So, I'm BIG!
jackylane
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I've always been big, and by big I don't necessarily mean overweight. I've come to terms with the fact I'll never be a willowy lithe creature. My hands are huge (bigger than most of the men I know) my feet are size 12 and my legs are long. Some people can be 6"2 and 150 pounds, but i will never be 6"4 and under 200. I'm okay with this and I just thought maybe I should write it out and say that to women that would understand where I'm coming from.
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amen sister :drinker: this entire statement is EXACTLY what this group is all about! :bigsmile:0
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We definitely understand!! Gonna be this height for my life, might as well accept it & enjoy life! oh & thank God we're not short & can reach pretty much anything we want without help:laugh:0
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This is so true, I can't imagine having to ask for help reaching things :P0
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it gives me uber anxiety thinking about what it must be like being in a crowded room (bar, place, whatever) being a short person. I mean seriously. You'd have to stare at backs and *kitten* the whole time! I wouldn't even be able to breath for fear of inhaling some gross smells!!
I like being able to survey the crowd and see from one side of the room to the other. LOL Poor short people....:laugh:0 -
Here Here!
I have a great time at music concerts- I can actually see!!
p.s Jackylane I'm with you on being realistic. I have a large frame, big boobs and a wide ribcage. 200lbs looks relatively skinny on me!!! I cant imagine being 150- I'm not going to force my body down to that weight.0 -
You'd have to stare at backs and *kitten* the whole time! I wouldn't even be able to breath for fear of inhaling some gross smells!!
I like being able to survey the crowd and see from one side of the room to the other. LOL Poor short people....:laugh:
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YES! I had someone send me a message when I said my goal weight was 180 and wanted to be a size 12 and the message said something along the lines of "Don't you think that's too heavy? I mean, a size 12 is still really big."
Um, not when you're 5'10" and have a large bone structure.
I'm about 168-ish now and mostly in Size 8 pants because it took a while to get the hang of maintenance. I wouldn't mind gaining a few of those pounds back since you can count my ribs at this point.
Bottom line - as long as we work on being fit and healthy, the scale is irrelevant - regardless of how tall or short we are. Also, these are OUR goals, no one else's.0 -
YES! I had someone send me a message when I said my goal weight was 180 and wanted to be a size 12 and the message said something along the lines of "Don't you think that's too heavy? I mean, a size 12 is still really big."
Um, not when you're 5'10" and have a large bone structure.
I'm about 168-ish now and mostly in Size 8 pants because it took a while to get the hang of maintenance. I wouldn't mind gaining a few of those pounds back since you can count my ribs at this point.
Bottom line - as long as we work on being fit and healthy, the scale is irrelevant - regardless of how tall or short we are. Also, these are OUR goals, no one else's.
holy shlt... i wouldve climbed through the internet and punched that onoxious person square in the face for even SAYING that!~ wow... idiots! thats one of the reasons i am not friends with short people on this site... lol :laugh:0 -
I just blogged about it instead. This was a few months ago, but I think I got my point across.YES! I had someone send me a message when I said my goal weight was 180 and wanted to be a size 12 and the message said something along the lines of "Don't you think that's too heavy? I mean, a size 12 is still really big."
Um, not when you're 5'10" and have a large bone structure.
I'm about 168-ish now and mostly in Size 8 pants because it took a while to get the hang of maintenance. I wouldn't mind gaining a few of those pounds back since you can count my ribs at this point.
Bottom line - as long as we work on being fit and healthy, the scale is irrelevant - regardless of how tall or short we are. Also, these are OUR goals, no one else's.
holy shlt... i wouldve climbed through the internet and punched that onoxious person square in the face for even SAYING that!~ wow... idiots! thats one of the reasons i am not friends with short people on this site... lol :laugh:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/CoryIda/view/this-is-my-body-these-are-my-goals-a-little-rant-1078230 -
I just blogged about it instead. This was a few months ago, but I think I got my point across.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/CoryIda/view/this-is-my-body-these-are-my-goals-a-little-rant-107823
genius! very very well written, and exactly on point... and you are beautiful to boot :O)0 -
I feel you, I am almost 5'10" and my goal weight is 210lbs, sum might think that is still big, but for 1 that is a 100lb weight loss for me, and for 2, I can't imagine being 145lbs, which is what is said to be a "healthy" weight for me. I'd look anorexic, NO THANKS. I definetly have a large bone structure, and I dnt want everybody to be able to see every bone in my body. I want to remain thick, with sum curves, never a twig...lol0
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I like your attitude allaboutleah. being sexy & comfortable is not about skinny. healthy but happy in your own skin is key for me.
mfp says i should be around 170 but I have 180 as my goal.
last year I was at 198 & felt great but wanted to slim down my stomach more so once I get past that again will decide when to stop. it could be 195 or it could be 180. I'll know when I get there.
As a type 2 diabetic with pancreatic cancer running in the family, my desire for a flat stomach is not just about vanity.0 -
I'm so glad you posted this. It's taken me a long time to realize this about myself. I'm not 6'4" - I'm only 5'9" - but after going through an eating disorder when I was a teenager and only having 12.5lbs of fat on my tall, large-framed body .... over the past year or so I've really come to terms with the fact that I am not going to be model-thin or even small-framed, or have measurements of 34-24-34, and that I should focus on being STRONG and VIBRANT and HEALTHY.
So, kudos to you, and all of us that have accepted reality.
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I soooooooo agree!!!
My weight now is 356 and no one would guess I weight that much, but when I tell people my goal weight is between 175-190 they still think its "big" by standard of numbers but I'm 5'9 and I haven't seen ONEderland since 8th grade I was what 13-14 yrs old????
Hell 9th grade yr I was 222 and I'm aiming for that by Christmas 2012 and honestly I would feel so comfortable at that size I wore a 16 (ya girl got curves LOL.) but still want to hit about 180 give or take just to get in a cute lil black dress... I also don't wanna get the big head look.. Cause some tall people that lose a lot get the big head look and I don't want that to be me :huh: so my real goal weight is going to be determined by how big my head looks in comparison to my body...
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..... so my real goal weight is going to be determined by how big my head looks in comparison to my body...
That's TOO funny! Reminds me of one lady on here wrote about being called a peanut- she appreciated it!0 -
I really appreciate this post.
I've been calculating what my healthy BMI is, but when I think about how that's going to look on me I'm just not sure it's going to be as healthy as the calculation seems to think it will.
I've ALWAYS been a bigger girl. Of course I'm tall, but I also have large feet (size 11) and large hands (can palm a basketball). I know I'm not going to be teeny either, but... I don't know if I should still shoot for the weight my BMI calls for.0 -
I really appreciate this post.
I've been calculating what my healthy BMI is, but when I think about how that's going to look on me I'm just not sure it's going to be as healthy as the calculation seems to think it will.
I've ALWAYS been a bigger girl. Of course I'm tall, but I also have large feet (size 11) and large hands (can palm a basketball). I know I'm not going to be teeny either, but... I don't know if I should still shoot for the weight my BMI calls for.
check out the large frame BMI scale in this groups threads... i found the info and put it all together so it makes things a bit more manageable if you are a large frame :O)0 -
I really appreciate this post.
I've been calculating what my healthy BMI is, but when I think about how that's going to look on me I'm just not sure it's going to be as healthy as the calculation seems to think it will.
I've ALWAYS been a bigger girl. Of course I'm tall, but I also have large feet (size 11) and large hands (can palm a basketball). I know I'm not going to be teeny either, but... I don't know if I should still shoot for the weight my BMI calls for.
check out the large frame BMI scale in this groups threads... i found the info and put it all together so it makes things a bit more manageable if you are a large frame :O)
Oh, thanks! Sorry I guess I didn't read carefully enough the first time around... I'll check that out now!0 -
Oh, thanks! Sorry I guess I didn't read carefully enough the first time around... I'll check that out now!
no worries! its info you will probably find very useful. its on like the last page of the topics since the group started.0 -
I'm 5'11" and about 155 lbs right now, and I feel like I get more criticism now for being this weight than I ever did being 5'11" and 240 lbs. Damned if I do, damned if I don't
My own grandmother, who as a child of 8-9 years old chided me for "putting on plenty weight," recently told me my figure wasn't womanly enough, asking me where my "bosom and okole'" (butt) went. It's not my fault I've learned I have a naturally lean build, and tend to lose the bulk of my weight on my upper body and feminine areas.
I've had several people tell me I should be "170 or 180," without me even telling them what my actual weight was. Goes to show you being tall makes you look a lot different than you may see yourself. I know that to be very true for me, now that I'm allowing myself to be photographed. I personally think you should be whatever weight you feel most comfortable at, just saying prepare yourself for the unsolicited idiocy that will accompany it!!0 -
I HATE how not only pounds, but how dress size is, almost solely, relied upon as an indicator of girth.
At my heaviest in high school, I was about a size 20 jeans, and those were uber stretchy waistbands, mind you. (Always HATED zippers/buttons!! Only began wearing them after my recent loss.)
I'm at the low end of my healthy BMI, and I'm about a 10/12 (depending on whether zippered or stretchy). Approximately a 120 lb weight difference from my highest known weight, but only a 4-5 size down difference. I have 120 lbs gained and lost, 10 years' worth of loose skin still hanging off me. I know Jennifer Hudson ain't got all that, honey.YES! I had someone send me a message when I said my goal weight was 180 and wanted to be a size 12 and the message said something along the lines of "Don't you think that's too heavy? I mean, a size 12 is still really big."
Um, not when you're 5'10" and have a large bone structure.
I'm about 168-ish now and mostly in Size 8 pants because it took a while to get the hang of maintenance. I wouldn't mind gaining a few of those pounds back since you can count my ribs at this point.
Bottom line - as long as we work on being fit and healthy, the scale is irrelevant - regardless of how tall or short we are. Also, these are OUR goals, no one else's.0 -
I think my whole complex about my weight started as a teenager when peeps were always a bit 'lazy' with their vocabulary so although I was only 10 stone / 140 lbs (I'm just over 5ft 9), people would describe me as the 'big' girl when what they actually meant was the 'tall' girl but they never said 'tall' ! I used to get really upset about it - I now think 140 lbs is way too low for me (aiming for 168 lbs which just puts me in the healthy BMI range for my height).0
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I think the only time I was considered petite or dainty was during the first six months after I was born!!!! I have always been referred to as 'big' or 'huge' due to the combination of my height and bone structure. I am 6'1 and at my heaviest weighed 240 pounds. Now I weigh 183 pounds.
The 'big' and 'huge' references took a toll on my self esteem ... I have also often been used as a threat to others by friends, family, even my husband i.e. "watch out or I'll get my 6'1 wife/sister/friend to beat you up" - gah!!!!!
It has taken me a long time but I am finally embracing my size/stature.
I should also note that I am currently in the healthy BMI range with only a few more pounds to go. I may still be referred to as 'big' or 'huge' but frankly ... I don't give a damn what others think anymore 'cause I am happy and healthy!!!!!!0 -
Oh my goodness this post hits home!!! I'm 5' 11 and currently 253 and my goal is 199 (just want to be under 200!!!) I can't imagine myself weighing less. I've got a large chest and a big butt and ginormous hips!!! I think bmi is a joke for women shaped like me. I want to be under 200 so badly!!!0
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I think the only time I was considered petite or dainty was during the first six months after I was born!!!! I have always been referred to as 'big' or 'huge' due to the combination of my height and bone structure. I am 6'1 and at my heaviest weighed 240 pounds. Now I weigh 183 pounds.
The 'big' and 'huge' references took a toll on my self esteem ... I have also often been used as a threat to others by friends, family, even my husband i.e. "watch out or I'll get my 6'1 wife/sister/friend to beat you up" - gah!!!!!
It has taken me a long time but I am finally embracing my size/stature.
I should also note that I am currently in the healthy BMI range with only a few more pounds to go. I may still be referred to as 'big' or 'huge' but frankly ... I don't give a damn what others think anymore 'cause I am happy and healthy!!!!!!
Amen. I didn't even get to be considered dainty for the first six months. I weighed more that 11# when born, and the hospital had to go out and buy bigger clothes and blankets for me. Oh, yes, and all those people who used to call me "Big Amanda".
But age does things for us, and now at 70 I couldn't be prouder of my full 6' of height. And my size 12 feet, and my long-fingered hands that don't fit into any women's gloves on the planet. And do I now still stand at the back of a crowd just because I can see over everyone? Nope, not always. I don't even feel sorry for most shorties. After all, they don't have to pay an arm and a leg for tall clothes and large shoes.0 -
I completely understand all of this! When I was young I was a total tom-boy and never had female friends until about middle school so to this day I'm still way more comfortable with guys, being one of the guys. When I started shooting up in elementary school I got all of it, height, boobs, and big ol' feet but was still relatively thin because I was extremely active. I've been in a size 11 shoe for just about as long as I can remember. My dad's friend (who was like an uncle to me) used to give me hell all the time about my feet, saying that if we ever got flooded it'd be okay because we could all just hop in one of my shoes and paddle to safety...it was all in good fun and didn't really bother me, but it was there. I distinctly remember being called an "Amazon *****" in middle school because I was bigger and stronger than a male classmate LOL When I was 12 I stopped breathing and almost died, to bring me back and keep me going I was put on a LOT of medication for a very long time and that's when I put the weight on. A very unpleasant girl started a nasty little rumor that I was pregnant because of all the weight I gained so quickly and that was when I became very unhappy in my own body. I thankfully have a wonderful 6'4" husband (who loves all the inches, pounds, and stretch marks I have) who I met in high school that makes me feel like I'm not a giant LOL I tower over all of our friends but so does he and honestly I think he likes that I'm right there with him too
I started this journey at 242lbs and would like to get down 175-155lbs. I'm giving myself a range because while I'd like to be able to SAY a smaller number, I want to LOOK healthy. No bobble head look for me either
So we're all big, but we're all awesome, and we'll continue to be awesome no matter what happens on the scale
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