do you see yourself as always bigger/manlier than other wome
katiepie111
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i certainly do - and i think that is because of the height, and not feeling "feminine" or "petite" enough, especially growing up where all the boys seemed to want the girls who were short, petite, cute etc. now im finally coming into my own, but sometimes that thought is still there that leads me into a binge (like today)
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When I was in college my roomates used to take me shopping to buy clothes for their boyfriends because if the clothes fit me they knew they would fit their boyfriends.0
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I am totally with you on this. I definitely feel more manly =P Especially when I'm at least a head above my friend's.0
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Bigger, definitely yes. But the accompanying adjective is not manly. It's smarter, more confident, more competent, leader, etc. All those positive qualities men get assigned without having to do anything about it. I LOVE my tallness accompanied by smartness and confidence!0
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I went to a dinner last night for a friend's birthday and, looking at the pictures, I was honestly shocked. It was the first time in my life that I was one of the smallest ones there - I'm still very tall, but I clearly did not look big.
First time I've ever seen myself that way. It was awesome.0 -
I feel like this every day!0
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Bigger, definitely yes. But the accompanying adjective is not manly. It's smarter, more confident, more competent, leader, etc. All those positive qualities men get assigned without having to do anything about it. I LOVE my tallness accompanied by smartness and confidence!
I agree with this completely. I don't feel manly at all. I may be taller than other women, but I love that feeling. I have a very womanly shape, and feel like I am proportionate from top to bottom. If I were more boxy, I might feel manly. But I relish the fact that men will check me out before they will check out my short friends. Men are drawn to tall women
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I have a very feminine physique. I don't feel manish, even when buying/wearing men's clothes/shoes. I feel taller than some men, like my hubby, but not manly. He and I have the same sized hand and feet. His legs are just a hair shorter than mine and my torso is a hair shorter than his. I wear his shirts all the time! ;-P0
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Yeah, I can feel a bit out of place about my height, especially when in the company of other women. Most of the time I don't notice it and it doesn't bother me, but sometimes I am acutely aware of being the 'gargantuan'. I wonder if this will change as my width reduces?
My lovely boyfriend makes the effort every now and again to twirl me around, because, for me, being twirled on the dancefloor is the epitome of petiteness and being girly. Silly? Maybe
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Oh absolutely!!! I always seem to tower over people and there's something about always looking down (literally) at other women -- or maybe the fact that they look up at me -- that makes me feel like a big ugly giant. It's so frustrating going out with the girls and ALWAYS being the tallest one in the group. And when my body isn't at its thinnest, it just adds to my insecurity. I realize that it's likely in my head (at least I hope it is!), but it's hard. You're not alone...trust me. There's something about being heavier that makes me feel frumpy which in turn amplifies my height insecurity. I find that when I'm slender and my clothes fit nicely, I feel petite, sexy and beautiful, despite my height. Thanks for this post...thinking about this actually helped to boost my motivation to remain consistent with eating healthfully and working out...:)0
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I've always seen myself as very feminine, both in personality/demeanor and aesthetically, but when it comes to men.. I, more now than ever, feel like they don't see me as feminine "enough" because of my height. It's weird, I got way, way more attention when I was heavy. I thought once I got thin guys would approach me, life would be grand, but now I feel more lonely and insecure than ever before. I feel like they automatically write me off because of my height and my larger build. It sucks because I get angry at myself for feeling this way, because I am so proud of my height and am so against society's ****ed up notion that women should be smaller than/"protected" by their male partner. But I do think it hurts the most because I know that this is widely accepted as truth by many, especially, being where I'm from, where the population is heavily dominantly Asian. I always see men with women shorter (often much shorter) than them, regardless of ethnicity or build. Apparently, it's ok to be overweight and short, but being tall and lithe now renders me some kind of circus freak. Whatever
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My lovely boyfriend makes the effort every now and again to twirl me around, because, for me, being twirled on the dancefloor is the epitome of petiteness and being girly. Silly? Maybe
So true!!!
I've always been attracted to very thin men (counterbalance?). In all my years of dating- there was only one guy who could pick me up, swing me around... in general treat me like a petite little lady. I LOVED that. I don't miss him- but I do miss that feeling!
I don't feel manly- but I don't feel "girly" either...0 -
I defintely feel bigger than other women. My husband's side of the family is short and petite, I always feel like the jolly green giant next to them. Even when I'm thin, in pictures, I still look SO MUCH larger next to them. As for feeling manly? I spent many years ONLY being able to find clothes in the men's section (jeans, coats, etc). I hate to wear dresses, and I'm not a pink type girly-girl. I HAVE been called "sir" from people who happen to be standing behind me when my hair is short. I am very independent, strong willed, and my husband cries more often than I do. I have awesome skills that others consider manly - I'm very handy with a screwdriver or drill and I am good at building stuff from wood. Does that make me feel more manly? No, it just makes me feel like I don't need to rely on others, that I can do whatever I want when I want because I am strong, independent, and confident in my skills. 0
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I don't feel feminine at all and I hate it. I have small breasts, big hands, big feet, and broad shoulders. I'm especially self conscious in the town I live in because there aren't very many tall women. Sigh.0
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I always feel like a lump, esp if I wear heels. Worse when I am very overweight, I want to be slimmer & toned so that it at least takes something away from my large frame & height. don't get me wrong, love being tall but having big boobs & excess weight, is just too much.0
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I absolutely feel this way! I'm very uncomfortable with my height. People are always telling me to own it, but it's easy for someone who's 5'5" to tell me that! I feel very manly most of the time. 0
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I don't really feel manly. Maybe it's b/c I am kinda girly. I like makeup and hair. I like pink. (although I rarely wear skirts or dresses. Hmmm). I have never minded being tall too much, so I don't associate it with much negativity.
I am aware that I am tall, but sometimes I'm surprised how much bigger I am when I see a photo of myself with others. Depending on the person, sometimes I feel like a different species, almost. It's like everything is proportionally bigger. Head, arms, bust... KWIM? It's like I don't really "get it" until I see a photo.
I've had a few close girlfriends at different times of my life who were very petite and brunette. Never gave much thought to it at the time, but when we went out we must have looked like a funny pair. 0 -
I am aware that I am tall, but sometimes I'm surprised how much bigger I am when I see a photo of myself with others. Depending on the person, sometimes I feel like a different species, almost. It's like everything is proportionally bigger. Head, arms, bust... KWIM? It's like I don't really "get it" until I see a photo.
I've had a few close girlfriends at different times of my life who were very petite and brunette. Never gave much thought to it at the time, but when we went out we must have looked like a funny pair.
I have always done the same thing... Sometimes I forget how tall I am because my whole family is very tall until I see myself in pictures with friends.0 -
My height bothered me when I was a teen. I am 6 feet tall. However that no longer bothers me. Now I just hate being bigger than everyone. Especially in pictures.0
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Absolutely bigger! I'm always squatting down in pics so my boobs don't rest on some of my friends heads. Manlier? Never. Not even if I wanted to. I'm very busty and can't hide them if I tried.0
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I seem to be on the short side of the tall issue--5'9". Most of the time I don't even notice my height, except in large groups of people. I am then amazed that so many people (men and women) are shorter than me. I wear heels, like skirts and have a woman's upper body, but a man's hips and rear. I have been told twice that I would be a great weightlifter if I were a man since I seem to have the built in 'V" physique with broad shoulders and all. I married a 6'5" man and now have three beautiful children. A girl who is 5'11", a son who is 6'2" and another son who is 6'5" (and still growing slowly). I feel like I have to be a role-model for my daughter in particular, but I really do wonder what it would be like to be 5'2"; oh wait, I think I do remember. I was in 5th grade and taller than everyone else in the 5th grade. I have the pictures to prove it 0
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Every day!!
All of our friends (male and female) are so much shorter than me and I just feel like a big ol' man LOL0 -
I've always seen myself as very feminine, both in personality/demeanor and aesthetically, but when it comes to men.. I, more now than ever, feel like they don't see me as feminine "enough" because of my height. It's weird, I got way, way more attention when I was heavy. I thought once I got thin guys would approach me, life would be grand, but now I feel more lonely and insecure than ever before. I feel like they automatically write me off because of my height and my larger build. It sucks because I get angry at myself for feeling this way, because I am so proud of my height and am so against society's ****ed up notion that women should be smaller than/"protected" by their male partner. But I do think it hurts the most because I know that this is widely accepted as truth by many, especially, being where I'm from, where the population is heavily dominantly Asian. I always see men with women shorter (often much shorter) than them, regardless of ethnicity or build. Apparently, it's ok to be overweight and short, but being tall and lithe now renders me some kind of circus freak. Whatever
So many points I'd love to touch on here, I've noticed that I'm more approachable when I'm heavy. I think being more "attractive" does make you more difficult to approach. If this is making you feel lonely and insecure, perhaps you are building a bit of a protective wall as well.
And yes, in general the largely Asian population can make life in Hawaii difficult for us tall girls. Been there done that.
Keep your chin up beautiful lady.0 -
I am 6'1. When I was younger, I hated being tall because I stood out. As an adult, I LOVE being tall because I stand out
I see myself as a strong, independent woman who just happens to stand head and shoulders above most other women (lots of men too!!).
I see myself as bigger than other women because I am bigger and I like it. I can reach things on a high shelf. I don't get lost in a crowd and at rock concerts ... I can always see the band
I definitely feel feminine ... with a touch of 'saucy' and LOVE it when my kids tell their friends "my mom could kick your dad's a**" 0 -
I do feel bigger but that's down to my weight. I'm just over 6 ft but I don't feel tall comPared to my friends until I see pictures. My dad is 6'6" and my younger brother is 6'7" and my man is 5'8" so I feel normal at home. I work in a male dominated environment do I'm the same height if not taller that most of my colleagues.
I don't feel manly because I have curves and love make up. Men, especially short men seem to have a fantasy about taller women. My best friend describes me as amazonian and I love that!0 -
Bigger, definitely yes. But the accompanying adjective is not manly. It's smarter, more confident, more competent, leader, etc. All those positive qualities men get assigned without having to do anything about it. I LOVE my tallness accompanied by smartness and confidence!
I agree with this completely. I don't feel manly at all. I may be taller than other women, but I love that feeling. I have a very womanly shape, and feel like I am proportionate from top to bottom. If I were more boxy, I might feel manly. But I relish the fact that men will check me out before they will check out my short friends. Men are drawn to tall women)
I absolutely agree with both of these women. I may be tall, but I am very feminine. I like being feminine. I like dressing the part, wearing makeup, and wearing high heels. My husband is 6'2". When I wear my heels I am as tall as he is. I still feel very feminine. People see a women who is comfortable with her height and they see a women who is confident, competent, and ready for the world. You've got to love that!0 -
I constantly feel a bit on the 'manly' side, not so much specifically about my height, but my build (I am quite a 'big' girl) and stuff like having quite large hands (and not in a good, long-elegant-fingers kind of way). This, coupled with the fact that my sisters-in-law, mother-in-law and loads of my friends are quite petite, does make me wish I was a bit smaller in stature. If I decide to wear something nice, I always feel that I have to check with my hubby that I don't look like 'a bloke in a dress'0
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You ladies are all beautiful and should be proud of that height. Remember, Heidi Klum and Tyra Banks are OUR height.
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I sure do feel manly. I used to get "sir-ed" pretty frequently. I think that has influenced me to dress more feminine, and I now NEVER leave the house without earrings and usually wear my hair down. I am pretty broad shouldered and combined with my height and weight I feel like I have a "manly" figure. I am much larger framed than my ex-husband and I think that contributed to the "ex" part of things. Also when I'm out with my girls I always feel like I have to bend over to hear, and like I'm twice the size of EVERYONE else. It's paranoia not reality, and I have to remind myself of that! Gotta take the bad with the good I suppose!0
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You ladies are all beautiful and should be proud of that height. Remember, Heidi Klum and Tyra Banks are OUR height.
Yes! I love love love my height!!!! Actually when I was younger, I wanted to be taller. We should be proud of our height.
Note: What I have seen from a lot of tall women who have, over the years, tried to hide their height is that they have a hump on the top part of their back from trying to curve their back and bend down to look smaller. Good posture helps the ab muscles. 0 -
Yes, yes, yes! I'm 5"11", and when I was younger and at a lower weight, I felt like a supermodel when I walked into a room. Now I feel like Shrek
Whenever I put on a dress, it looks ridiculous. I look like a big man in drag.(and not a pretty one!) It's awful. When I get down to around 170, I'll start feeling more feminine, but until then, I feel like a monster.0
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