Living the Lifestyle - Friday 3/30/2018
Al_Howard
Posts: 9,910 Member
We meet here to explore, share, celebrate, and (sometimes) agonize over how we do (or don't) incorporate weight loss guidelines into our daily lives. "It's a lifestyle, not a diet" is easily and often said, but sometimes not so simply put into practice.
This is a thread for everyone. If you're new to GoaD, or to weight loss, your questions and comments are always welcome. If you're maintaining, or a long-term loser, your thoughts on the topic may be just what someone else needs to hear. If you're reading this, join in the discussion!
Each weekday, a new topic is offered up for discussion. Thread starters for March are:
Monday - whathapnd (Emmie)
Tuesday - 88olds (George)
Wednesday - Calvin2008Brian
Thursday - misterhub (Greg)
Friday - Al_Howard
Today's Topic:Turn sabotage to support
The people in your life, while meaning well, can sometimes wind up setting you back. You know how it goes: "You look fine just the way you are." "But I made it just for you!" "Can't you take a break from your diet?"
How do you handle it? Get angry? Ignore? Cave in? Use it to your advantage.
I'll be back later. Busy day.
This is a thread for everyone. If you're new to GoaD, or to weight loss, your questions and comments are always welcome. If you're maintaining, or a long-term loser, your thoughts on the topic may be just what someone else needs to hear. If you're reading this, join in the discussion!
Each weekday, a new topic is offered up for discussion. Thread starters for March are:
Monday - whathapnd (Emmie)
Tuesday - 88olds (George)
Wednesday - Calvin2008Brian
Thursday - misterhub (Greg)
Friday - Al_Howard
Today's Topic:Turn sabotage to support
The people in your life, while meaning well, can sometimes wind up setting you back. You know how it goes: "You look fine just the way you are." "But I made it just for you!" "Can't you take a break from your diet?"
How do you handle it? Get angry? Ignore? Cave in? Use it to your advantage.
I'll be back later. Busy day.
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Back from my meeting. We had some interesting responses from the ladies there.
To the "can't you take a break", or :can you have that", the best one IMHO was "Why do you ask that?"
The "'I made it just for you" was "I'm so full right now. I'll take it home and eat it when I can really enjoy it."
General concensus was that food pushers, usually, aren't malicious, just caring, or oblivious.
Of course there were some snarky remarks, that one gal said was just for close family.
Our ML shared that her dad called her this morning, asked her to go the the best (busiest) candy shop in the area for some specific Easter candy for him and her mom. Of course it's HER favorite shop also.0 -
When I started GOAD there was a guy here named Larry. Miss him.
Anyway, DW brought home pizza, a whatever for her and the kids, a small thin crust veggie for me. I hit the roof. Pizza was not my plan. I get on GOAD and put up a post Sabotage!
Larry responded and talked me back from the ledge. Maybe DW was trying to be helpful. After all, it was a small, thin, veggie. Yeah, I think there was a interference factor involved but that experience made me more cautious with making the sabotage allegation.
Not that sabotage does not exist. I’ve sat in plenty of meetings and listened to stories that left no doubt. But if I’m going to say that about DW, I’m talking about the same DW that’s made me gallons and gallons of zero point soup.
So to answer the question, we’re talking just another challenge. It doesn’t matter what anyone else does or their motives, only matters what I do. Dunkin Donut didn’t put that store on the corner just to mess with me.1 -
For whatever reason I don't get much of that. Perhaps everybody knows I need to lose weight. They do notice when I lose the weight however. I gotta say this extra 30 lbs I put on is really getting to me. Concentrating on it every meal and everyday.
SW 400.8
CW 327.0
Next GW 300.0
Final GW 185.0
73.8 bs Total lost
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Fortunately not toooooo much of that going on except for some of the food items DW brings home. I don't really have food pushers so much in my life. Maybe because that is because I am older. I don't have a canned strategy but wing it on a case by case basis. sometimes succeed sometimes don't.0
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Always interesting for me to listen to WW members (wives) talk about their DHs. (I keep my mouth shut
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One lady Thursday commented how her DH was a fixer type. If she had a problem he would find the solution. He fixed his own weight problem by becoming a runner and said he now runs marathons
She didn’t want his help.
he sounded like he wanted to keep count of her SPs to help her.
The marriage dynamics and weight loss is a dangerous discussion at open forum WW IMHO.
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I am a fortunate one. TOL help each other. OTOH we also sabotage each other. We are co-enablers, and it works both ways.2
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No food pushers in my life at the moment.
I do get the random comment that I don't have to watch my weight with all the exercise I do. Um, yes, actually I do since I know I can out eat my legs.
I'm pretty good at just letting these comments slide off my back.
But the comment recently that got under my skin was an acquaintance being critical that I go out and do long bike rides by myself. WTH? It isn't like I'm riding out in the desert. I wear high visibility clothing, I have numerous lights on my bike even during the daylight hours for safety, and I can change a tire without assistance. Plus I always carry my credit card as many problems can be solved with that. The 126 mile route I did yesterday passed through numerous small towns where services were available. The roads have low traffic volumes and are in good condition.2 -
And, was that friend prepared to join you?0
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@Al_Howard - oh hell no, the weather was too cold for her and she's not a cyclist.0
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LOL. I'm sure I'd be snarky and say, so why are you asking, if you aren't offering to help.0
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Turn sabotage to support: How do you handle it? Get angry? Ignore? Cave in? Use it to your advantage.
I keep it simple. In my newest version, I realize only I control what I eat and drink. I don't blame others for enticing me. I try to use Charlie's method of making my choices--whatever they may be--before loading up my mouth.
I've also gotten to the other side of some of those instances feeling good about my choices so I try to remember how good that NSV can be. Coming through an eat-fest of a holiday the way I actually chose to is very empowering--much more than saying "I couldn't help myself" or "It's Aunt Nancy's fault for baking her delicious caramel pecan pie."
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gadgetgirlIL wrote: »The 126 mile route I did yesterday passed through numerous small towns where services were available. The roads have low traffic volumes and are in good condition.
Awesome--that is fantastic, Regina!!1
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