Hi again!
FitByFifty1970
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Hello all! I have been gone for a while and I will say right now I've missed you. I have not yet read any posts but I will do so over the next few days.
I had my hip replaced in early March; right in the nick of time and have been isolating since then. I have been dating someone I met in mid-December; things were going super fast and then late February he had a meltdown. Between us going so fast, his ex being a psycho, and our physical connection not being functional due to my health it was too much for him. But we talked and decided to not break up but to pause things and he'd still take care of me from my surgery. It was awkward for a bit but now we are closer than ever. I have hopes we'll be just fine going forward but I'm not looking too far down the road and am enjoying being together in the moment.
My surgery went well overall but I was so atrophied my recovery has been slow. Add to that I only had a few PT sessions. She was still going to many homes and I didn't want to risk her bringing in germs to my home. So I was basically on my own for PT. Then I got a huge DVT in my entire leg so I'm back to wearing a full leg compression stocking and will be on blood thinners for many months which sucks for a variety of reasons.
Here's the weird part. I've been sitting around doing nothing but I've lost weight, like 11 pounds! Weird stuff. I am a good cook but the boyfriend is an exceptional cook. I've been baking which I love to do. I'm sure now I have to actually work at this but damn, I would love to continue to literally do nothing, not log, eat as I've been eating and lose weight. I am over 50 pounds lost now and am out of the plus sizes. I bought two dresses at Target (mail order) and both are XL and I think 1 is too big and the other is pretty close to being too big. I'm also near a sweet milestone - I'm so close to being under 200. I will be thrilled when (not if) I hit 180. Eventually I want to get to 14# but I have to focus on walking better (I have a huge limp) and healing...then I'll press for more weight loss.
Anyway - sorry for the long post - lots happening since I last checked in. I will read up on you guys and all you've been up to since the world went upside down. Be well.
I had my hip replaced in early March; right in the nick of time and have been isolating since then. I have been dating someone I met in mid-December; things were going super fast and then late February he had a meltdown. Between us going so fast, his ex being a psycho, and our physical connection not being functional due to my health it was too much for him. But we talked and decided to not break up but to pause things and he'd still take care of me from my surgery. It was awkward for a bit but now we are closer than ever. I have hopes we'll be just fine going forward but I'm not looking too far down the road and am enjoying being together in the moment.
My surgery went well overall but I was so atrophied my recovery has been slow. Add to that I only had a few PT sessions. She was still going to many homes and I didn't want to risk her bringing in germs to my home. So I was basically on my own for PT. Then I got a huge DVT in my entire leg so I'm back to wearing a full leg compression stocking and will be on blood thinners for many months which sucks for a variety of reasons.
Here's the weird part. I've been sitting around doing nothing but I've lost weight, like 11 pounds! Weird stuff. I am a good cook but the boyfriend is an exceptional cook. I've been baking which I love to do. I'm sure now I have to actually work at this but damn, I would love to continue to literally do nothing, not log, eat as I've been eating and lose weight. I am over 50 pounds lost now and am out of the plus sizes. I bought two dresses at Target (mail order) and both are XL and I think 1 is too big and the other is pretty close to being too big. I'm also near a sweet milestone - I'm so close to being under 200. I will be thrilled when (not if) I hit 180. Eventually I want to get to 14# but I have to focus on walking better (I have a huge limp) and healing...then I'll press for more weight loss.
Anyway - sorry for the long post - lots happening since I last checked in. I will read up on you guys and all you've been up to since the world went upside down. Be well.
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Wow. A lot has happened. I am glad to see you. I often wonder when I have not seen a person post in some time.
Please take care of yourself while you are healing. Eat loads of protein.
It is no surprise to me that you lost weight without trying. One of the major myths of weight loss is that it has to be hard or it is not working. People do lose weight without purposeful action all the time.
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Ha, yes lots have happened for sure. I stopped by my house last Thursday and was 200.6. Great number as it's 55.4 pounds down and so close to 1##. Still not tracking again yet. I have to have food in the morning with my blood thinner so I usually have toast with butter and some grapes or pineapple. The boyfriend doesn't do breakfast and has a very light lunch. I usually skip lunch but eat something around 2-3 since we don't eat dinner until 7pm. It's a weird combination of food like cheese, pretzels, cut veggies, chips/salsa. We eat together each night around 7pm; he usually cooks and I eat whatever he makes. But that's about it. I rarely snack after dinner before bed which is around midnight/1am. If we're drinking all bets are off then since snacking is totally happening. Like tonight we plan on doing a fake drive in experience (bringing a laptop outside) and eating junk for dinner (frozen pizza, hot dogs, french fries, dairy queen buster bar) and drinking a lot of tequila. And I have zero guilt and will enjoy it completely.
I brought my scale from my house to use it at his place, his is the old fashioned non-digital kind. I checked today (doesn't count) and it was 199.6 so I have hope for this coming week for it to be under 2## for the first time since I think 2014 (and even then it didn't last very long).
I also bought more dresses at Target, the loose bohemian kind, all in XL and they fit. Damn. I am in size 16 jeans and I tried on some work clothes for whenever I have to go in and my size 16 suit pants are on (tight and not pretty without a top covering the oozing, but on nonetheless). Suit jacket is a loose 18 but that's the big boob issue, I can't get the 16 to button across them.
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Hi again....again.,......I fell off the radar again. I sold my house this summer and moved in with my boyfriend so that was a lot going on.
LONG POST - but fyi I do read the threads when I can and do enjoy them a lot. I will try harder to be more active here. I do appreciate this site and this page more than I realized and you need to hear that.
As for my weight loss, I really didn't actively try to do anything and I didn't weigh in regularly. Dealing with the blood clots from surgery and moving, it was a lot going on. My mid-May weight was low 200.#/high 199.# and I stayed there for a really long time. Then something weird happened. I had two physicals, one was a detailed 'executive' one that my work offers folks at my level, and my follow up with my regular doctor. Had great results in spite of my size. The exec one had a stress test included and basically he said 'there is an athlete trying to get out' haha - no...no there isn't. Then my doc explained how pointless those tests are (false positives, especially in women are huge) and ran other numbers and still came up with awesome results. Then....after Halloween....ugh....
My boyfriend wanted to do a 'kick start' for himself, a stupid week long fad diet (starvation). I did it with him for support and it helped him to cut back on his nighttime snacking, he ate a lot after dinner/during the night. But for me, for whatever reason, I couldn't stop eating after that. I gained over 6 pounds from Nov until the new year. Put me at 203.8 on Jan 2nd. Very discouraging.
My size 16 jeans were getting TIGHT and I felt like crap. In the car I heard an ad for a betting contest where you bet on yourself to lose weight. I am TOO private for that but I do like to gamble. Since I knew my boyfriend was also wanting to lose weight we came up with a fun challenge. Starting on Thur Jan 21st we would weigh in, then start an 18 week challenge, to the Friday before Memorial Day. We each put up $500 and set a goal to lose and if we BOTH hit them we use the money and take a vacation. If we both don't hit the goal we donate the money to the food bank. I set a goal of 25 pounds figuring in 18 weeks that is achievable. I wanted to set 30 but was nervous it was a stretch. He set a goal of 30 for himself. I also took five $100 bills and taped them around the kitchen, some in the fridge in the cheese drawer, some in the cabinet with the snacks. He did the same, putting all $500 over his sweet stash. Oh, I also set up a reward cycle, non-food, for every 5 pound lost. And another reward for when the midpoint to goal is hit. I like that so it takes the overwhelming huge total down into manageable bits.
So far it's been 4 weeks today and he's crushing it, down 18.2 but he's not really eating and is exercising a lot. I'm doing a slow and steady, staying under 1500 calories and not really moving much yet, but I'm down 11.6 and weighed in at 192.4. I am really excited about that. In two weeks I'll be in the 180s. I was about 180 in 2010/2011 so that is coming REALLY close - by the end of the challenge I'll hit that and I'm stoked.
My size 16s are loose in the hip and butt (everywhere but in my gut, I have a huge fat lower belly that hangs, it's vile, he's never seen me naked because of that and my nasty boobs, I was going to get them reduced/lifted but cancelled for COVID and I'm scared - I'm high risk. So maybe next year I'll do it, that is just a week off, the belly is way more recovery but I want it so much). If anyone knows of where to get a serious 'binder' (like Spanx but more powerful) please let me know. The belly is impacting me mentally now that the rest of me is starting to really shrink.
I'll move into the tight 14s this week. Didn't want to rush it but by the end of the challenge I should be stuffing myself into a size 12.
It hasn't been that easy, our eating habits are very different. He doesn't eat until dinner and I don't like a huge dinner. He doesn't track anything and well, I'm here, so I do. We menu plan for the week which helps me out but I am not eating enough during the day because of our large dinners, it just isn't how I like to live. But he's the cook and so for now I'm just going with it. The few times I do get to cook the meals are considerably smaller. But we enjoy the weekends a lot. Saturday is always party night with pizza and booze. For his 10 pound reward we had a 2nd party night so I factor all of that into my diary in advance.
Since we still cannot get vaccinated yet even though we're eligible, no appointments where I live, so we will reassess and probably do another challenge for the summer. He loves Halloween so much so I'm really hoping to be small enough by then to fit into a fun costume for him.
Meanwhile, some stats
Sep 8, 2019 - started in at 256.0
Dec 21, 2019 - met the boyfriend
Dec 22, 2019 - weighed 221.0
Feb 28, 2020 - weighed 215.0
March 9, 2020 - hip replacement
April 20, 2020 - allowed to bend and move 'normally'
April 25, 2020 - weighed 204.0
Summer - hovered between 200.6 and 198.4
Jan 2, 2021 - weighed 203.8
Jan 21, 2021 - start of challenge 204.0
Jan 28, 2021 - 198.6
Feb 4, 2021 - 196.6
Feb 11, 2021 - 194.6
Feb 18, 2021 - 192.4 so since I met the guy I've lost 28.6 pounds and 63.6 total since the beginning. WOW. Yea for me!
wk Date Weight Weekly Loss To Date Loss % Weekly Loss % loss to date Avg lost/week
9/8/19 256.0
1 9/15/19 252.8 3.2 3.2 1.25% 1.25% 3.2
2 9/22/19 248.8 4.0 7.2 1.58% 2.81% 3.6
3 9/29/19 246.2 2.6 9.8 1.05% 3.83% 3.3
4 10/6/19 242.6 3.6 13.4 1.46% 5.23% 3.4
5 10/13/19 241.4 1.2 14.6 0.49% 5.70% 2.9
6 10/20/19 239.6 1.8 16.4 0.75% 6.41% 2.7
7 10/27/19 236.4 3.2 19.6 1.34% 7.66% 2.8
8 11/3/19 234.4 2.0 21.6 0.85% 8.44% 2.7
9 11/10/19 235.4 (1.0) 20.6 -0.43% 8.05% 2.3
10 11/17/19 233.2 2.2 22.8 0.93% 8.91% 2.3
11 11/24/19 230.0 3.2 26.0 1.37% 10.16% 2.4
12 12/1/19 226.2 3.8 29.8 1.65% 11.64% 2.5
13 12/8/19 225.0 1.2 31.0 0.53% 12.11% 2.4
14 12/15/19 225.2 (0.2) 30.8 -0.09% 12.03% 2.2
15 12/22/19 221.0 4.2 35.0 1.87% 13.67% 2.3
16 12/29/19 221.0 0.0 35.0 0.00% 13.67% 2.2 didn't weigh
17 1/5/20 221.0 0.0 35.0 0.00% 13.67% 2.1 didn't weigh
18 1/12/20 221.0 0.0 35.0 0.00% 13.67% 1.9 didn't weigh
19 1/20/20 222.0 (1.0) 34.0 -0.45% 13.28% 1.8
20 1/26/20 222.0 0.0 34.0 0.00% 13.28% 1.7 didn't weigh
21 2/2/20 222.0 0.0 34.0 0.00% 13.28% 1.6 didn't weigh
22 2/9/20 222.0 0.0 34.0 0.00% 13.28% 1.5 didn't weigh
23 2/16/20 222.0 0.0 34.0 0.00% 13.28% 1.5 didn't weigh
24 2/28/20 215.0 7.0 41.0 3.15% 16.02% 1.7
25 3/1/20 215.0 0.0 41.0 0.00% 16.02% 1.6 didn't weigh
26 3/8/20 215.0 0.0 41.0 0.00% 16.02% 1.6 didn't weigh
27 3/15/20 215.0 0.0 41.0 0.00% 16.02% 1.5 didn't weigh
28 3/22/20 215.0 0.0 41.0 0.00% 16.02% 1.5 didn't weigh
29 3/29/20 215.0 0.0 41.0 0.00% 16.02% 1.4 didn't weigh
30 4/5/20 215.0 0.0 41.0 0.00% 16.02% 1.4 didn't weigh
31 4/15/20 207.0 8.0 49.0 3.72% 19.14% 1.6
32 4/19/20 207.0 0.0 49.0 0.00% 19.14% 1.5 didn't weigh
33 4/25/20 204.0 3.0 52.0 1.45% 20.31% 1.6
34 5/3/20 204.0 0.0 52.0 0.00% 20.31% 1.5 didn't weigh
35 5/10/20 204.0 0.0 52.0 0.00% 20.31% 1.5 didn't weigh
36 5/14/20 200.6 3.4 55.4 1.67% 21.64% 1.5
37 5/21/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.5 didn't weigh
38 5/28/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.5 didn't weigh
39 6/4/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.4 didn't weigh
40 6/11/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.4 didn't weigh
41 6/18/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.4 didn't weigh
42 6/25/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.3 didn't weigh
43 7/2/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.3 didn't weigh
44 7/9/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.3 didn't weigh
45 7/16/20 200.6 0.0 55.4 0.00% 21.64% 1.2 didn't weigh
46 7/21/20 199.8 0.8 56.2 0.40% 21.95% 1.2
47 7/26/20 199.8 0.0 56.2 0.00% 21.95% 1.2 didn't weigh
48 8/2/20 199.8 0.0 56.2 0.00% 21.95% 1.2 didn't weigh
49 8/9/20 199.8 0.0 56.2 0.00% 21.95% 1.1 didn't weigh
50 8/17/20 199.0 0.8 57.0 0.40% 22.27% 1.1
51 8/23/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.1 didn't weigh
52 8/30/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.1 didn't weigh
53 9/6/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.1 didn't weigh
54 9/13/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.1 didn't weigh
55 9/20/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.0 didn't weigh
56 9/27/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.0 didn't weigh
57 10/4/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.0 didn't weigh
58 10/11/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.0 didn't weigh
59 10/18/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.0 didn't weigh
60 10/25/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 1.0 didn't weigh
61 11/1/20 199.0 0.0 57.0 0.00% 22.27% 0.9 didn't weigh
62 11/8/20 198.4 0.6 57.6 0.30% 22.50% 0.9
63 11/15/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.9 didn't weigh
64 11/22/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.9 didn't weigh
65 11/29/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.9 didn't weigh
66 12/6/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.9 didn't weigh
67 12/13/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.9 didn't weigh
68 12/20/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.8 didn't weigh
69 12/27/20 198.4 0.0 57.6 0.00% 22.50% 0.8 didn't weigh
70 1/2/21 203.8 (5.4) 52.2 -2.72% 20.39% 0.7
71 1/10/21 203.8 0.0 52.2 0.00% 20.39% 0.7 didn't weigh
72 1/17/21 203.8 0.0 52.2 0.00% 20.39% 0.7 didn't weigh
73 1/21/21 204.0 (0.2) 52.0 -0.10% 20.31% 0.7
74 1/28/21 198.6 5.4 57.4 2.65% 22.42% 0.8
75 2/4/21 196.6 2.0 59.4 1.01% 23.20% 0.8
76 2/11/21 194.6 2.0 61.4 1.02% 23.98% 0.8
77 2/18/21 192.4 2.2 63.6 1.13% 24.84% 0.8
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Hello again....glad you are still losing weight!2
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Thank you!!!! I cannot believe I'll be in the 180s soon. I feel like when that happens I can really be happy the 200s are truly behind me. How are you?2
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I am now down to 188.2, that is 15.8 pounds since the start of the challenge 6 weeks ago, 26.2 down since my surgery last year March, and 67.8 down from my start in Sept 2019. I posted my spreadsheet on the share your numbers page. I am happy but also feeling bummed. I see the spreadsheet and see all I accomplished yet see how much time was wasted. I also see how I didn't weigh for so long, just trying to recover, and was able to keep steady for a long time so that's positive.
The contest with the boyfriend has been hard because he is so far ahead, he is 75% to his goal in just 6 weeks and there isn't a time where I have my own accomplishment, I hit 15 pounds today in 6 weeks but he hit 20. I guess last week there was, I hit 50% of the challenge but he had a 'bad' (his words) weigh in (ONLY lost 1.4) so he was bummed, took the wind out of my sails. I'm averaging 2 pounds a week which is insane considering I'm not exercising yet and I'm 50, but he's averaging 3.5 a week at age 60. I know it isn't fair to compare, he's a man with more muscle but he's also 10 years older so I should be keeping pace. I am happy for him but I'm jealous and I feel I have to admit it somewhere.
I am not looking for a rah rah reply, I know I'm doing great and my numbers are fantastic taken by themselves. It's just hard to not want to be at the same level of success. He's getting hot, he's a performer and in the spotlight. I've gone from grotesque obese slob to fat f@ck, I still have to get from fat f@ck to chubby. Then from chubby to final weight. It's demoralizing sometimes even when I'm doing well.
Goal for next Thursday is 186.0.3 -
@FitByFifty1970 - I get it. Isn't it great to have this space to vent? When you can admit to being jealous and not be Ms. Ultra Supportive!
Boyfriend must think better thoughts of you and your hotness than you do or he wouldn't be boyfriend!2 -
I think you are being way too hard on yourself...no matter what my size, I was NEVER a fat slob...I am sorry you felt/ feel that way about yourself!2
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lauriekallis wrote: »@FitByFifty1970 - I get it. Isn't it great to have this space to vent? When you can admit to being jealous and not be Ms. Ultra Supportive!
Boyfriend must think better thoughts of you and your hotness than you do or he wouldn't be boyfriend!
He is awesome for sure. He loves me as is. Earlier today I mentioned I've lost over 26 pounds since a year ago when I had my hip surgery. I asked if he remembered what I looked like then vs now and he can't. Just said how amazing it is and to imagine when I had my surgery lugging another 26 pounds around.
But yea, I'm a but jealous and it's ok to feel that way, I still am happy for him and his loss. So glad I have a safe place to get that off my chest!2 -
conniewilkins56 wrote: »I think you are being way too hard on yourself...no matter what my size, I was NEVER a fat slob...I am sorry you felt/ feel that way about yourself!
Glad you carried yourself well - that's fantastic. But I am not being hard on myself. Not facing my reality would be unfair to my future self. I started at almost 260 pounds, shoving myself into 22W (US) clothes, couldn't move, kinda lumbered more than walked, spent my time alone eating crap, my boobs have sagged and stretched that I'm a high risk reduction/ lift patient, couldn't find a bra in normal stores, even online, have a huge belly that hangs down, rolls and rolls of fat everywhere. I was a fat slob. Now as a size 14 I'm fat but at least presentable. I have a way to go to just be chubby but I will get there.2 -
My official weekly weigh in is tomorrow but I check in during the week. I'm down but not a lot, maybe a pound. I feel bloated and gross though I'm not overly hungry. I hope it is my PMS and next week will be better.
I'm firmly in the size 14 (US womens) but feel squishy and almost more flabby than at size 16. Weird.
Not really whining, just getting it out of my head.
Have been trying to do more physically, not much. Walk a mile a day, try to hit 5000 steps. Do a handful of sit ups.
Got my first vaccine shot last week, so did the boyfriend (was so excited I got us appointments on the same day at almlst the same time, only about an hour drive each way). We did an extra party night that night in addition to our weekly Saturday pizza/drinking night. I alloted for it in my calories so no regrets but I KNOW he'll have an amazing weigh in again and I'll be squeaking by with maybe just 1. So jealous but we will see tomorrow. Thanks for "listening" to my randomness.1 -
Oh boy, I wrote up a whole thing and hit 'done' on the screen and lost the post. Then started again and my phone tilted and lost the post. I know it is a free app but wow, what an annoyance.
Ok, so last week was a good one, lost 2.0, posted details in share your numbers. This week we had our usual pizza party and drinking Saturday night and we destroyed st. Patrick's day last night. It was planned so I ate very little during the day (rice cake, pickles, nuts) and upped my water intake. For dinner I made corned beef, cabbage, potatoes, carrots. I had a martini (Bailey's, vanilla vodka, Godiva liquor, glass rimmed in Hershey syrup) that alone was just over 300 calories. Canmot believe I used to have 3 in one night on top of pizza.. Then had tons of Jameson and diet sprite. So salt and booze the night before weigh in, haha. But I'm down 1.6 anyway, can't complain.
When my laptop is free I will post details in the Share Your Numbers post but right now I'm down over 71 since Sept 2019 and over 30 since my surgery March 2020. My first real goal is 14# and will look for my breast reduction and stomach overhang removal but likely want to be 13# for life. Meaning anything from 130-139 is fine (though likely 135-139) so I can keep myself in check and still live life.
Being 184.6 makes the 14# goal seem attainable finally but it will just get harder the more I lose. Also post vaccine there will be a lot of parties. He and his friend are already dividing up missed holidays so there will be SO many stresses.... I am introverted to the max and generally hate being around anyone for any reason. I met the boyfriend Dec 2019 but his shows (musician) were done so never saw him play, the next was St. Patrick's 2020 which was canceled. Anyway, he loves parties and all that and I don't. I need an excessive amount of alone time. We've never dated in the normal world. And we moved in together last summer so like I said, I have a LOT of stress coming my way. I really want to double down on my weight loss before we are free to see other vaccinated people- mid-April.
I did buy size 12 jeans and they fit ok in the hip and thigh, tight in the belly as always. I think 5 more pounds should do it.
The big news is last week I told him my weight. I always told him he'd be floored. I carry my weight well, people know I'm fat, can't hide that but the number is much higher than they realize. So I told him to make a guess and add 15. He was nowhere close and he wasn't sugar coating. So know I've already lost over 30 since meeting him, he cannot fathom me losing another 45+ pounds. I've promised to not be skinny, ewh, and even thin isn't likely for me. I explained I am now down to being fat, I'm heading down to heavy and then will land at chubby. I still want my pizza!!!!2
