Oh the joys of gender stereotyping. Vent all you want

People can be insensitive. My mother died from breast cancer. When she was undergoing treatment she was kicked out of a restroom, because it was "for women only". My mother was bald, had had bi-lateral modified radical mastectomies (no boobs), and was dressed as she felt comfortable(baseball cap, jeans, t-shirt, polar fleece vest. It was horrifying to her.

OK I know I look like a dude but really? REALLY? Im still getting the confused looks and being asked if I know it's the womens locker room.

Yes, I do know it's the ladies locker room cause your tits gave it away!

I'm here to workout not check you out.

So yeah I'm butch if thats what you call it, I have no boobs and I'm covered in tattoos.

ok I'm done venting thanks for listening

My (legally on wednesday) wife is often called "Sir." Usually it is by older women. She finds it amusing.

I think you just have to laugh sometimes....it is just funny. I dont understand why people feel a need to inform me that I'm in the wrong bathroom...even if I was, who cares??? Both sexes use the same toilets at home right? WTH?

People are just weird...

I must be weird then, because I really don't like sharing a bathroom with a man. I hate this trend for having unisex toilets in gay clubs, and I also hate it when you're in a gay club and the ladies toilet is full of men. My girlfriend sometimes gets mistaken for a guy, although I can't understand why - I wouldn't say she's butch or andro.

I must be weird then, because I really don't like sharing a bathroom with a man. I hate this trend for having unisex toilets in gay clubs, and I also hate it when you're in a gay club and the ladies toilet is full of men. My girlfriend sometimes gets mistaken for a guy, although I can't understand why - I wouldn't say she's butch or andro.

From my experience most gay clubs have a unisex bathroom to accommodate for people who are non-binary and don't feel comfortable using either restroom, people who are early in transition and may not pass 100% in the restroom of their choice, drag performers, etc.

I've also never been in a gay club that had just a unisex restroom - they usually have one of each, which is nice for those who want a gendered restroom experience or who want to avoid it.

I don't think about it much. No butch here, at least not in my looks, but my partner tends to wear her orientation. I notice looks sometimes when we use a restroom together. Oh and forget about shopping and trying on clothes. Usually the uppity ones give the looks.

its the judgment and their feeling of righteousness, that they have some sort of duty to "protect" others from what they dont understand.

My partner finds it amusing, and I suppose I do too to some extent, but it really annoys me that they butt their noses in where they dont belong - how someone dresses, who they are, how they are comfortable in their own skin... it is no one's business but their own.

The dirty looks just get tiring.

This is why i dont go to gym's! I know how you feel.

This infuriates me. How many guys will walk calmly and knowingly into a women's room and do their thing? People need to mind their own damn business.

I've gotten called 'sir' at work a few times (which I find hysterical... 40DDD man boobs, anyone?) but my girlfriend gets this a lot and it bothers her. She doesn't mind too terribly being called 'sir,' but public restrooms are a huge source of anxiety for her. She won't go in unless I'm with her, and gets really self conscious in the locker room at the gym. At first I thought it was just her fear that people were looking, but a lot of the ladies really do stare at her. I give them dirty looks and make faces, which helps ME feel a little better, but I still hate that by that point, they have already made my poor girlfriend feel guilty for being somewhere that she has every right to be.

This is exactly why I don't use locker rooms or public bathrooms. Except I'm the opposite (I'm a guy that typically gets mistaken as a girl)
Whenever I'm in the men's bathroom or what have you, I always get stares and someone saying "you're in the wrong restroom."
It's so tedious. But honestly, I usually get less stares and feel more comfortable when I use the ladies room. Lol.

Doesn't it seem like its getting better though? Or maybe its just where I Iive.... like the first time I went to some ladies clothing store and my mom was with me and there was a guy in the fitting rooms (Working there) she was like "OMG THERE'S A GUY BACK HERE" and I was like "uh huh and he just wants to show me to a fitting room and get paid his XX/hour." And now there are guys working at Victoria's secret sometimes and she doesn't bat an eye (I imagine it helps if they 'seem' sufficiently gay?) -- I mean really, if you're that body shy go in a stall. My bf *never* uses public urinals because he's just super ....EVERYTHING shy? (hates public restrooms in general in fact but sometimes you have no choice). Gym's usually have bathroom stalls or private areas you can change if that's really a big issue for you.

For those of you it just upsets or who just avoid it, hang in there. Its tough but honestly it really does help people when they are forced to get used to it. MOST people are better about accepting something if they have a particular friend they know that's like that. Get in there, get changed, and go work out. They'll get over it or they'll change gyms, either way it has nothing to do with YOU. (uh this might work better if you take a polite approach whether or not you feel they deserve it). My mom used to come up with all sorts of nutty ideas about gays (thanks mass media!) like how they are sadder than straight people or whatever that study was. The more people she actually meets and gets to know the less she thinks like that (to the point that when one of my friends from HS decided to transition my mom's only complaint was that he had been one of the most beautiful girls of my HS friends and what a shame that was). She even tries to remember the gender pronoun switch (Which is better than my friend's mom is doing unfortunately).

(PS Locker rooms are gross, I change at home before I go to the gym. They smell funny and the floors are always gross looking.)

Thats horable.
but i check girls out in the locker room:)
why not?:)

LOL Pretty funny.

When I had short hair I would get called Sir all the time, plus I have an andro name so really it's not a big deal. Happened at work one day by an older lady and one of my coworkers flipped out after she left. I was like chill it happens all the time, I don't blame people. I look like a boy with short hair always have. I've gotten a few looks in restrooms, but nothing bad. I haven't had a problem in the gym yet though. Probably because I don't typically wear a hat so I don't look quite as masculine. But it's bound to happen.

I did have a gf come home with me once and see a picture on our front windowsill and ask who the cute little boy was. I busted out laughing and explained that was me @ like 2 yrs old. And my parents wonder! Geez!

Haha, my BF's (crap, husband now, whatever) first girlfriend in HS apparently looked like a boy to everyone (I've seen a picture and I don't really see BOY but she did look a bit androgynous I guess) and people used to say things about "that gay couple".

Seriously, if I'm looking at you, I'm probably checking you out. :laugh: But I understand some people don't want to be checked out like that, so I'm just going to keep my eyes to myself now. :sad:

Right... I'll just be more subtle now. Now whattttttttttt.

j/k. I really will try to stop checking people out.



Just in locker rooms, right? XD