May I suggest using different pans ...put your mushrooms in a good with butter ....maybe separate the spinach gratin before its cooked and put heavy cream and full fat cheese in yours ...I know more dishes but you will no how much is in yours

My suggestion would be for you two to sit down once a week to discuss the dinner meal plan for the upcoming week so you can find a way to ensure the meals will meet both your needs. Then you would have been able to flag that balsamic in the mushrooms isn’t going to work for you, and find an alternative way to cook them that you could both eat.

Also, if you know what is coming up, you can plan your breakfast and lunch to even out whatever is in your dinner - eat fewer carbs or more fats in these meals when dinner has more carbs and less fat than you’d like. Your partner can do the same in reverse for his meals, so your evening meals are the compromise for both of you.

If your husband isn’t open to that, you could make your own sides - eat the same meat as your family but have something else you pull out to eat with it that meets your needs.

I know you don’t want to fuss with your kids, but it’s funny that this plays on your mind but not on your husbands, and it is an unfair burden to put on yourself when you have different dietary needs. Women have a harder time losing weight then men because we have less muscle to fat ratio. My partner will lose weight on any diet, but I can’t. If your partner won’t be considerate of your dietary needs, then you need to separate your eating from his. But hopefully a little planning and discussion will allow the two of you to work well together without having to go to that extreme.

(Fyi I have to separate my eating from my partner’s as he will derail me - he just can’t be bothered learning about diet, healthy portion sizes, he is an unreliable cook who might order takeaway on his night even if we agreed to a meal plan of healthy recipes and have all the ingredients ready, etc. In the past I tried to do it with him, as he needs to lose weight too and it would make sense for us to do it together, but I was tripped up too many times by him so now I take responsibility for my meals and mostly leave him to his. My daughter understands I am on a diet and have to eat differently from them.)

It really is simple to eat less of the sides. I eat almost as a carnivore and it is pretty easy. If I make spaghetti and meat sauce, I just eat the meat sauce, maybe with an egg. If I make meatloaf and potatoes I just eat the meatloaf. If it is tacos, I skip the shell, rice and beans and eat the meat and fixings in a bowl. Burgers is just without the bun. It can be easy.

About the only time it is hard is if the meal is a casserole like lasagne or pizza. Then I take some ingredients to the side and make my own. Otherwise you can skip the sides or just eat small amounts.

I like raw veggies, and they are very low fat. I just don't eat a lot. The key to lchf is the low carb. High fat is not needed.

TBH, sauteed mushrooms in basalmic vinegar sounds quite nice.

You didn't mention if you're eating keto but rather mentioned LCHF. I'm in the camp with others who simply suggest balancing things out and balancing your macros with other meals. Or as already suggested eat more meat and less of whatever might be carby. I make potatoes or rice nearly every night for dinner. I just don't eat them.


IMO: In regards to the fat/carbs, there's really nothing wrong with eating a little low fat cheese. I don't but I eat 0 fat Greek yogurt because it is what I like.

A couple extra carbs in low fat something was never my problem in regards to becoming 60 pounds over weight.

You don’t really need him to cook with a lot of fat. You can eat his low fat sides as long as the carbs are still low. If you’re eating some beef and other sides cooked in healthy fat in your other meals, you’re probably getting plenty of fat.