What's different this time?
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I wish I had a great answer for what's different this time. Maybe it's less fad diet, maybe it's concern about ending up on My 600 pound life, maybe it's the fear of being bed bound in my 40's, maybe it's the fear that I'm letting my family down, maybe it's a little bit of everything.
This time though I'm determined to make this work and I've been slowly regaining so much that I had lost. So many people don't realize how much you lose when you're nearing or over 400 pounds.
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ConfidentRaven wrote: »I wish I had a great answer for what's different this time. Maybe it's less fad diet, maybe it's concern about ending up on My 600 pound life, maybe it's the fear of being bed bound in my 40's, maybe it's the fear that I'm letting my family down, maybe it's a little bit of everything.
This time though I'm determined to make this work and I've been slowly regaining so much that I had lost. So many people don't realize how much you lose when you're nearing or over 400 pounds.
I don't get that you are letting fear dictate your actions when I read your posts. You seem empowered.2 -
Differences for me..... 1. I am learning to love myself, the process, the food I eat, the thoughts I have, and the actions I take. I am patient, kind and understanding with myself like I would be with my best friend. 2. Recognizing the difference between my PFC thoughts and my Habit Brain Thoughts. 3. Learning and practicing failing forward and overcoming perfectionism and overwhelm. 4. I have developed a very strong compelling reason, and have answered some very powerful related questions and I review them daily. 5. I am using visualization daily, and always asking myself what actions I took to accomplish my weight loss. 6. I have developed affirmations that help me deal with difficulties I am having with certain types of foods and quantities. 7. I am practicing my awareness of my hunger and fullness, and am working on not buffering with food. 8. I am making a plan daily, and following it, including contingency plans for situations that are difficult to deal with. 9. I am 100% Committed to myself, my plan and my goals. Commitment is the willingness to be uncomfortable and overcome all obstacles or options that stand between me and my goals. 10. I am journalling daily - - my thoughts, assessing my progress, trying new things, and modifying as things don’t work or need improvement.
I am now creating the life of my dreams in an easy and relaxed manner and in a healthy and positive way! This is an experiment, I have nothing to lose in achieving my goals and dreams!4 -
Jackie9003 wrote: »This time I really want to keep it off and carry on with the good habits I am learning.
Last time I got to a "nice" weight (still over weight though) then I got pregnant, divorced and made redundant and I hit the comfort food cycle of eating.
I definitely won't get pregnant this time, I'm recently remarried so not expecting a divorce and if I'm offered redundancy I'll take semi-retirement.
I can't fail really
It would appear that the death of my ex-husband is something I didn't factor into the mix......
I'm not quitting but I'm struggling to stay on track and struggling to be organised and plan ahead with my meals so we've been hitting the takeaways and convenience foods. After the initial shock, and then declaring how important it is to be healthy and look after yourself, the last few days have been very much f**k it, you only live once.
I'm sure this is just part of the grieving process, but I am very much aware this could be a trigger event that leads to my downfall - at least in the short term.
I do keep reading through the posts in this group though, and that is really helping, so thank you to everyone.5 -
Jackie9003 wrote: »Jackie9003 wrote: »This time I really want to keep it off and carry on with the good habits I am learning.
Last time I got to a "nice" weight (still over weight though) then I got pregnant, divorced and made redundant and I hit the comfort food cycle of eating.
I definitely won't get pregnant this time, I'm recently remarried so not expecting a divorce and if I'm offered redundancy I'll take semi-retirement.
I can't fail really
It would appear that the death of my ex-husband is something I didn't factor into the mix......
I'm not quitting but I'm struggling to stay on track and struggling to be organised and plan ahead with my meals so we've been hitting the takeaways and convenience foods. After the initial shock, and then declaring how important it is to be healthy and look after yourself, the last few days have been very much f**k it, you only live once.
I'm sure this is just part of the grieving process, but I am very much aware this could be a trigger event that leads to my downfall - at least in the short term.
I do keep reading through the posts in this group though, and that is really helping, so thank you to everyone.
The bolded part is the part that matters for your long term goals. Don't quit.
Your short term goal is to grieve and take care of yourself. If it needs to means takeaways and convenience food that is what it means.1 -
I saw a thread on the boards and thought it would be interesting to hear what's different this time for the larger losers.
Most of us have tried and failed in the past. What's different this time around that makes it easier for you?
My son. He's 2.5, and the cutest little thing I've ever seen. He loves to rough-house and run and laugh. I want to do those things with him without feeling like I'm going to pass out. I want to stick around to see him graduate highschool, college...or to do whatever he's going to do in his life. He is my motivation, and I've been so much more successful this time around than I have in the past with my weight loss.
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The difference for me this time is that I have made up my mind that I am really doing this!...some days are more difficult than others but it’s all good....my weight is going down and I feel better than I have in a long time....having MFP and family support helps a lot...you have to eat less but you must keep your head in the game!2
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So the biggest difference for me this time is the largest losers support. I always wanted to lose weight. Everytime I would walk up stairs and breath hard I would say to myself I need to lose weight. I have used MFP off and on for probably 5 years. I have lost close to 100 pounds and gained it all back again. I dont know anything more today than I did 4 years ago about weight loss. I never found or participated in any kind of group before though. I always did it on my own and it always failed. This time I found LL and at least so far it has kept me more engaged, and brought me back from falling off the wagon a lot quicker.7
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »Sorry to post this because I don’t advise it but the last time I flew, I didn’t want to ask for an extender so I simply wrapped the seat belt around me and pretended it was fastened...this was so dangerous and so stupid but I didn’t want to bring attention to the fact that I needed an extender....oh, the things we do to hide our extra pounds....
I hear ya. I actually stole one (I plan on giving it back when I don't need it) so I wouldn't have to ask. I keep it in my backpack just in case...Some of those seatbelts are way shorter than others.2 -
I never thought about “ taking “ one lol......maybe when I fly next time I won’t need one!....0
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I finally decided to get the gastric sleeve surgery because I knew I wasn't able to do it on my own. Everytime I tried, my starting point was always higher. I have at least 150-180lbs to loose to be in a "healthy" zone again. I'm almost two months out from surgery and down 44lbs. So it's working. I'm logging everything I eat and sticking to 900-1000 cals a day (per my doctor's recommendation). I've even started water aerobics 1-3 times a week and I'm feeling better already. It's a long and slow process but one I'm committed to this time around.0
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I finally decided to get the gastric sleeve surgery because I knew I wasn't able to do it on my own. Everytime I tried, my starting point was always higher. I have at least 150-180lbs to loose to be in a "healthy" zone again. I'm almost two months out from surgery and down 44lbs. So it's working. I'm logging everything I eat and sticking to 900-1000 cals a day (per my doctor's recommendation). I've even started water aerobics 1-3 times a week and I'm feeling better already. It's a long and slow process but one I'm committed to this time around.
@Skycosmo
Welcome to LL
I do not have a rule against people joining who have had WLS. I would try to talk anyone out of it but that would be in hopes that the decision was considered very carefully as I am sure it was with you. I can only walk in my own shoes so I do my best not to judge these kinds of decisions.
My big concern is that you feel the sleeve is making your weight loss possible. People gain weight with the sleeve so I would like to encourage you to believe you are at least MOSTLY doing this on your own and the sleeve is a tool. I think it is dangerous to think the sleeve is doing most of the heavy lifting. There are no real shortcuts or solutions outside of ourselves.3 -
What is different this time? For me it is that EVERYTHING I do is public. ALL my weigh ins are posted not only here but on Twitter and elsewhere.
Instead of doing everything alone and in seclusion, by building a large community of like minded individuals around me, it has become a self perpetuating circle of inspiration and accountability. For me it is important to find those who are of a similar mindset.
By surrounding myself with highly dedicated and motivated, accept no excuses type of people it serves to propel me higher and farther than I could achieve on my own.
Aside from that I also have a very varied program of exercises that broke me out of the cardio focused mold that I was in in the past. That keeps my body from ever acclimating to exercises and always ramps up the challenge.
So my program is DDP Yoga, Personal Training, Serious weight lifting, Aqua Zumba and walking when I am not doing any of the other listed here.
When I say yoga, it is NOTHING like what people associate the word yoga with.
Here is a timelapse of my session on thursday.
https://youtu.be/Mhny-pJhGTY 3 -
What’s different for me? I just had a baby 10 months ago and I said enough is enough I want to be around to enjoy my kids. I also wanted to feel good about myself and show my two older girls that there mom can change mine and their lifestyle for the better. I was also tired of seeing all these people on social that lost weight and wished it was me.4
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I'm doing it for my health and that's never been the main reason. Obesity health issues such as heart problems diabetes, etc., were just something that I may one day develop and now that I have NAFLD and osteoarthritis in my knee I know for certain that I don't want to develop any more issues. That for me has made the biggest difference. The other difference is that I am taking steps to deal with my issues with food from a mental health standpoint and I am working on establishing better habits. Sometimes these habits are the only thing that save me from going off the rails but that's their purpose. I'm still a work in progress, but I have made changes that I feel are sustainable.3
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I'm doing it for my health and that's never been the main reason. Obesity health issues such as heart problems diabetes, etc., were just something that I may one day develop and now that I have NAFLD and osteoarthritis in my knee I know for certain that I don't want to develop any more issues. That for me has made the biggest difference. The other difference is that I am taking steps to deal with my issues with food from a mental health standpoint and I am working on establishing better habits. Sometimes these habits are the only thing that save me from going off the rails but that's their purpose. I'm still a work in progress, but I have made changes that I feel are sustainable.
I can totally relate. The best part about our habit brain is once we train it to do what we need to do, it helps us stay the course. You got this!2 -
I have no problem losing weight. I've done it twice before, losing about 100 lbs each time, only to put it back on because I let stress get to me and used food as a soother. When I'm committed to losing weight, I am pretty compulsive about sticking with it (the old "all or nothing" mindset). What's different this time is that I've been told I'm prediabetic, and I WILL NOT let myself become diabetic. That means that yes, I'm going to re-lose that 100 lbs (plus) for the third time, but this time I have to make sure I keep it off and limit refined sugar for good.
In the past, my husband has joined me on the weight loss journey, but this time he's not, and that's ok. Every time he offers junk food, I just say "sorry, I can't" because my health is dependent on following through with a healthier lifestyle. In the last two months, I have indulged in junk food only twice. Those were for special occasions (birthday and Thanksgiving), and I've just went with way smaller portions.
The real tests will come with stress and/or depression. Typically self-care is the first thing I throw out the window. I have to be ready for the inevitable and have a plan to keep putting my health first. I don't HAVE a plan yet, but I will. Soon
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I am the queen of “yo yo every Monday morning “ starting a diet!...I do not have diabetes but I have high blood pressure and high cholesterol both controlled with medication....I have also had both knees replaced and a shoulder repaired....I wish I had decided to get serious about getting healthy a long time ago!...I might not have been a very healthy young woman but I am going to be a rockin’ older one!...I am so determined to get this weight off and not waste the rest of my life....if you suffer from depression,tell your doctor...I had very severe depression last spring and the meds I am taking plus losing weight have helped so much...good luck on your journey!...we are all here to listen,and to help and to share....4
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I still have over 100 to lose2
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Hi everyone!
I'm new here. I'm not very disciplined regarding food and can't rely on motivation as it tends to disappear when most needed. So I've learned recently that following helps me to lose weight:
• black coffee - no calories, speeds up digestion (1-2 cups per day)
• water in every room I spend the most time in (office, kitchen, living room and bedroom) in beautiful carafe with cucumber/berries or similar. Then I drink more and eat less
• I don't diet/starve anymore. No more 1200kcal, 500kcal, monodiet, etc. I eat around my BMR (1800kcal) real food I love and try to cook from scratch. I like to eat a lot and thus must carefully choose my ingredients to eat A LOT of what I love (e.g. lasagne - I add a lot of veggies and cut back on pasta)
• I pre-plan my food carefully and eat at same time every day, no snacking
• I don't add sugar anywhere - this keeps my sugar level stable and I have less binges
• If I fail, I don't give up nor do I eat less on following meal/day/week. I know, that every single time it ends with binge-eating (which might continue for weeks). Instead, my following meal is regular one. One mistake doesn't "kill it all" and is just a minor bump on the road.
• Similar list I wrote down and keep close to me. I need to remind myself what works and what doesn't, when motivation sleeps
These tips helped me to lose my first 15 pounds and hope that shall help in future also as I need to lose much much more
Wish us all good luck 🌷8 -
@Ver9nika those are very sensible and practical tips, thank you for sharing. I like your ideas so much I wrote them down and keep them close to me with thanks to you each time I read it.2
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The difference this time is that I am actually doing it!1
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I’m a typical “I’ll start on Monday” I’ve done this for the past 3 years!
I think the difference for me this time is that I realise that my weight Is having an impact on my little boy. I don’t have the energy or fitness to run around with him like I should. I want to be a good example to him.3
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