Welcome, Welcome!
I don’t know if my account helps at all but for whatever it’s worth . . .
I have been diagnosed with BED and depression though at separate times. They compound one another though it seems that the binge eating has more of an effect on the depression than vice versa in my case. My depressive tendencies seem to be largely wrapped up in my atrocious relationship with food and how I feel about my body image itself. Initially I didn’t admit to the binge eating to any of the psychiatrists who prescribed me the medication for the Depression and Anxiety. Like greekygirl mentioned, underlying issues are often present and the binge eating is obviously a very big underlying issue for the depression! Perhaps if they’d known that piece of it they’d have taken a different route. I don’t know. The meds didn’t seem to have the affect on the depression that they might otherwise have had if the eating issue, the bigger issue, had been addressed. Ultimately I chose to omit the meds altogether (the withdrawal symptoms are awful!) and sought out a Psychologist with a specialty in eating disorders. That was a HUGE step for me. I’m trying the cognitive behavioral therapy approach with no medication at this point and I’m cautiously optimistic. Obviously there’s underlying issues causing the binge eating to go on but I feel like finally working through those and not hiding it anymore (at least from my Psychologist . .) is going to take care of a lot of the depression issues as well . . .

Welcome, I’m so sorry you’ve been going through this. It’s such a secret battle I don’t realize how many other people do the same thing, thank you for sharing. I can only do the same because I feel somewhat anonymous here. I’m stuck in the same pattern right now, but I have been living with (I wrote “fighting with” first then realized I don’t fight it too much) eating disorders most of my life – I was anorexic in college (they sent me home when my weight dropped below 80lbs – I went to a small school that didn’t want the liability of having me there), my dad didn’t know what to do with me (he had watched my mom die from cancer a year before then I come home looking like that). I eventually gained weight & swapped out for bulimia. I was healthiest during my early 30s – around 120lbs, I ate as normally as I ever have, worked out a reasonable amount – I wish I knew what turned it off at that point. Two years ago I switched birth control and lost some weight which turned into a competition for me & I went down to 97lbs. I was already starving & watching my father in law pass away with cancer last year initiated the binging again. Today I’ m at 107, I want to be 104 – so I’m in this pattern where I restrict too much during the week, I’m starving by the weekend and then binge, and start the cycle over on Monday…
I’ve been on the anti-depressants/anti-anxiety before, I never noticed much of a difference on them. A good psychologist is probably your best bet – it’s not easy to find the right one so be willing to go to a few to be sure you find the one you click with. Good luck, I’ll be thinking of you & keep us updated on your progress.