Hello guys
I am 29 now but i got married at 23 i had only turned 23 2 weeks earlier, then had my daughter on our first wedding aniversary, (at 24) then my son when i was 27 years old. We have been married for 6 years together for 6 1/2 and have moved all over due to him being military. Unlike some of my friends who had kids (not many of them) they were at home and still going partying (still do) i was moving around a lot moved 6 times in 6 years and had to be a single mom most of the time due to my husband being military. I feel like have grown up and settled down faster then most people I know. I enjoy it though

I get the "So when are you guys gonna start having kids?" question a LOT. Especially lately. I don't want children, nor does my boyfriend, and apparently, that isn't a good enough answer to most people. It only opens up for more questions. "What?! Why not?" "How can you not want kids?!" "Don't you think your parents deserve grandkids?" (that last one is my favorite--DESERVE grandkids?) I'm finishing school to become a special education teacher. I also volunteer with Autism Speaks, and I plan on getting back into volunteering with Big Brothers, Big Sisters (among others) once I finish the current semester. There are more ways to help children than having them. And by no means do I think having children is something bad! It's just not what I want for myself.

I also seemed to become some kind of repulsive sub-human when I stopped drinking. I was a HORRIBLE binge drinker, to the point that it was happening a little too much for my body and wallet. I feel so much better without alcohol. It is, however, sometimes still tempting, so I avoid parties where there is a lot of alcohol, as well as bars. Some of my friends don't seem to understand this, and basically act like I no longer exist because I don't go to their drunken parties or go to ladies night at the bar and stuff. And there's the questions with that, too. "Why would you stop drinking?!"

And lately, it's healthy eating! My boyfriend and I were never excessively UNhealthy...but I've gained 50 lbs in the past 2.5 years, and while I've lost 10 of it, I still have a way to go. Now I exercise, eat healthier, and in the past month, my boyfriend and I have tried to eat as clean as possible, and it's done wonders for both of us! It's helped him have more energy for his work-outs (he isn't overweight, but trying to put on more muscle), and I've had more energy for working out and just life in general. And just about everyone (minus my MFP friends of course!) have to be debbie downers and say "eww that sounds gross, I'll keep my fast food!" or "oh that's too much work, don't you just wanna eat a big mac or something?" or "I bet your food tastes disgusting!"

People can be such haters. :laugh:

People knock what they don't understand...makes them feel better about missing out.

I like that!

Every time I see you post, I want coffee, btw. :laugh:

I hear you there I have always been a bit grown up for my age I have never done drugs or slept around which some people find so weird. One person even told me to leave my fiance and sleep around as I could find out what I'm missing they looked at me so blankly when I said I didn't care what I was missing lol.

People are so appauled when they hear i have never done drugs or even smoked a cigarette. And girls at work tend not to talk to me once they find out i've only been with my husband. They think its weird to sleep with just one person your entire life.

I get the "So when are you guys gonna start having kids?" question a LOT. Especially lately. I don't want children, nor does my boyfriend, and apparently, that isn't a good enough answer to most people. It only opens up for more questions. "What?! Why not?" "How can you not want kids?!" "Don't you think your parents deserve grandkids?" (that last one is my favorite--DESERVE grandkids?) I'm finishing school to become a special education teacher. I also volunteer with Autism Speaks, and I plan on getting back into volunteering with Big Brothers, Big Sisters (among others) once I finish the current semester. There are more ways to help children than having them. And by no means do I think having children is something bad! It's just not what I want for myself.

I couldn't have said this any better. I agree with everything you said. I also work with children, am constantly around children and absolutely adore them. I just don't feel like I need my own and neither does my husband. We are both open to the idea of adoption later down the road though
Edit: and by later down the road I mean late 30's or early 40's. Then I get the, "Eew, you're going to be so old by the time they're in college!"

Have you guys seen that picture going around on Facebook that says "All of my friends are getting married or getting pregnant. I'm just getting more awesome."? (I've also seen the variation that says "I'm just getting drunk"....yeah, classy statement about yourself there.) Seeing people I know post this just really irks me for some reason. People who are married or have children are getting more awesome too!!!

On the topic of alcohol....yeah...I know a lot of people who are already alcoholics in their early 20's. It's terrible. I was a horrible binge drinker up until March of last year...I could have been a lot worse, but I decided to not get to that point. My body and wallet are much happier without alcohol!

Ok here is my story....It begins when Im 19 and I am house sitting for my grandma. I get bored and decied to mess around on the computer, well I get on myspace and end up talking to this chick. We hit it off pretty good, go on a couple dates and dontcha know she moving in. We get married a couple months latter, she gets knocked up, we have a falling out. 9 months latter my son is born and I couldnt be happier. Fast forward through a couple years and even more drama and I meet my current soon to be wife. At the time she has 6 month old and is pregnat with another. We date, fall in love, I adopt the baby when he is born and i am in the process of about my daughter. So now I am 24 with three kids, a wifey, two cats and a dog.

I was working hard on my Music Education degree, but the damn people kept changing the degree plan! Normally, you should be able to continue on your previous degree plan, but my previous degree plan had classes that were no longer offered. Happened three times. I was getting fed up around the same time I met my husband.
I was 21 at the time, and he was a soldier. I'm an Army Brat so I just love the military! My hubs pretty much swept me off my feet. I said screw you to my degree and married him 9 months later, a week after my 22nd birthday. People judged me all the time, first that it was too soon, second that 22 was too young, and third that my hubs would probably deploy and "Would you want to be a widow at 22?" SERIOUSLY?! It was ridiculous. So I flipped them all the bird too!
We were nervous to have jumped all into it so fast, but we lucked out. Living together is as easy as breathing. :smooched: Its been 4 years now, we have a 10 month old son, and another baby on the way! There is no one better suited for me. Do I regret not finishing my degree? Sometimes. But you can always earn a college degree, but you can miss out on the love of your life! :drinker:

There's so much in here that I agree with that I'm not going to quote it all (I'd be here all day)! It's just silly that I'm weird for not having sex with a bunch of people and instead chose to get married. Anyway!!

I'm 22 have been married a little over a year and have a 2 month old son. I worked at the airport as a gate agent in Atlanta pretty much the entire time I was pregnant. My uniform made me look just extremely heavy for awhile, not pregnant. So I got stares for that. And once they realized that I was pregnant I got stares for that. I'm 22 but probably could pass as 16. EVERYONE had an opinion. "oh is the baby's daddy still in the picture" "Why yes, he is. He's my husband, and yes we were married BEFORE we found out I was pregnant" It's almost like the ONLY reason we would get married is because I was pregnant, which isn't true. That and the constant "o she must be a teen mom" It didn't help when my fingers had swollen up too big for me to wear my wedding rings LOL.
Ah well. I love my life, wouldn't change a thing....except maybe to already be done with school, but I guess 3 semesters isnt bad!

wtf, not even 12 hours from my original post... I was at my in-laws today and my mother in law came over to me, patted my stomach and asked if i was pregnant yet