What is your biggest fear about dieting?
Kamalalue
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My biggest fear is failure.
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Mine is progress... I was down 38 lbs, now I'm down 16... I seem to still give myself the... "hey you're making this work, lets go get...." SO often I start to see progress even a pound or 2 down and it's like oooh Doritos today... just have to figure out how to get by it.0
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That's the thing is it's a lifestyle change!!! So you always want to eat healthy and have a cheat meal once or twice a week- that's it!0
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It's getting better as I find healthy alternatives, like I can GET my pizza taste by buying a pack of soft tortillas, spread the pizza sauce on them, add the pizza-y toppings and bake until the cheese is melted.. 8 minutes if the oven is pre-heated, 10 minutes if its not.
Portions are a problem I'm noticing too, I "hate" paying for the smaller bags of chips, I mean a 30 gram bag for $1 or I can get a no-name brand bag of 150 grams for $1.09... hmmm... but if I don't get on top of it WHEN it comes through the door it's easy to eat the entire big bag instead of portioning it out. So for control I either have to buy one small bag or portion the big bag as soon as it comes in.
Just finished portioning out a fillet of salmon, $20 gets me 6 meals of a 6 oz portion of salmon... it'd cost that in a restaurant for one of them so I'm loving it0 -
After thinking about it; I am afraid of failure, but I am also afraid of succeeding.
I remember being 20 years old and in shape and how I was treated by strangers... it is equally despicable to how some people treat me now. The oogling is the same, but at least now my butt doesn't get grabbed my random men.
I want to be healthier, but I fear a better looking body.0 -
my biggest fear...is giving up.
I tend to get all into losing the weight
then i just give up and get upset.
but this time i think i can pull through because i have a lot of support from this group & my man.0 -
My biggest fear is regression. Pandorian hit it on the spot when he said, oh i did good , now its time for a bag of dorritos. I'll lose weight and then say, oh I'll take this weekend off cuz I'm doing so good. WRONG! Weekends are always tough for me.0
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My biggest fear is not succeeding in my goals0
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Rachel -
I also struggle with the weekends too. It seem seasy to control my food during the week when in a routine; but the weekend is a real challenge. Making plans with friends and family seems to always include food and makes it hard to plan ahead.0 -
My biggest fear is that after I have lost all of the weight I will still hate myself as much as I do now.0
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silverpen -
We all dislike where we are, and do not like everything about ourselves. Hopefully during this journey, you will realize that you are a fantastic person - and do not deserve to be hated by anyone, especially yourself.
I have known you only a short time, but can tell that you are friendly, honest and have integrity.
Loving yourself will have to be something you learn along the way, there will not be a pot of gold at the end of the weight loss.
Thank you for sharing, I realize that some of these topics can make a person feel vulnerable.
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It's all scary to me...failure, having to give up the food I love, death, succeeding...you name it. God says, "He has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and might!" I have to walk in that authority & and Istop acting like I'm defeating because I'm fat...
I have allowed fear to assist me into eating myself to 334lbs, how crazy is that? "Fear" is a four-letter word that MUST be defeated!!0 -
My biggest fear is telling people I'm on a diet. I'm always the one to bring dessert to family and friends events. I guess it's because they think because I'm big I know how to make a mean torte. Don't get me wrong, I've always loved cooking, but just once I want to bring the fruit and veggie tray! Then at least there will a fun dip that I can actually eat to go along with it.
So, ya telling people in real life. They will see me different and treat me different. I remember one time I told some friends I was on a diet and I was uninvited to a dinner party because they didn't want to have change the menu. Needless to say I'm not friends with them anymore.0 -
I agree that, that is one my fears too.
Maybe after I lose all the weight I still hate something about myself just as much as being big. Like my legs or stomach will be funny looking.
Guess, we'll just have to work on that too.0 -
My biggest fear is after I do lose the weight I need to..of skin hanging0
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I have seen some interesting fears pop up on this post that I realized that I also have...
I have an immense fear of losing weight quickly, because I also have a fear of the loose sagging skin that may be created. I do not want to need surgery to fix this or the scars that come with it.
I also have been the family member that always gets asked to bring the dessert - it is a very cruel trick... I do not buy sweets for the house and do not want them in the house. Not to mention, I would love to have healthy alternatives at the get togethers... I try to find healthier recipes to make... but they are never as big a hit as the classics.
I think the fear that I can relate to the most, was telling people that I am on a diet. There are family members that mean to be supportive, but get too pushy. I am losing for myself and my health and when I am constantly being asked and judged by my progress, it gets very frustrating - it feels like I have almost become accountable to those family members and their expectations. I am a very open person, and do not normally keep secrets - but when I tell people that I am on a diet, I feel that I have doomed myself to failure.
Thank you for sharing your fears, I feel that the only way to overcome them - is to recognize them. :flowerforyou:0 -
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I agree with the post about succeeding. I've always been overweight and am inexperienced with handling attention. I'm both looking forward to and fear it at the same time.
I'm working with a therapist about other issues and hope that work will give me the confidence and insight when it happens.
I've always referred to it as a wellness program when discussing it with others (and that's what it is). Fortunately everyone I've shared this with had been very supportive..
We are doing this for ourselves and to #=/+ with anyone who isn't going to support us.
A favorite saying "it isn't a matter of who will let me. Its a matter of who will stop me."
We can do this!
Blessings and peace to all on your journey. x0 -
Mine is progress... I was down 38 lbs, now I'm down 16... I seem to still give myself the... "hey you're making this work, lets go get...." SO often I start to see progress even a pound or 2 down and it's like oooh Doritos today... just have to figure out how to get by it.
I used to have this problem... it was like "oh I've done so good, I can have a cookie as a treat".... and then I saw a motivational image online one day, it said "you're not a dog, don't reward yourself with food." And just like that, it hit me. Rewarding yourself with food for anything is pretty degrading, but doing it for losing weight is simply a contradiction in action. Good luck getting beyond it!0 -
I can relate here, but with family and friends I just stopped telling them and kept doing what I was doing and watching what I ate at functions and outings. There's no need to discuss it if people aren't going to be supportive, and it might be hard to have control and restraint in food selections in social situations, but it is definitely possible.
But, as the go-to girl for desserts myself I DO have a recipe to share with you ladies that will help. It's ALWAYS a smash, I bring home an empty dish every time, but I managed to make an old time favorite far healthier and lighter, and no one was the wiser!
It's called "Sin" (I call the new version "Heaven" but I don't tell the fam that cause they want the orignal, so I let them think that's what they are getting!)
Start with a glass casserole dish, 9x12. Make a simple graham cracker crust... use as few crackers as possible, and "I can't believe it's not butter light" instead of regular butter or margarine.
On top of that add a layer of softened fat free cream cheese (you'll need to heat it up to get it soft enough to spread without destroying the crust)
On top of that layer sugar free chocolate pudding made with skim milk. (The original calls for not sugar free and full fat milk)
On top of that layer sugar free or light cool whip, your choice.
Then drizzle with a bit of sugar free smuckers hot fudge and sugar free smuckers caramel.
Sprinkle a very small handful of chopped pecans.
Refrigerate 3 hours to let everything firm back up.
It's messy, gooey, delicious... and no one is ever the wiser that it's all light, fat free, sugar free, etc.0 -
Loose skin is my biggest fear too. It's started already and I may set my goal weight higher as a consequence if it starts effecting my self esteem.0
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I'm terrified that it won't work... or rather, that I will lose a few pounds and will stop losing, and stay at over 300 lb for the rest of my life. I keep reading stuff that says once you are severely obese you will never be able to lose without surgery. I like to read about people who DID, they give me hope.0
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I'm worried about how bad the loose skin will be. What if I lose a load of weight, hold in all the loose skin with lycra leggings and tight fitting tee shirts, and I end up going to bed with a man who likes the look of me? Once all that lycra is peeled off and my flab flops about, YUK! At least if a man goes to bed with me now he knows I am huge and gets no surprises when I undress!0
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There are plenty of people in this group that will tell you that it is possible to lose the weight! i for one, would love to hear it too!
I am still struggling to get below 300, and I also worry about loose skin.
If you are doing a lot of cardio and not incorporating any weights - the loose skin is a possibility. Your best bet, is to lift weights - even if it is soup cans or gallon jugs. It will help to tone your arms and tighten the skin.
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My biggest fear was death from the strain it puts on my organs but then I realised if I didn't start or at least attempt to exercise, I could die anyway.
I have been assured by my doctor that if you take it easy, death is just my silly paranoia.
Hey, I'd rather die drying!
My biggest fear now is that I will not make myself proud. I have targets and visions already set in my head and I don't want to let myself down.0 -
Personally, I don't think we should call what we're doing a diet. We are changing our lives 180° That said... My biggest fear is getting so close to where I want to be and then going back to all my bad habits.0
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I thought lose skin was only if you lost it fast...oh geez. A friend of mine lost over a 100 pounds and looks amazing but she changed we no longer had things in common so it has been hard and difficult to be friends. She said that she lost alot of friends and found out that people really want to sabatage you when you start losing its like they are used to who you are and dont want you to change either because they dont know what that would look like or you made them feel better about themselves and now you will be doing better and not there to make them feel better. THe process reveals peoples true intentions. I fear that process and also what to do with getting the attention again and becoming that main stream attractive girl. I know what I look like and I know why I get the attention I get but its scary to think that I would be treated like a skinny girl some day having to ignore stares and now that people are looking at you even when you dont want them too...I mean it is similiar to now but I just cast it off as a weight thing but I dont know how I would handle that. I don't want to be like poeple I saw on tv that lost all this weight and then turned to alcohol or drugs and created worse problems for themselves. What if look old when I lose the weight? I have seen that with people on the biggest loser. What if I am prettier fatter than skinnier? what if I lose all this weight and still cant accomphlish my dreams? I dont fear not succedding because I know I will start again. Dieting isn't my biggest fear...weight loss surgery is my biggest fear.0
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My biggest fear is regain which is why I am trying to make a life change not a deit0
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My anger is my fear especially when it comes to the shallow attitude of people. They will start acting like I'm more worthy as the weight goes, and that makes me angry and want to say f' the world.0
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My fear is that I will quit. Just once in my life I need to follow through!! The only thing I have ever finished is college, then took 6 years to go back again.0
