September 11
Mrs_Hoffer
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Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
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How do you talk to yourself? No, no, not that kind of talk! I mean, what do you say to yourself when you mess up, or when you do well? Do you treat yourself as nice as you would a stranger that you would like to know? Or do you call yourself names, think of yourself in disparaging terms? Is your best not good enough?
So many times we forget to give ourselves credit for the efforts we have made even if we just messed up a little, or even if we had an on point day. We feel we can NEVER measure up to our own ideal, or tomorrow surely we will fail. And the problem with that is it is self-fulfilling. And those feelings carry over to how we feel about everything.
A couple of quotes that I have found thought-provoking:
"Until you are happy with who you are, you will never be happy with what you have." ~ Zig Ziglar
"You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens." ~ Louise Hay
"Releasing guilt is like removing a huge weight from your shoulders. Guilt is released through the empowering thought of love and respect for yourself. Let go of standards of perfection and refuse to use up the precious currency of your life, the now, with thoughts that continue to frustrate and weaken you. Instead, vow to be better than you used to be. . ." ~ Wayne Dyer
So today what can you say to yourself that is kind, positive, beneficial? If you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, shut that right off. If you wouldn't say it to your child, then don't say it to yourself.
"A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five." ~ Groucho Marx
Have as wonder full a day as you can y'all!9 -
Excellent topic @LeeH31
The kind of person I was would almost always push myself along with self-criticism, or use my (often overused and unnecessary) sense of humor to provide another dose of self deprecating wit to push myself along and allow me laugh at my own poor, pitiful, loser, idiot self. Because if I didn't keep that poor, pitiful, loser, idiot self under control then God only knows what level of stupidity I might unleash (that part of me has such a huge grin now from typing all that out and is feeling very satisfied).
Things started changing in those regards as a sort of accidental fallout from taking up long distance running. While I'm certain that I initially pushed myself in a negative manner to run distances I never thought possible for myself to achieve, by achieving them and then marveling at what I accomplished made me wonder what else I was capable of. That started a cascading change in perspective where it became no different to critically motivate myself than to enjoy where I was while doing it and try to see how much more of that enjoyment I could "endure". (hard to explain joyful discomfort, but it is a thing that happens, ask any runner looking forward to their next long run how much just thinking about it makes them smile, despite the cringeworthy nature of the act itself).
Once those two kinds of motivation were equally effective, I found I naturally used the positive motivation more and more. To do otherwise, to me at least, seems like an unnecessary and unhealthy insanity.
While laughing at ourselves is natural (healthy even) at this point I don't feel that I deserve any more beat downs at my own expense when I can do just as well with simple negotiations to keep going (just to the next marker. Etc). When I need to get started on something I have put off, I think about having that off my shoulders to be free to do the other stuff I wish I was doing instead.
Everyone needs a way to motivate themselves. I think there are better ways than others and I sometimes wonder why I carried around whatever it was that used to hate myself so much I had to laugh at myself to keep from being unhappy about myself.7 -
@WhatMeRunning I totally get that. Self-criticism and humor. It seems that being obese spawns those behaviors, or maybe the lack of self-esteem drives it. I don't really know. It had been years since I actually felt "worthy" of compliments. And humor deflected my discomfort and masked my pain, both emotional and physical.
My husband was so helpful to me in overcoming my negativity. I had always thought of myself as a fat, lazy slob. I felt as if I never got enough done in a day. And while it is true that my pre-fibromyalgia/arthritis self could do a LOT more, I don't do so bad now. DH had me write down everything I did each day in my planner. Not what I PLANNED to do, only what I actually DID. He took pictures of our home and texted them to me. To say I was pretty surprised is an understatement!
Sometimes it requires someone to help us see the honest truth about ourselves. I am NOT a lazy slob. I am fat. I can change that. I AM changing that.
Your point about positive motivation is so true. Now I just do what I can 15-30 minutes at a time. At the end of the day I am always pleasantly surprised at how long my list is. That is a much better motivator than flogging myself.
Thank you for sharing your story! Hugs!!!8 -
Ashleymullo6195
Weigh day
Pw - 157
Cw - 156
Lost 1 lb and I am so happy about that yay7 -
11 Sept
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? yes
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? yes
@leeh31 very good topic today. I don't talk to myself very much anymore... People around me think I am crazy or on my cell phone. <kidding> I do talk to my animals tho. And mostly it's interesting to see. Bandit esp is very sensitive to criticism. In the past if I have said he was bad, he would actually pout. So mostly because he really IS, I tell him what a good and smart and perfect boy he is. People are the same I expect.8 -
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? yes another walk with Dugan
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? yes just barely
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? yes indeed I did
"I had the right to remain silent... but I didn't have the ability." ~ Ron White9 -
Yes x3 although not very healthy choices!
Yoga for exercise.
Anecdotally I have yoyo dieted for most of my life. I was obese since I was a child. Probably around 8. I used to try all sorts of diets. They never stuck for very long because I felt so rubbish about myself I'd self sabotage.
About 10 years ago I got therapy and lost weight sustainably and kept it off until I became pregnant.
I always thought losing weight would make me feel better it turned out feeling better and being kinder to myself was the solution not the result.12 -
✅ - Exercise 20+ Minutes: minutes, aerobics/walking/circuits
✅ - Calories within budget
✅ - Tracked everything
3️⃣ Pass Days left
@LeeH31 <> Great topic. I thoroughly endorse your sentiments. When I catch myself using negative self talk, I have gotten into the habit of reframing it into something positive. I start my day with Meditation using positive affirmations. I recognise my imperfections, and endeavour to find a way of overcoming them.
Deciding to be happy with who I am was a good start, and releasing guilt is such an empowering thing to do.
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✅ - Exercise 20+ Minutes: (76 minutes, aerobics/walking/circuits)
✅ - Calories within budget (below maintenance calories)
✅ - Tracked everything
3️⃣ Pass Days left
@LeeH31 <> Great topic. I thoroughly endorse your sentiments. When I catch myself using negative self talk, I have gotten into the habit of reframing it into something positive. I start my day with Meditation using positive affirmations. I recognise my imperfections, and endeavour to find a way of overcoming them. And a supportive partner is a godsend in this process. Noting down and celebrating every little triumph fills the day with joy.
Deciding to be happy with who I am was a good start, and releasing guilt is such an empowering thing to do. It doesn't mean I don't want to improve, it just means I know where I'm starting from.
@WhatMeRunning <> I so agree with you. I think my negative self talk was a learnt behaviour. Praise and encouragement was in very short supply in my childhood home.
@ashleymullo6195 <> Congratulations on the 1 lb loss.
@Geneveremfp <> Exactly! Why wait make yourself wait to be happy at some future time which may or may not happen when you can just be happy now 😂
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Exercise: 4.8 mile walk
Tracked: Yes
Calories: Yes
I'm trying to do less social activities that are centered around food, so my friend and I went for a walk in the park again. We did go out to eat but we both ordered from the snack menu (2 sliders and fries). It was perfectly filling. He had a margarita and I drank water, but it was really nice and I had quite a few calories left over for the day.8 -
September 11, 2021
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? Yes
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Yes
Kitchen Closed? Yes
Did you go "nuts" with nuts today? No (11 days-free )
(I go "nuts" with nuts most times, trying to continue a good habit this month. Counting the number of "nuts" free days.) I am still learning a lot about myself in this area!
Pass day 0/3 (this is for accountability to myself and my records).5 -
I’ve finally learned that negative self talk just leads to more failure! It certainly doesn’t motivate me! I heard years ago that we should replace the negative with positive affirmations. So when I used to get to the part of my run that some referred to as “heartbreak hill”, I’d tell myself over and over “You have strong legs!” And I felt stronger as I took on that hill and learned to enjoy the challenge of it over the course of several runs.
Exercise:✅
Tracked:✅
Under:✅11 -
9/11
Exersised no
Caleries no
Logged yes5 -
All three✅✅✅5
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September 11
Hello! Day completed.
Exercised?: Yes. Workout video.
Calories?: Yes
Tracked?: Yes
1 Pass day used.5 -
Sept 11:
✅✅✅ Exercise today was a 90 min walk tonight after I got home from work. Also 2.5 hours of giving massages.
What a terrific topic @LeeH31 . I've gotten much better over the years as far as not beating myself up with negative self-talk (I turned 60 earlier this year).
I have to add here that although I ended yesterday thinking that I was under my calorie goal -- I woke up this morning at 6am and the VERY FIRST THING that popped into my head was that I had added a small can of sardines to my lunch yesterday and FORGOT to add it into my already (pre-logged) food diary.... so yesterday turned out to be my first Pass Day as I was ultimately over on my calories!
@ashleymullo6195 Congratulations on your loss this week!! Whoo hoo!!
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@LeeH31 what a great message! Being kind and loving to ourselves should not be the hard chore that we sometimes make it. God made each of us special and gave us all something. I'm working with my gifts and love who I have grown to become. Love ya all.
Exercise: 45 minutes today (squats, stretches + stationary bike)
Ate within budget: yes
Tracked it all: yes6 -
Exercise:
Weight circuit and 30 minute power walk. I was resting up for a 6 mile run tomorrow and now the forecast is rain and thunderstorms all day so I'm not sure what to do....
Tracking:
Calories: Unusually hungry right now though. 4 -
@bradkcrew there is nothing wrong with being a fair weather runner. If you're training regularly though then you will eventually need a plan because eventually there will be extended periods of unfavorable weather in some form. Never run during an electrical storm, best advice is if there's lightning stay inside and run later or not at all (or find an indoor option). Use your best judgment otherwise, and ensure you have the right gear to run in inclement weather. Never wear cotton anything. A good pair of moisture wicking socks can help avoid blisters (I swear by Injinji toe socks, so hard to get blisters with those as not even the toes can rub together). Also ensure your thighs are protected from rubbing against each other using whatever means you find best to avoid a rash. Tight fitting clothes are best for wet running to avoid wet fabric repeatedly rubbing against skin. A running hat with a visor can be nice to keep rain off your face.3
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@LeeH31 Thanks for today’s opening post!!! I’ve always been a great fan of Zig Ziglar.
Yesterday was a Pass day ( it was my decision to overeat pizza).
Today, I was back on track.
Exercise: primarily walking and farm chores
Calories: under my limit even though I attended a birthday party
Tracking: good and it was done after each meal so that I was accurate and could self correct7
