! I decided to allow myself an occasional pop, but not at a restaurant where 1 could turn into 10 with free refills. Noone was more surprised than me when I treated myself to a DC the other day and found it to be too acidic.
I'm not fooling myself. I'll drink it again I'm sure. But for now, I'm enjoying other no cal beverages, being spared the food cravings that go with DC (for me chips, nuts, pizza) and saving $$$. It's a win ... for now! 1 -
@linmueller I gave up diet sodas back on 2/24/17 when at my first meeting with my dietitian she said the carbonated water was really bad for the tummy. So I gave up all carbonated drinks including any kind of carbonated water. I have had a handful since but not many and agree with you. There seems to be some kind of weird taste to them now something akin to an bad after taste. Happier for letting them go. Water is so much better for me and tea.
SW 400.8
CW 319.1
Next GW 300.0
Final GW 185.0
81.7 lbs Total lost0 -
@imastar2 Good for you!
Paring down to tea and water is the next step. For now im drinking a lot of crystal light. I do add more water than it says, so maybe the logical way to get to straight water is to make it more and more diluted over time. I definitely feel better without all the carbonation!
And thanks @imastar2 for the post! I really hadn't given any thought to getting rid of CL, but why not! It's got to be a good thing! Funny how it never crossed my mind LOL0
This discussion has been closed.