So ladies...

jaxdiablo
jaxdiablo Posts: 580
edited November 8 in Social Groups
Couple few questions...

1. Would you rather have a man with a shaved head (either really close with clippers or razor), a guy who is thinning (not bald yet, but there's not a full field in the meadow), or someone who uses the medical products (i.e. Rogaine) to counteract the natural effects of their genetics?

2. What is the best thing to legitimately say to a woman to strike up a conversation? I always rely on - "What size works best for you?" *wait for disgusted look* "No, I meant I wanted to buy you a house."
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  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    My crush says he has thinning hair. I didn't even notice it because he's bald. I've never had a preference to bald or not but on him it looks mighty fine. And I love rubbing his head too!! :love: So I'd say, I rather him be bald.


    As far as conversation goes, just normal "hi, how are you?" is good enough for me. I don't do cheesy lines. Sure I'll let you splurge $7 on my drink but that's about it when you come to me in that matter.
  • dixiech1ck
    dixiech1ck Posts: 769 Member
    Hair is something so small in comparison to personality, so to me, it doesn't matter.

    Striking up a conversation about something on tv, out in public, etc. Telling me they like my smile. Be geniune, that's what gets me.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    1. Not too sure about that. (the hair thing)

    2. But for striking up a convo... I would say best starting off with polite greetings and start off with talking about interests, hobbies, etc. Get to know what she is like! That's important because it would make her feel you are actually listening and taking the time out to really get to know who she is, what she likes, etc. :)
  • Katefab26
    Katefab26 Posts: 865
    Hair doesn't matter as long as you're confident about it...I always have crushes on bald guys :love:

    Just saying hi with a nice smile works well for me!
  • teamnevergoingback
    teamnevergoingback Posts: 368 Member
    1. I didn't know I had a preference until I looked in my past... The last 4 guys I was attracted to are bald. Haha.

    2. Cheesy lines make me want to throw up, unless I'm the one using it!! I would watch the girl (not too hard and creepy) and try to find something she likes, then talk about that. Like for me, I'm usually always wearing something with the San Jose Sharks logo on it, my keys, jacket, hat.. So when I guy starts talking about hockey instead of hitting on my first, it totally works!! I don't like to be chased.
  • Myslissa
    Myslissa Posts: 760 Member
    I have dated all different types from one end of the spectrum to the other. If they can make you laugh, have a conversation with you, and have a kind heart...the hair does not matter.

    As far as pick up lines, I usually feel someone is being a smart butt and just ignore them.
  • Couple few questions...

    1. Would you rather have a man with a shaved head (either really close with clippers or razor), a guy who is thinning (not bald yet, but there's not a full field in the meadow), or someone who uses the medical products (i.e. Rogaine) to counteract the natural effects of their genetics?

    2. What is the best thing to legitimately say to a woman to strike up a conversation? I always rely on - "What size works best for you?" *wait for disgusted look* "No, I meant I wanted to buy you a house."

    1. Shaved
    2. Great convo starters all depend on where you're meeting, ex:at church wouldn't be the best place to tell her she's "hotter then hell"....if you're at the grocery just ask her what aisle the "hungryman tv meals are in" (then she'll know you're single)...and if you're at a bar, just a send her a drink across the bar then (if she returns your beer with a smile and a thank you) make you're way over there and tell her that you think "shes adorable and you couldn't help but notice" her.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    1. a man with a shaved head (either really close with clippers or razor)

    2. Hi, then say something funny and sweet. Something to do with what she is wearing or how she has her hair, when initiating a convo stay a way from preventive sentences till after you make her laugh.

    Good luck :flowerforyou:
  • Sauchie
    Sauchie Posts: 357 Member
    1.) Shaved
    2.) Compliment her eyes. (thats what makes me melt)
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    1. Whatever suits you best and makes you feel confident.

    2. Hate cheesy chat up lines or innuendo. Much prefer just to be spoken to with interest and sincerity. Like 'How you doing? Have you had a good day/week? what's your job? What kind of music you in to? Hobbies, Interests...... Etc Etc Etc Just a genuine conversation with humour and personality.

    Good luck :flowerforyou:
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member


    2. Cheesy lines make me want to throw up, unless I'm the one using it!! I would watch the girl (not too hard and creepy) and try to find something she likes, then talk about that. Like for me, I'm usually always wearing something with the San Jose Sharks logo on it, my keys, jacket, hat.. So when I guy starts talking about hockey instead of hitting on my first, it totally works!! I don't like to be chased.

    Love this!! So true! Once I was out wearing my Blackhawks shirt and this guy came up to me and was like "Blackhawks! Sweet!" and we started talking a little. Great conversation starter!!
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    1. Bald, absolutely. (I love bald guys. Since I was 12.)
    2. Something neutral and non-threatening that relates to the environment. At a bar: so what's your favorite drink here? Pale ale or Guinness. At the grocery store: I have never cooked with one of these, have you? At the park: I love that tree/the weather's nice/what's your dog's name. Anywhere: compliment on something non-threatening: eyes, hair, jewelry.

    If you used the house pickup line on my, I'd probably post it on facebook as a crappy line. ;)
  • peachprl
    peachprl Posts: 119 Member
    I guess I never really thought too much about it, but I think I am more attracted to the shaved head thing than the "meadow" approach (love the analogies, btw...cracked me up). That being said, I think the guys I have dated that have taken good care of themselves and were confident have had that look, in general...hmmm.

    As far as the conversation....again, just having confidence. Ahem...CONFIDENCE...not cockiness. Let that be the key word here. Guys get these confused. Often. Just having the courage to go up and talk to a girl and having something of value to say is a great thing. And listen. :-) Great things happen from there!
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    1. Don't care. Unless it's a comb-over, in which case you already lost so don't bother tryin

    2. Cheesy lines are like comb-overs. Obvious lies ("why is someone as skinny as you on this website) are like comb-overs. Anything sexual is like a comb-over doughnut. Chit-chat about something unique or going on nearby has a good probability of success. But that's just one girl's opinion, and I'm quite a rarity.
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    Couple few questions...

    1. Would you rather have a man with a shaved head (either really close with clippers or razor), a guy who is thinning (not bald yet, but there's not a full field in the meadow), or someone who uses the medical products (i.e. Rogaine) to counteract the natural effects of their genetics?

    2. What is the best thing to legitimately say to a woman to strike up a conversation? I always rely on - "What size works best for you?" *wait for disgusted look* "No, I meant I wanted to buy you a house."

    1. I think bald is super sexy on some guys so I would have to go with bald.

    2. Ask me my name, buy me a drink and ask about work or hobbies.
  • spitfire1962
    spitfire1962 Posts: 347 Member
    I think bald men are sexy. But a big turn off for me is the "Comb Over", or "Flip Over". When they are balding and trying to flip their thinning hair over a bald spot. Just be confident and shave it off.
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    Shaved for sure.

    Your line would probably work on me although it is pretty stupid. You'd have to follow up with something sincere.
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    Shave the head. Women can get past the superficial pretty easily.
    Drop the pick up line. Smile, say hello, introduce yourself and tell her in a tactful way why you noticed her. Example: if you noticed her boobs skip that. Just say I think you are very pretty.
    One of the best intro's I ever got - this guy at the gym told me he had seen me around and I looked like a really nice person and he wanted to get to know me better. I was married at the time but it seemed so sincere.
  • kit_katty
    kit_katty Posts: 992 Member
    1) Whatever looks good, the most flattering

    2) Hi. Really easy, then why you're approaching, what you noticed, strike up a conversation... etc.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    Shaved all the way

    Hi, my name is ... having fun tonight? Is usually a good start.
  • #1..... Its all about confidence.... THAT is what is attractive!
    #2..... Just be yourself... (unless ur a jerk... lol) Seriously, Show genuine interest in her .... not her looks or what she can do for you...
  • YouAreTheShit
    YouAreTheShit Posts: 510 Member
    Nice thread... informative.
  • 1- depends: pics please! Whatever makes you feel more confident is usually why will get the best reaction. I don't like the monk look with just a circle of hair. And hate comb overs, but having hair while its thinning is ok. Shaving is a lot of work! Ask us ladies! I wouldn't do the medical things, spend that time and money on your health.
    2- hysterical opening line. Never use it. A little eye contact across the room. Maybe a little nod of the head. Then head over and ask something light.

    Good luck!
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    I don't do cheesy lines. Sure I'll let you splurge $7 on my drink but that's about it when you come to me in that matter.

    Precisely why bar pickups are generally a waste of time for guys.
  • Cindy68164
    Cindy68164 Posts: 38 Member
    Couple few questions...

    1. Would you rather have a man with a shaved head (either really close with clippers or razor), a guy who is thinning (not bald yet, but there's not a full field in the meadow), or someone who uses the medical products (i.e. Rogaine) to counteract the natural effects of their genetics?

    2. What is the best thing to legitimately say to a woman to strike up a conversation? I always rely on - "What size works best for you?" *wait for disgusted look* "No, I meant I wanted to buy you a house."

    Hair dosen't matter in the long run, but if your going bald, shave it. Leave some stubble. If you have hair, keep it short. Don't try to hide what isn't there. That's like women padding thier bra's ....eventually your gonna find out.

    The only perference to hair I like is facial hair....no mustache or beard, but LOVE the five o'clock stubble...all the time!

    Work. Ask her what she does for a living ....then listen.
    Kids. Kids are womens' lives...love them and she'll love you.
    Do little things in a casual manner. Open her door, like you should anyways...(but not the car door...that's too obvious) Take the top off her beer. Clear the dishes off the table. Don't take over tasks she's already doing...don't belittle. Sneak in those little kindnesses and she'll notice.
  • emilysheafit
    emilysheafit Posts: 23 Member
    Couple few questions...

    1. Would you rather have a man with a shaved head (either really close with clippers or razor), a guy who is thinning (not bald yet, but there's not a full field in the meadow), or someone who uses the medical products (i.e. Rogaine) to counteract the natural effects of their genetics?

    2. What is the best thing to legitimately say to a woman to strike up a conversation? I always rely on - "What size works best for you?" *wait for disgusted look* "No, I meant I wanted to buy you a house."

    1. Some men can really pull off bald, some not so much. Hair isn't that important though.

    2.Ask my name and buy me a drink. Everything after that is smooth sailing!
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    1) completely shaved head

    2) always start with a compliment and/or an open ended question. i.e. if you're at a bar where a local band is playing: "that's a beautiful dress you have on! have you heard this band before?"

    Everyone loves compliments and it's hard to ignore a question. You can usually gauge her opinion of you by her response. If she looks nervous, keeps her shoulders turned away from you, or uses some sort of negative body language and gives you a short, clipped answer, nod, smile and excuse yourself. if she seems a bit flustered but smiles a lot and touches her hair or gives you some clue that she's happy that you noticed her... keep going. follow her lead.
  • Bysshe
    Bysshe Posts: 428 Member
    1. I like bald guys as long as they have a nice shaped head, but I don't mind a receeding hairline either.
    2. I would walk away from that phrase. I prefer a guy to be himself, not use pick up lines. A sincere compliment will get you a lot father than a cheesy line you saw on the internet. Also real conversation. For me bringing up music would always start a great conversation, and you can go anywhere from there.
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    1. Confidence and "swagger" Wear those 2 things and I don't really care what you do with your hair.

    2. Compliments are a girl's best friend. Besides diamonds. So unless you are mining for a living, compliment something. :bigsmile:
  • rin1130
    rin1130 Posts: 281 Member
    1.It doesn't matter to me, personally.

    2. I hate when someone asks me what music I like or something really generic. Make it personal. Like others have stated, observe for a few minutes and ask her about her sports tshirt or an interesting necklace she's wearing. If you are lucky somebody will be dancing horribly or really drunk and making a spectacle of themselves, which is always a good conversation starter. If she is talking to a friend and the conversation isn't too deep or obviously private you can try and jump in and say, sorry I didn't mean to easedrop, but....and then give your opinion on the matter. Then walk away after a few minutes of chatting so you can see their reaction.


    The most important thing is though, ask for the person's number! I can't tell you how many times I talk to nice guys who seem to be interested but get to nervous to follow through! (I've seen my own guy friends do this too!)

    That being said, there is a certain charm to using a lame pick up line in a joking, overly dramatic, self-depcracating way. You have to have a certain personality for that to be funny though.
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