Flaring temper on keto... Help?
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amandammmq
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Hello all, I have been eating keto for over 3 months now, and I'm pleased with the weight loss, decreased cravings, etc. However, I have noticed that I am WAY more crabby than I used to be, and I feel like it's starting to affect my romantic relationship! I'm usually pretty even keeled, but for the past few months, I lose my temper, feel sad, or get my feelings hurt at the drop of a hat.
I haven't been logging food, but when I was, I was faithfully sticking with 25 net carbs, probably a bit under on fats, and eating more protein than called for. I've been sticking with those recipes that I was cooking when I was logging, and I feel confident that I'm still hitting those marks. Not sure if any of this could be linked? I also do gentle exercise a few times a week and get about 7 hours of sleep per night.
Have others had this happen, and if so, what was the solution? This is not fair to my partner, and it's making me feel miserable (except when I'm trying on smaller trousers, LOL).
I haven't been logging food, but when I was, I was faithfully sticking with 25 net carbs, probably a bit under on fats, and eating more protein than called for. I've been sticking with those recipes that I was cooking when I was logging, and I feel confident that I'm still hitting those marks. Not sure if any of this could be linked? I also do gentle exercise a few times a week and get about 7 hours of sleep per night.
Have others had this happen, and if so, what was the solution? This is not fair to my partner, and it's making me feel miserable (except when I'm trying on smaller trousers, LOL).
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What’s your calorie intake like? I’ve noticed that I go from hungry to hangry really easily on keto, and I try to eat often enough to avoid that because it’s not pleasant!3
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FlyingMolly wrote: »What’s your calorie intake like? I’ve noticed that I go from hungry to hangry really easily on keto, and I try to eat often enough to avoid that because it’s not pleasant!
I'm 5'11" and 195, and take in about 1700-1800 calories per day. I do try to only eat 3 times a day, as recommended by Dr. Fung's books (letting insulin levels calm back down between meal times)0 -
Um, for me, getting my period every 3 (freakin') weeks vs. 4-5 has caused me to have some not-so-pretty moments. And it's heavier, too.0
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Running_and_Coffee wrote: »Um, for me, getting my period every 3 (freakin') weeks vs. 4-5 has caused me to have some not-so-pretty moments. And it's heavier, too.
I'm not noticing any cyclical problems, it's pretty constant throughout the month. I hope this levels out for you, because that sounds terrible!1 -
If you're losing fat you could be dumping stored estrogen into your body. It can lead to PMS-like symptoms.7
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amandammmq wrote: »Hello all, I have been eating keto for over 3 months now, and I'm pleased with the weight loss, decreased cravings, etc. However, I have noticed that I am WAY more crabby than I used to be, and I feel like it's starting to affect my romantic relationship! I'm usually pretty even keeled, but for the past few months, I lose my temper, feel sad, or get my feelings hurt at the drop of a hat.
I haven't been logging food, but when I was, I was faithfully sticking with 25 net carbs, probably a bit under on fats, and eating more protein than called for. I've been sticking with those recipes that I was cooking when I was logging, and I feel confident that I'm still hitting those marks. Not sure if any of this could be linked? I also do gentle exercise a few times a week and get about 7 hours of sleep per night.
Have others had this happen, and if so, what was the solution? This is not fair to my partner, and it's making me feel miserable (except when I'm trying on smaller trousers, LOL).
I'm 64 so not influenced by cyclical mood swings/PMS. Eating keto didn't/doesn't make me "crabby". Probably more to the opposite.
Personally, I would consider whether or not it is the actual relationship or is is it keto? Are you "crabby" in general now or just with the romantic relationship? No need to answer. Just something to ponder maybe.3 -
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I've got the same thing going on but only on day 8 of keto. My poor husband is always hearing it from me lately. I do notice that it's worse when I am really hungry, so I need to try and eat every few hours.1
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Low sodium can have an effect too. symptoms of needing more salt are fatigue, moodiness, headaches, muscle aches, BM issues and such. If you aren't getting at least 3000-5000 mg of sodium a day (2300mg sodium in a tsp of salt) then you might want to increase your salt with boullion, salt tablets, or even a spoon of salt with water.
Also, some people do find that the high fat does not agree with depression or other similar issues. Conversely, most seem to find that LCHF helps with those issues... but there are some for whom very LCHF doesn't agree with them. If you've tried more salt, and are eating enough, you may want to change your carb levels.
Good luck!2 -
amandammmq wrote: »Hello all, I have been eating keto for over 3 months now, and I'm pleased with the weight loss, decreased cravings, etc. However, I have noticed that I am WAY more crabby than I used to be, and I feel like it's starting to affect my romantic relationship! I'm usually pretty even keeled, but for the past few months, I lose my temper, feel sad, or get my feelings hurt at the drop of a hat.
I haven't been logging food, but when I was, I was faithfully sticking with 25 net carbs, probably a bit under on fats, and eating more protein than called for. I've been sticking with those recipes that I was cooking when I was logging, and I feel confident that I'm still hitting those marks. Not sure if any of this could be linked? I also do gentle exercise a few times a week and get about 7 hours of sleep per night.
Have others had this happen, and if so, what was the solution? This is not fair to my partner, and it's making me feel miserable (except when I'm trying on smaller trousers, LOL).
I'm 64 so not influenced by cyclical mood swings/PMS. Eating keto didn't/doesn't make me "crabby". Probably more to the opposite.
Personally, I would consider whether or not it is the actual relationship or is is it keto? Are you "crabby" in general now or just with the romantic relationship? No need to answer. Just something to ponder maybe.
Definitely worth considering! I'm getting irritated by things that definitely did not irritate me prior to starting keto, and I'm more irritable in general... I just manage not to snap when I'm at work and I save my grouchy reactions for home, apparently. :-(0 -
Low sodium can have an effect too. symptoms of needing more salt are fatigue, moodiness, headaches, muscle aches, BM issues and such. If you aren't getting at least 3000-5000 mg of sodium a day (2300mg sodium in a tsp of salt) then you might want to increase your salt with boullion, salt tablets, or even a spoon of salt with water.
Also, some people do find that the high fat does not agree with depression or other similar issues. Conversely, most seem to find that LCHF helps with those issues... but there are some for whom very LCHF doesn't agree with them. If you've tried more salt, and are eating enough, you may want to change your carb levels.
Good luck!
Thank you, I will experiment with this! I'm not noticing the "keto flu" symptoms that I did right at the beginning (that salt did seem to help), but I'll make sure to pay attention to sodium levels. And, if more salt doesn't help, maybe I will play around with carb levels a bit, to find that "edge" or "maximum" amount of carb that I can eat. Great tips!1 -
I noticed that I feel my emotions stronger now that I'm not dulling them with sugar and over eating. I have to actually express myself and deal with things since I don't get the subconscious comfort from sugar/food anymore...8
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I was super moody the other day, everything was irritating me. I was hungry and getting a headache. By the time I got my food home to eat I literally had a meltdown because my hamburger wasn't good. I had a cry and realized I needed salt. I ate some salt with a glass of water and finished my supper off with an avocado loaded with salt and I felt better within 20 minutes. My husband didn't know what to do with me. I was irrationally upset. I truly believe it was my need for salt.3
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Thank you everyone for all of your comments! Things I will try:
1. more salt
2. calorie intake (making sure I'm getting enough)
3. liver support (mentioned to me elsewhere)
4. increasing meditation/ mindfulness practice (not mentioned to me, but hey, it couldn't hurt)
5. communicating with my partner about what's going on with me so that he is not caught by surprise (not directly mentioned, but once again, it sure couldn't hurt)
Really, thanks to all of you who offered your support, I appreciate it so much!5 -
My guess is low sodium. If you’re not supplementing, it’s pretty much guaranteed to be low. Supplementing is much more than you can get from just salting food.2
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I would think 3 months would put you out of the withdrawal symptoms that might occur from letting go of comfort foods and sugar. It can happen if you consume a lot of caffeine and then reduce or stop all together but they usually subside within a few days or couple weeks. A mindfulness approach might help out (https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/) its not a cure-all but can help you cope with those pesky negative thoughts. It has helped me in listening to my wife, communicating with her, and dealing with my own personal poo before bringing up any issues with her.1
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Good_Morning_Glory wrote: »
It's good to be aware of these things but no need to "own" them just because they do happen to some.1 -
Switching from Keto to low carb had proven to work better for me.
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Good_Morning_Glory wrote: »
LORI!!!!!!1
