When guys are TOO nice..
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For me also, I've been out of the dating game for over 11 years. I was 20 years old the last time I was single... so most of the time, the guys WERE trying to just get in my pants. Now I'm 32 and am dating men from 29-40 somethings so hopefully they've matured a bit since then.
That would be a no. We don't mature past 21.0 -
For me also, I've been out of the dating game for over 11 years. I was 20 years old the last time I was single... so most of the time, the guys WERE trying to just get in my pants. Now I'm 32 and am dating men from 29-40 somethings so hopefully they've matured a bit since then.
That would be a no. We don't mature past 21.
He's telling the truth.0 -
For me also, I've been out of the dating game for over 11 years. I was 20 years old the last time I was single... so most of the time, the guys WERE trying to just get in my pants. Now I'm 32 and am dating men from 29-40 somethings so hopefully they've matured a bit since then.
That would be a no. We don't mature past 21.
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lol we like to pretend tho ... but then again we also like to pretend that we are superheros0
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hmmmm @LA I think you lost me on this one. I like compliments and try to give one to someone male/female at least everyday.
^^^this!!
The other end of the scale is the guy that never compliments and tries to put you down all the time :noway: I know which I prefer!! :flowerforyou: I always think that a person that is free with compliments is open, emotionally expressive and happy in themselves. I guess it could be BS but so what? I'm all for making people feel good, not bad, about themselves. You'll soon figure out if its BS anyhow.......good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
Too many complements make me uneasy. I don't know if when guys tell me that I am pretty or that I look good I always think they are just saying that to get in my pants. I think this really comes from being over weight for so much of my life that it is just recently guys are saying this to me. It puts me on edge if they keep pushing the matter. I try and just say thanks and switch the subject.
i can relate to that. you just said everything i wanted to say ahahahha. I havent lost that much weight yet but when guys start complimenting me (to the point where it gets annoying) i start thinking that they are after something. Anyway we do have to trust our instincts and i guess its a different matter if we like the guy too :P0 -
Wow. We just can't win lol. I will give out compliments and I'm not shy to do so. Most of the time it's well received. One girl, wasn't used to it but from what she had told me about her exes, they were pretty much complete *kitten*. When I'm with a girl, I will prob at least tell call her gorgeous/beautiful as pet name sort of things. I'm not afraid to say how I feel either. If I like or love you I will tell you.
In the end, I guess you girls are right, we as guys do want to sleep with you. That's the end result physically of dating I guess. But that doesn't mean whatsoever that a guy is only giving you a compliment to try and get in your pants... If its at a bar that's prob all he wants. If your a couple of weeks into dating and he gives you a compliment, take it. Thank the poor *kitten*, he's probably been dying to tell you since he first saw you :blushing:0 -
Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.0 -
Wow. We just can't win lol. I will give out compliments and I'm not shy to do so. Most of the time it's well received. One girl, wasn't used to it but from what she had told me about her exes, they were pretty much complete *kitten*. When I'm with a girl, I will prob at least tell call her gorgeous/beautiful as pet name sort of things. I'm not afraid to say how I feel either. If I like or love you I will tell you.
In the end, I guess you girls are right, we as guys do want to sleep with you. That's the end result physically of dating I guess. But that doesn't mean whatsoever that a guy is only giving you a compliment to try and get in your pants... If its at a bar that's prob all he wants. If your a couple of weeks into dating and he gives you a compliment, take it. Thank the poor *kitten*, he's probably been dying to tell you since he first saw you :blushing:
Love your thoughts, very honest, and true :flowerforyou:0 -
Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.
Yes, we realise. But we are just wired that way!! :laugh:
Not all men are like you Carl. Some men would even say 'I love you' to get sex!! Sad, but true :ohwell: Hence we over analyze to try and figure what type of guy we're dealing with. Pointless process though, as you say, as we can't really tell ...........but hey, women love to talk, so............0 -
Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.
Yes, we realise. But we are just wired that way!! :laugh:
Not all men are like you Carl. Some men would even say 'I love you' to get sex!! Sad, but true :ohwell: Hence we over analyze to try and figure what type of guy we're dealing with. Pointless process though, as you say, as we can't really tell ...........but hey, women love to talk, so............
I get that part of being wired that way but there are also ways a guy is wired yet that is often considered unacceptable,it just gets frustrating sometimes is all.
As far as a man saying or doing something to get sex,yes it happens,will not argue it nor condone it but have also found that many ladies are perfectly willing to (at least online) have their "needs" met without any real feelings to go along with it.
Most things are something of a 2 way street and understanding that can be helpful.0 -
I've friendzoned girls on this one issue. I hate having to explain the words I used in a comment. I didn't write it down, redraft it, polish the wording and issue it. It just fell from head to mouth and out. If there were two ways you can evaluate it and one of them makes you mad, use the other one.0
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Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.
UH YES. But I can't help it. My mind just does it.
It's not as bad as when I was younger (thank GOD!) but boy my mind can run...0 -
So latin lover last night said "look at you! you're so hot!!" And I just giggled like a dumb school girl and said "oh hush". :ohwell: That's all I could say. We were talking about profile pictures and a funny story about how he want out with a woman who said she was 35 and had fake pics of herself. She was 42 and the pics he had seen weren't of HER. lol So he was relieved that I was ME.0
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Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.
I am fine with a one 'You look nice" compliment but after I say thank you, you look nice too I don't want a guy that keeps the compliments going and going. I tell a guy I am going to the gym and I get "You look great you don't need to" well yes I do need to if I want to keep looking great.0 -
Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.
I am fine with a one 'You look nice" compliment but after I say thank you, you look nice too I don't want a guy that keeps the compliments going and going. I tell a guy I am going to the gym and I get "You look great you don't need to" well yes I do need to if I want to keep looking great.
When is the next compliment appropriate or desired and if that does not happen is it upsetting?0 -
Serious question and would like an honest answer...
Do you ladies realize that this tendency to over analyze or to read things into something that is not there is a self destructive habit and if so do you try to not do it?
Really,maybe a guy is saying you look nice because he thinks you look nice,I do that with no expectations or desire to get in a ladys pants.
I am fine with a one 'You look nice" compliment but after I say thank you, you look nice too I don't want a guy that keeps the compliments going and going. I tell a guy I am going to the gym and I get "You look great you don't need to" well yes I do need to if I want to keep looking great.
When is the next compliment appropriate or desired and if that does not happen is it upsetting?
More on the line of space them out don't clutter them all together and don't always compliment us on our looks. Mix it up.0 -
Wow. We just can't win lol. I will give out compliments and I'm not shy to do so. Most of the time it's well received. One girl, wasn't used to it but from what she had told me about her exes, they were pretty much complete *kitten*. When I'm with a girl, I will prob at least tell call her gorgeous/beautiful as pet name sort of things. I'm not afraid to say how I feel either. If I like or love you I will tell you.
In the end, I guess you girls are right, we as guys do want to sleep with you. That's the end result physically of dating I guess. But that doesn't mean whatsoever that a guy is only giving you a compliment to try and get in your pants... If its at a bar that's prob all he wants. If your a couple of weeks into dating and he gives you a compliment, take it. Thank the poor *kitten*, he's probably been dying to tell you since he first saw you :blushing:
Love your thoughts, very honest, and true :flowerforyou:
Agreed ^^^ wise beyond your years Nat0 -
Be creative. If it's routine'ish such as "you like nice" or "you're so sexy" everytime I dress up, I won't believe it.
My favorite compliments have been:
Your legs look hot in those shoes.
Your hair smells good.
Your skin looks flawless.
You're a brickhouse (lol)
I love your hands.
Your smile is contagious.
I just feel with those type of compliments, the guy was really looking at me and paying attention to my hair or hands or whatever.0 -
Hmm... * writes everything down * :flowerforyou:Be creative. If it's routine'ish such as "you like nice" or "you're so sexy" everytime I dress up, I won't believe it.
My favorite compliments have been:
Your legs look hot in those shoes.
Your hair smells good.
Your skin looks flawless.
You're a brickhouse (lol)
I love your hands.
Your smile is contagious.
Your smile looks flawless.
Your hair look hot.
Your feet smell good in those shoes.
Your skin is contagious.
I love your brickhouse.
Thanks for the tips!0 -
Hmm... * writes everything down * :flowerforyou:Be creative. If it's routine'ish such as "you like nice" or "you're so sexy" everytime I dress up, I won't believe it.
My favorite compliments have been:
Your legs look hot in those shoes.
Your hair smells good.
Your skin looks flawless.
You're a brickhouse (lol)
I love your hands.
Your smile is contagious.
Your smile looks flawless.
Your hair look hot.
Your feet smell good in those shoes.
Your skin is contagious.
I love your brickhouse.
Thanks for the tips!
Are you drunk? (again) lol0 -
Hmm... * writes everything down * :flowerforyou:Be creative. If it's routine'ish such as "you like nice" or "you're so sexy" everytime I dress up, I won't believe it.
My favorite compliments have been:
Your legs look hot in those shoes.
Your hair smells good.
Your skin looks flawless.
You're a brickhouse (lol)
I love your hands.
Your smile is contagious.
Your feet smell good in those shoes.
This one makes me LOL after the one guy smelled my shoe.0 -
Hmm... * writes everything down * :flowerforyou:Be creative. If it's routine'ish such as "you like nice" or "you're so sexy" everytime I dress up, I won't believe it.
My favorite compliments have been:
Your legs look hot in those shoes.
Your hair smells good.
Your skin looks flawless.
You're a brickhouse (lol)
I love your hands.
Your smile is contagious.
Your feet smell good in those shoes.
This one makes me LOL after the one guy smelled my shoe.
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Okay going off to meet the Irish man. I am feeling hot! :bigsmile:0
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It doesnt have to be so complicated. go with the flow. do what feels natural. If you are meant to be good company with each other, then you will automatically fall into a comfy medium when it comes to compliments.
That being said...the best compliment I have ever recevied was from my best friend (completely in love with him but no touching kinda thing)
sitting at the restraurant, waiter comments, oh she isnt your girlfriend? He looks at me and says..."No, she's outta my league"
now THAT's a compliment
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Awww that's sweet
Reminds me of my friend who when I was very nervous about something, told me that no matter how great they thought I was, it couldn't come close to how fantastic he thought I was :blushing:0
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