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  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    @La_Amazona-My last post in this thread was to say part of why nice doesn't work. The OP (Meghan I believe) has repeatedly stated that while the guy is nice, she doesn't feel attraction for him. Hadn't he not come off of as so nice, I certainly believe that there'd be more to this. At least a 2nd date. Guys will act like jerks if jerkish behavior is rewarded. :smile:

    He could have been jerky but I still would not have been attracted to him. I don't want jerky. I have done jerky.
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    I am all about equality in relationships. I am a strong woman but I am also shy, generous, too nice sometimes, and as you put it seem sweet. I can hold my own in most situations but I want a guy who can do the same. I like me some manly men but that doesn't necessarily translate to jerkiness. He should be confident but not cocky.
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    Well I guess if he went through this "process" you speak of, he'd know when NOT to just go for it, right? Because I would have turned my face from that one guy that asked me for a kiss myself if he would have just dove in. Awkwardddd!!
    Trick of the trade
    * Girl turns head? Guy licks her ear! *
    => Guy acted like a jerk and goes to 2nd base!

    I kid, I kid. :bigsmile: (Don't try this at home children!)
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    By nature a guy is a take control and be assertive person but for all my life it has been drummed into us that we need to not act that way towards ladies.
    That it is dismissive,chauvinistic and disrespectful.

    There is a difference between being "assertive and in control" and being "dismissive chauvanistic and dispresctful." It's about respect. I have several guy friends, including one on this board who has a great balance of being assertive, in control, and yet also knows how to treat a lady with honor and respect.
  • flimflamfloz
    flimflamfloz Posts: 1,980 Member
    By nature a guy is a take control and be assertive person but for all my life it has been drummed into us that we need to not act that way towards ladies.
    That it is dismissive,chauvinistic and disrespectful.
    There is a difference between being "assertive and in control" and being "dismissive chauvanistic and dispresctful." It's about respect. I have several guy friends, including one on this board who has a great balance of being assertive, in control, and yet also knows how to treat a lady with honor and respect.
    Exactly my thoughts.

    Many men often (mis)understand: "OK! I get it, so ladies don't like nice guys... Naow I'm going to be a jerk then and talk to dem b!tches like dat!". Duh.
  • Meghan0116
    Meghan0116 Posts: 1,263 Member
    Well I guess if he went through this "process" you speak of, he'd know when NOT to just go for it, right? Because I would have turned my face from that one guy that asked me for a kiss myself if he would have just dove in. Awkwardddd!!
    Trick of the trade
    * Girl turns head? Guy licks her ear! *
    => Guy acted like a jerk and goes to 2nd base!

    I kid, I kid. :bigsmile: (Don't try this at home children!)

    I just snorted because of this in my office. Ah, no wonder I am single. lol
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Many men often (mis)understand: "OK! I get it, so ladies don't like nice guys... Naow I'm going to be a jerk then and talk to dem b!tches like dat!". Duh.

    :indifferent:
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