Maybe it is just me ...........
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Wow! Well said.
It's too emotional for me too... if I want so sleep with you, then my heart is involved too - most of the time...
!Our society has set definitions over time. is it considered being a "slut" just because a woman has needs but isnt in a committed relationship? is it considered being a "guy" just because a man has needs and isnt in a committed relationship? consider both are masked definitions created by a society of cynical and judgemental people. consider needs and desires are apart of being human regardless of gender.
moreover, is a man or woman a "prude" just becuase they desire connectedness to accompany the physical desires? consider, again, these are attributes of a human.
all things have been masked by "our" meanings over time due to our experienced past. what would happen if we cleared the future of our pasts and lived in the moment of today creating a passionate now? a future would no longer be a function of your past and a new possibility would be created.
i dont know that my words make any sense to anyone but me and i feel strongly that a life can be lived without "meanings" and "definitions". ultimately, ask yourself one simple question: am I happy? if you answer yes without conditions then i applaud you for being authentic. if you answer yes and have conditions to that happiness (ie. "yes im happy as long as I dont let someone get close...", etc) then i challenge you to consider what purpose those conditions serve you.
life can truly be all about dreams and passions without avoiding risks.
happy saturday everyone!!! :flowerforyou:0 -
But, I don't really miss the relationship part of relationships but man, I do miss the intimacy. I am not ashamed and will get my needs met when they arise but I would prefer one steady person. Hmmmmmm. How can I find one of those? lol
I totally get what you are saying. In fact, I have one of these. He does his thing, I do mine, we get together every couple of weeks. No drama. I do find it weird how I can compartmentalize this "relationship" though.0 -
Great, now I feel like I sound like a slut.
Not at alll!!!!! I gave up relationships for a good reason and decided to have fun and get just what I wanted!
FWB is how I've been living for the past few years! 0 -
No way I could do FWB. I'm cool with that. And the right guy will be cool with it too.
I'm beginning to wonder if such a guy exists!!! lol
Haha, I've seen 'em, they do exist. Unfortunately for me, they appear to be attached at the hip to mama or for some other reason just aren't desirable to me! It doesn't help that the "type" I am attracted to generally isn't going to sit around for a year or two w/o getting his needs met.
Part of me adapting to being single again is accepting the very real possiblity that I may never find myself in a committed relationship again. And I'm ok with that, b/c like I always say: it's better to be single than miserably married.0 -
As has been mentioned, society labels people because they need to put them in a group or place.
The bottom line is if you are happy, safe & not hurting anyone, what has it got to do with anyone else. It's your life, live it!0 -
The bottom line is if you are happy, safe & not hurting anyone, what has it got to do with anyone else. It's your life, live it!
couldn't have said it better myself!0 -
The bottom line is if you are happy, safe & not hurting anyone, what has it got to do with anyone else. It's your life, live it!
couldn't have said it better myself!
Damn Skippy lol:bigsmile: My life is fun.0 -
Wow, great comments!!!!
I would use a service like Adult Friend Finder but it kind of creeps me out. lol I would just like an interesting guy who I am attracted to but don't want a relationship with to be at my sexual beck and call. bahahahaha0 -
No way I could do FWB. I'm cool with that. And the right guy will be cool with it too.
I'm beginning to wonder if such a guy exists!!! lol
Haha, I've seen 'em, they do exist. Unfortunately for me, they appear to be attached at the hip to mama or for some other reason just aren't desirable to me! It doesn't help that the "type" I am attracted to generally isn't going to sit around for a year or two w/o getting his needs met.
Part of me adapting to being single again is accepting the very real possiblity that I may never find myself in a committed relationship again. And I'm ok with that, b/c like I always say: it's better to be single than miserably married.
Girl, you can say that again! WTH is up with the mama's boys? Been there, done that, got the tee shirt!! LOL
Honestly, deep down, I know such a guy exists and as corny as this may sound,I pray for him....cause he may be going thru as much as (if not more) heartache as he is trying to find me as I am trying to find him. (I think that came out right). Its just being patient, and unfortunately "weeding" thru the bad ones to get to the good one....0 -
Wow, great comments!!!!
I would use a service like Adult Friend Finder but it kind of creeps me out. lol I would just like an interesting guy who I am attracted to but don't want a relationship with to be at my sexual beck and call. bahahahaha
Yeah meeting someone for that purpose online freaks me out too. I got lucky and found mine at work. He was the hotness but a 6'4" red flag so I never crossed that line until he left the company. Now I see him every other week or so. It works for me for now.0
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