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Negative Things And How You Deal With It

Umeboshi
Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
edited October 2024 in Social Groups
Share some negative things you've heard from family or friends when discussing LGBT issues or your own LGBT status, and how you deal with the negativity and ignorance.

I'll start:

Whenever I call my girlfriend by her correct pronouns/name in front of her mom, her mom will get all irritated and 'correct' me by saying "he" or her old name (in a really nasty tone, of course.) :/

Another time, I said that my gf is as much of a woman as I am. So her mom said "do YOU have a penis then?" -_-;

I get really irritated but usually give up on arguing because her mom is really closed-minded. It really upsets me, though.

I'm thankful that my own parents are very LGBT-friendly.

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  • KarmaxKitty
    KarmaxKitty Posts: 901 Member
    so... wait... her mom is calling her daughter a he? im confused...
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
    so... wait... her mom is calling her daughter a he? im confused...

    Yup, because my girlfriend is transgender and was born male.
    Her mom refuses to respect her gender identity and refuses to even use her pronouns or new name.
  • MikeSEA
    MikeSEA Posts: 1,074 Member
    A friend at work once told me that if I had been single he and I probably wouldn't have been friends (because I'm gay). The implication was that somehow the ring on my finger was the only thing keeping me from tying him up and going down on him. Who knew?

    Sucks when friends end up stabbing you in the back, even when they don't necessarily mean to.
  • david581c
    david581c Posts: 337
    Interesting topic, im sorry that you've had to deal with this, but it comes with the territory.

    Its tough all around, as much as Im used to daily slamming of my sexuality, im always the guy taking the licks and hitting back twice as subtly hard. Ive been called everything in the book, but what makes it harder is when being 50/50 or on the fence makes you an outcast in the community. Its like if i tell anyone who i truly am, im scorned. If i dare to honest in west hollywood, its a niche crowd, they only want it if youre one side or the other. Ooooof.
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    my whole family is actually very accepting. there's a transgendered female pageant at my mom's workplace at least once a year, and she loves them. says the pageants are a lot of fun.

    i always hear about people who don't accept gay people online, in the media, etc..., but i actually don't face it in my everyday life. well, a monk came up to me once and asked how 2 women could be attracted to each other in that way. he was genuinely perplexed. anyway, he is a psych major and hopefully some advanced level psych and sociology classes has opened him up to a variety of people by now.
  • MikeSEA
    MikeSEA Posts: 1,074 Member
    well, a monk came up to me once and asked how 2 women could be attracted to each other in that way. he was genuinely perplexed. anyway, he is a psych major and hopefully some advanced level psych and sociology classes has opened him up to a variety of people by now.

    People like this amaze me. Common sense is apparently lacking. I detest peppermint, and I always have. And yet, I see that peppermint candy canes are popular. Instead of wondering how it could possibly be that anyone wouldn't want to immediately spit out an altoid, I simply accept the fact that they're allowed to like peppermint, and it has nothing to do with me.
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    People like this amaze me. Common sense is apparently lacking. I detest peppermint, and I always have. And yet, I see that peppermint candy canes are popular. Instead of wondering how it could possibly be that anyone wouldn't want to immediately spit out an altoid, I simply accept the fact that they're allowed to like peppermint, and it has nothing to do with me.

    Yep. I think some things aren't perceptually simple for some people as a peppermint, but maybe they should be. I'm not sure.
  • jordsv
    jordsv Posts: 5
    Perhaps this is the way the mother has to communicate, to call attention... I know this is really really REAAALLYYYYY annoying, but if you could just try to ignore these things, she'll stop. I would try (after having a lot of passion fruit juice ;))
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