Hello Deborah. I can give a bit of insight as to what I've been doing. I'm still struggling but I know that I would weigh at least 30-40 more pounds had I not taken these steps. First, I had to get honest with myself about what was keeping my weight elevated. Emotional eating, an eating disorder, lack of control, possibly a medical reason. Knowing this, I turned to places like MFP and also started to weed out my barriers. Finding a way to keep me motivated by tracking by finding small challenges, seeing a metabolic specialist for testing to rule out medical reasons, counseling to help with my binge eating disorder, giving myself praise for the small victories and looking for way to make small victories, and finding an app that would help me to exercise at home because I can't always get to the gym. I think weeding out all of the small issues instead of tackling the big issue of needing to lose weight one step at a time is what has been helpful to me. I'm not even close to my goal weight but I stopped gaining weight which was huge for me. As far as weight lifting, one benefit to needing to lose fat is that we have readily available weights attached to us lol so bodyweight exercises could be a good place to start, seriously. Hopefully this helps you on your journey and I wish you the best.