3/12

Exercise: 95 minutes
Tracking: yes
Calories: under
Pass days used: 0

Sat March 12
Way over pass days in my learning month
I went through and raised my calories by 300 yesterday, upping each meal target as well and thinking about the targets for protein and fiber - took some time. I think that will help the cycle where I am planning so far less food than I need and then filling in the gaps by nibbling junk food. I think it will be more sustainable and healthier to plan to eat a decent quantity of good food. We'll see. Learning month is not over.

Of course, I planned and then ate a day that was far over the new, higher, target of calories - and up 1.2 pounds. It was "takeout Friday" which had been rescheduled to Saturday, and my wife and I shared a slice of pie in front of the TV and you know what, it was worth it.

Today is a better day planned.

Yesterday I did do 30 minutes of walking and 15 minutes of stretching - it was hard to fit that in and I did it, so proud of myself.

About the question - being kinder to myself is good, but I find myself getting in a cycle where I have kind of a dialogue like this:
Caroline, why did you do that? That was really dumb.
Caroline, you need to be kinder to yourself.
Why can't I be kinder to myself? Is that so hard? I must be really dumb.
I need to be kinder to myself about being kinder to myself.
But I can't be kinder to myself even about being kinder to myself! I must be really really dumb!

And on and on!

Here's what I am trying to do in parenting (I spend a lot more time and though relating to my kids than to friends at this point in my life) and I am trying to do it for myself too. When my kids are having a hard time meeting an expectation, I let go and forgive their inability to do it and I also try to let go and forgive my own frustration that they can't do it. And then I try, with them (not in the moment but sometime when we are calm), to reflect and make a plan for how things could go better in the future. (This is Collaborative and Proactive Solutions by Dr. Ross Green). I am trying to do the same thing for myself. So that is a lot of just noting when things are hard and then when I have time circling back and trying to make things less hard for myself - either by giving up on some expectations or by adjusting routines or the environment to make them easier. So then I don't have to fight with myself about fighting with myself.

makattack220 wrote: »

Being a friend to myself has made all the difference for me. Love this topic @StayFITTer , thanks for posting. This time around I've focused on loving my body where I am at NOW and instead of using guilt/shame and a timeline to get to goal, I'm working on changing habits rather than just losing weight. I'm talking to myself how I'd talk to a friend vs the "tough love" approach I'd relied on before (which worked short-term but never elicited lasting change).

I was wondering how to phrase my answer to this question, then read your response and thought “yep, that’s it exactly”

@mshawski - glad you’re still here! Sometimes a little hiatus is just what happens. The return is what’s important. I can’t wait to see the ring you’ll buy yourself when you hit maintenance!

3 x yes

Today I was kind to myself and did essential housework then sat and knitted

Many of us are far to hard on ourselves. Be your own cheerleader!!!

🥳 Congrats 🥳 You made 3 x yes 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
🎉 celebrate 🎉 your success!!!
@DebyS137
@VickiSLaw
@Lessennan


🙌 Bravo 🙌 for posting consistently
@Caroline_slowandsteady
@Elbee1

Give yourself a pat on the back.
And keep on keeping on!

Lessennan wrote: »

Today I was kind to myself and did essential housework then sat and knitted

@Lessennan
How lovely Nan - I am a knitter too. What are you working on?

@jamcnewman I’m knitting a layette for the church sale of work in June.
What do you do?

tahm42 wrote: »

Yes for 3
0/3 pass days

Got a great hair cut and had a great lifting workout. Played with grand and just enjoyed my family.

That sounds like an ideal day.

✅ Exercise: 45 minutes swimming
✅ Calories
✅ Tracked

0 pass days used ( )

On vacation. Tried very hard to make my best choices.

ideas2 wrote: »

✅ Exercise: 45 minutes swimming
✅ Calories
✅ Tracked

0 pass days used ( )

On vacation. Tried very hard to make my best choices.

Well done!

Intrinsicat wrote: »

Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? Yes swimming
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Unsure
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Unsure

3/3 pass days definitely not making it this month but staying here for the accountability! We were at a hotel for the weekend with set buffets I simply couldn’t keep track of… tried for small portions and skipped the dessert table. At the end of the weekend I’m down a pound so I’ll tick that as making ok choices 😂

👍🏻 It’s difficult to stay on track at a hotel. But being down in weight is a good indication that you made good choices