Day 30 Challenge! (Wednesday)
shovav91
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Hey there CAD'ers! I hope you all at least tried not to eat out yesterday 
It's healthier as well as more cost efficient!
Today's challenge: Think of someone in your life who you've been at odds with. Whether this be a friend, relative, coworker, etc. Contact them today and lay your issues on the table in order to work through them. Try this strategy for healthy conflict resolution:
VOMP:
V- Vent. Each person explains what they are having trouble with. Be careful not to place blame, focus on explaining how you personally feel.
O-Own up. Each person owns up to a wrong that they have done.
M-Moccasin. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and explain how you'd feel if you were in their place.
P-Plan for the future so the problem doesn't arise again!
Holding grudges and dealing with tension in relationships causes a lot of stress that you may not know you're even carrying. Free yourself and improve your well-being by working things out!
Make a great day MFP!
It's healthier as well as more cost efficient!Today's challenge: Think of someone in your life who you've been at odds with. Whether this be a friend, relative, coworker, etc. Contact them today and lay your issues on the table in order to work through them. Try this strategy for healthy conflict resolution:
VOMP:
V- Vent. Each person explains what they are having trouble with. Be careful not to place blame, focus on explaining how you personally feel.
O-Own up. Each person owns up to a wrong that they have done.
M-Moccasin. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and explain how you'd feel if you were in their place.
P-Plan for the future so the problem doesn't arise again!
Holding grudges and dealing with tension in relationships causes a lot of stress that you may not know you're even carrying. Free yourself and improve your well-being by working things out!
Make a great day MFP!
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It was odd to see no comments yet this morning... this is a tough one.
Only real stress issues I have that I can't handle are family ones. Do I really want to lay my heart out to my mother and tell her I can't communicate with her? She contradicts EVERYTHING I SAY! If I say it's black, she says it's white. Or is it just me? Hmmmm...
What to do.. what to do...0 -
New to this Group, so hello everyone!
This is a great challenge for me as my husband and I had a tift this morning on the way to work. Instead of stewing over it, we should really try to talk it out over lunch! Great, challenging challenge!
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this is a tough one. The only person I can think of in my life that I have a tiff with is one of my daughters / she is 25 and constantly making up lies about me, deleted me as a friend on facebook then blocked me so i cant even tell if she has a facebook anymore and refuses to talk to me. I will have to pray on this one. I suppose i could send her a message and leave the ball in her court, even if she doesnt respond she will probably read it......
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I Failed!
I wish i had read this challenge this morning, it's now evening.:ohwell:
On the phone I lost my temper with a dumb past her retirement age woman at UPS! Grrrrrrrr :explode: :explode: :explode:
Thing is.... I'm more than likely going to have to deal with her again. :frown:
So I will try to be pleasant to the patronising tunnel visioned nice lady called Sandra.0 -
I am so glad you are challenging us with this because we forget total healis the MIND not just the body! Bitterness and/or grudge holding or whatever you want to call is actually on of the emotions that is actually physically harmful to YOU and not the other person who you are 'bitter' towards so to forgive is actually healthy towards yourself.
Remember is forgiving is not condoning what they did or saying it was okay but it is saying you are not going to 'punish them' with vengence...best way I can describe it. My pastor said this the other day which really hit me hard and made me look at myself: when you are bitter you are less likely to see the GOOD in things!
Keep up the good work! This is what a CHALLENGE is for to challenge you!!!!0 -
A coworker today and myself got into a tiff, nothing serious but I definately left still annoyed by what happened. After reading this challenge I decided that I will talk to her about our problems. I think most of it is just due to communication. However I just hope she doesn't start getting defensive and yelling before hearing me out. I understand she probably has a reason for her behavior and I want to hear it, but she has a tendancy to not allow anyone else to say their side. : / all well guess I'll find out.0
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