Well, I am single.. and I do like being single right now because I am working on myself -- my career, my fitness, my physique, my friends, and family. Of course I would like to be in a relationship, but I am doing what I can now by enjoying the freedom I have - the freedom to go out and not tell somewhere where I am going, to not be bothered if I want to stay in PJs all day and watch romantic comedies, or not give up time out with my friends for a man.

So for now, I am just going out and having fun. If I meet a guy who is worthy to have a relationship with, I of course won't let it pass me by, but I am not out there seeking actively. As they say, when you meet someone is when you're not looking, so I am trying to live it up, enjoy myself, and not actively look for a man.

Been single for 8 years this December. Was with a man I really thought I loved, helped him get through a horrible divorce with two ungrateful children in tow. Watched him suffer, watched him lose nearly everything, helped him financially, helped him emotionally.. and the thanks? Cheated on me with his 17 year old receptionist at his job (he was 30). So... kept myself single for the last 8 years by choice. Was a really hard one to go through, especially when it caused me a lot of unnecessary stress. I was so afraid to be hurt like that again.

I have definitely made changes in my life and am looking forward to being in a relationship with someone who loves me for me, all of me, faults included. Jttaylor... I hear you. I'm the only single person in my department and I hear about kids all day long. Sometimes I just have to up and leave for 5 minutes and come back to clear my head. I'd like to have a family, but sometimes that little twinge of jealousy hits me and makes me sad inside.

As much as it sucks for me, I'm using the time to better myself. I'm working on my self-confidence, body, and mind. I hate being single, but if I wasn't, I don't think I would be doing what I'm doing right now.

I'm not crazy about being single, but it beats being with the wrong person!

I don't like being single. You know sometimes I just wish for the simple hugs and kisses. Yet I know right now a relationship is not best for me. In the past I always but my bf before me. I never stood up for myself because I felt like I needed them. I am using this time to focus on me and becoming more confident,to trust myself and know that I don't need a man or anyone who treats me bad. I have to master me before I can graduate to a we.

Historically I HATED being single...but for some reason right now I don't mind it, which is really weird because I thought I would be struggling with the concept of being single over the holidays.

Maybe I'm too busy to mind!

That said, I still hope to meet someone great soon.

Well it isn't your looks that is keeping you single, anyway. You're gorgeous. Have you told all your friends to keep an eye out for prospective dates for you yet? Maybe you could go places with your friends, too, have fun, and wait for someone to have the guts to walk up to you and say hi. Aside from internet matchmaking, I'm not sure what else you can do, really.

...I'm surprised the guys aren't beating down your door...you are absolutely gorgeous!
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I was going to say the same thing to you....

Ok so I am single... Fact
I don't know how to deal with being single... Semi-fact
I like being single .... False

Ok so I feel I'm the only one in and out of this group lol... But who cares! I'm single and I don't like beng single!

So for those who feel like me.... Let's vent... And for those who can give advice, please do....lol dont leave me alone in here....

Well my dear. . while being single is not easy. It is a time to really embrace who you are and what you want. The qualities that you look for and not settling for less than that.

So I would say get comfortable with who you are apart from someone. . Then you know what you want in a relationship and what you have to offer. . Too many times people jump out of one relationship and right into another simply because they are lonely and this is the wrong reason to get involved with someone.

I say due to experience, and the fact that right now I am single as well, and while it is lonely. . I know what I want if I am to have another relationship and I fully intend to get it. . Take your time dear.. The right person will come along and you will be glad that you waited. Good luck. .Huggles and prayers are with you.:flowerforyou:

I have always been single, and I'm 27. I've dated a couple guys, but never have been in any sort of real romantic relationship. For the most part, I'm okay with it. I am working on becoming the person the person I'm looking for is looking for. (That is a concept from one of my favorite sermon series - The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.)

Anyway. I'm not there yet. And so I appreciate that when I want to just be by myself, do what I want, and don't have to worry about anyone else.

But other times... especially holidays... oh, I am so lonely. A lot of my friends are in long term relationships and that makes it harder too - they have their spouses, or their fiancees, or their boyfriend/girlfriend. I don't have anyone. I really don't mean this as a "pity me" type thing, but I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone. I know that while there are many great things about being single, it can be just as painful and hard as it is convenient at other times.

I absolutely ache to have someone to spend my life with, and haven't found him yet. In the meantime though, I'll just keep working on becoming the best version of myself that I can be, knowing that when I do meet him... I'll be ready.

I'm not crazy about being single, but it beats being with the wrong person!

Cheers to this!! Couldn't have said it better!

I'm also single, and I don't like it very much... but I believe that the right person will come along at the right time!

I go back and forth but for the most part I get tired of playing the independant single friend that is happy to be single. When I'm not really. But for te most part I like being able to do what I want. I want to get certified in Zumba. It is hard to up and go to Austin on a road trip with a boyfriend. And my best friend is having a hard time with weight loss bc of her fiance. I am not jealous of that. But I do sometimes wander what is wrong with me that I can't meet a nice man who will love me for me.