I was clinically overweight as recently as May this year. I have an extreme fear (even a phobia I guess) of gaining weight because I think that I will get back to being overweight. I'm not very good at realising that things happen over long periods of time with weight, and that 1 meal will not make my hip bones disappear. To get over it, I just keep reminding myself that my thought processes around food, weight and diet are insane and that other people know best!

I was clinically overweight as recently as May this year. I have an extreme fear (even a phobia I guess) of gaining weight because I think that I will get back to being overweight. I'm not very good at realising that things happen over long periods of time with weight, and that 1 meal will not make my hip bones disappear. To get over it, I just keep reminding myself that my thought processes around food, weight and diet are insane and that other people know best!

You can learn more about nutrition & quantity size to ensure & guide you to how much enough & how much is too much.

I know literally every number under the sun to gain/lose x amount by x date, depending on xyz...I just don't believe it will work for me. Despite the fact that when I ate almost 3000 calories every day for a week I gained just 200g which means my metabolism is probably faster than your average person's, I am convinced that if I eat the amount that the maths tells me I should, I will get unlucky and gain a ton. Recently I have also tried to become very meticulous with counting calories and log every little thing to try and ease this anxiety which is helping a little.

I am honestly just scared of gaining uncontrollably and of the comments others will make while I gain. I have only ever gained inpatient where everyone is going through what you are and thus where you feel less judgement, but out here in the real world I am scared of the thoughts people will think of me. I also think I look like I need to lose a few pounds and don't think the number on the scale should be used to determine my healthy place as much as the way I look.

My biggest fear is just the process of it I guess. I'm very uncomfortable when I go over X amount of calories in a day and I don't want to send myself into a b/p cylcle.
It helps to eat things in small portions that are calorie dense so it doesn't send my stomach into a fit, but still just going out of my comfort zone has been really though.
Also I'm terrified of not fitting into my clothes anymore. I have lost and gained weight back once before and i just remember it being the worst most uncomfortable experience I ever went through.

However, the smart half of me knows I am at an unhealthy weight. It's like constant battle in this head of mine!

The reason why I was to gain weight is cause I am just tired of the your so skinny jokes. I was 135 at my heaviest in the 8th grade. I have scoliosis and have spinal fusion surgery n dropped to 110, I've been 120 since. I'm 23 and I feel like I have the body of a 14 year old. I jus want some curve and look my age. I want a butt and fill out my clothes. My biggest fear is being naked n somebody says I look sick. My family is full of curvy women that makes fun of me cause I'm thin, cause always say how they want a thick woman. I look at pictures and things that make me wanna try hard to gain weight. At least I have a friend that's a trainer that's helping me thru it cause its hard. I just need the mind set to do it and the motivation.....

Good luck on you all journey.

Hi DGarnier I came to this site to gain weight. For awhile I was looking too thin. People were telling me that and would say I am so skinny. I did start eating a lot more, and previous to that I had problems with anorexia and was going through depression. It's hard to make yourself eat when you don't even feel interested in eating, but for me it did get easier. What is good about this site is you have to keep tract of your calories and get them in by the end of the day. It's uplifting when at the end of the day I can say I did it! I am cheering for you, GO GO GO You can do it! If you need a friend to help let me know I would love that. There are days I don't feel like eating much, so I understand your feelings. Sometimes I just am not interested in eating.

Wrester, I know your pain more than you know. I'm averaging 4000 calories a day and I'm stuck at 116lbs. Garnie, I know it sucks having to find the hunger within you in order to chow down on food that you really don't want to.

The third obstacle for me is that I walk 8 hours a day when at work which burns over 1000 calories.

I'll try to lift weights as my last ditch effort to gain weight. Hopefully I can build muscle before burning the calories.


It makes me so mad that people can so easily gain weight and yet allow themselves to become overweight because they are too LAZY to burn them through cardio or strength exercises. I'd sooooooooooo wish I was overweight and work my way down to a slimmer physique.


Some you ladies here make me very angry. "I can't gain weight because I'm afraid I'll eat too much and then become overweight and horribly disfigured." Give me a freaking break. I realize having a nice looking body is important to your mental health, but I think some of you have extremely high expectations. You lot should be more thankful you're not cursed with my metabolism. I too am self conscious about my appearance, and I'm trying to fix it, but for me it's more of a physical barrier than a mental one. A barrier that's way harder to fix.

Here I am shoveling as much food as I can down my esophagus until I'm almost in tears and almost puking, yet when I'm out in public people ask me if I'm anorexic or they tell me I need to go eat a burger. It's not by choice I'm like this people!! You gals need some perspective and keep in my that you have way more control over your body than other people do, be thankful...

My biggest obstacle to weight gain is simply that....nothing works. I eat 3000+ calories a day and nothing is happening. I'm eating mostly healthy calories, with a few less healthy mixd in, haha.

Still, no significant weight gain.