Kate,I've taken breaks, too. It gets discouraging. I think it's a good idea to take a break and let new people join for awhile and then go back to being visible.

I have one or two guys I might meet in the next week or two. One way or another my profile is going invisible after that. Either I'm taking a break because I"m tired of looking or it's because I found someone. (At this point I'm thinking I'm taking a break lol).

Mel, there's a happy medium though. I just posted about this on one of the other dating threads. I have found that if you spend weeks emailing and texting and talking, and don't meet, and then there's no attraction...........well, that sucks. I try to meet someone within a week of the first contact. I don't want to invest that much time in getting to know someone only to find out I'm not even attracted to him. And it goes both ways for sure.

Maybe I just need to be more assertive. LOL I will give it a whirl. I've gone out on plenty of dates on there but not exactly who I want. I don't want to waste anyone's time or my own. But thanks for the advice gals! If they spark up convo, then go in for the attack... LOL just kidding... but yes I will suggest meeting sooner.

An example Mel----

On Saturday a new guy emailed me. I wrote him back Sunday morning and we emailed back and forth a bit, and graduated to texting last night. We might talk on the phone tonight (he has a work thing so it depends when he gets home), but either way I'm going to suggest meeting either tomorrow or Wednesday night.

I have another guy that I've been emailing with for two weeks. I didn't think we were going to meet and then suddenly he asks me Friday about lunch this week. I suggested a couple of days and he hasn't replied again. And I've seen him on there so I know he read my reply. I think i'm writing him off. If he was that interested he'd be more attentive. I don't like feeling like I"m the backup in case nobody better comes along.