I definitely know the feeling. I'll need all the help and advice I can get as well.. got muh' notepad ready.

I'll join in on the wait too.

I definately get how you feel...my problem is being 50 most women my age are divorced with kids or grandkids and want to talk about that constantly. However I have no interest in that at all, I am into fitness, cars, having fun. Most of my friends are 20 something females who strangely enough I have more in common with. But most aren't very mature or have no idea what they want in life. I am truely stuck in limbo hell.

I'm waiting for the info to start too! I'm ready! I'm on the verge of being 40 (OMG), have no children, can't have children, but don't obsess about them either. I would like to have a man in my life even though I keep telling myself I need to take care of me first for a while and make "me happy with me". I've rushed into relationships before, ended up marrying a controlling mean spirited man then ended up marrying someone who really just needed a care-giver. There were several years in between marriages but I found myself doing the same things both time....trying to help them with their problems and forgetting 'me'. Anyway, enough of that crap. lol I don't feel I need a man to complete me but I do want a man to compliment my life....someone who adds something to it. I don't think that's too much to ask for but evidently it is. I always get the "you are such a nice person...it's a shame you are sooo overweight" wth? Regardless of my weight I am who I am. Oh well. Guess I vented a little there...lol

Ready for the notes!!!!

As much as it sucks for me, I'm using the time to better myself. I'm working on my self-confidence, body, and mind. I hate being single, but if I wasn't, I don't think I would be doing what I'm doing right now.

This. Same boat.

I dont mind being single.... I miss certain parts of being in a relationship but that what FWB are for. I like being me and being able to do what I want with who I want to. I am not seeking a "relationship at this time and would rather just have fun. I've been in 2 very serious relationships that between them lasted my entire adult life (11 years) So now its time for me to have fun. Thats not saying if the right guy came by I wouldnt go out with him but Im not hunting.:bigsmile:

Yea being single can suck sometimes because I feel lonely. Right now I am focusing on myself, my future, and my career.. so I am not out there looking for anyone.. I figure that woman will come along when God decides it to happen. Right now I am just enjoying the roller coaster called life.

Well I know how you feel I spent my 20s working on a career (which I hate) and the last two years working on me. I finally dated someone and we recently broke it off and it feels like there is a void there of someone that I could always talk to, and have that special connection with. I miss that, not necessarly him. We only broke up because the distance got to be too much. He lived in MN while I lived in SC. You can work on yourself with someone else by yourside the same as you can do it alone. I am even on Eharmony and they can't even find people in my area to match me to. How am I that orginial that there is no one out there (and I live outside of a large city) that it has to match me with people in FL. It is so furstrating at times.

It just seems as if working on yourself is important but it gets to the point where you feel you would like to do that with someone else. I think I'm just in this point where I'm ready to date and I just don't know what to do

...I'm surprised the guys aren't beating down your door...you are absolutely gorgeous!