I'm 5'10" and I've never had a really tall boyfriend come to think of it, only one has been and I asked him out! You've got me thinking, in my years of dating, I've never had a super tall boyfriend. I think it's just something random though.

Although my boyfriend once "joked" that he liked a girl with small hands so his trumpet looked big. I think this was partly true.

I've spent a lot of time in years gone past worrying why some guy didn't bother to call and imagining that it must be something wrong with me but on occasion I have found out that it's been something completely random and nothing to do with me - some guys lose numbers / phones; some guys have girlfriends/wives they hadn't fessed up about and had no intention of ever calling; some were drunks who had the number but couldn't remember the girl; some didn't have room for a relationship in their busy lives and some were genuinely just not interested. You never know the reason so it's best not to waste energy on it and instead just get out and have fun

I feel the exact same way you do and have had the same reactions and negative thoughts when guys didn't call or remain interested, etc. I don't have any words of wisdom or awesome advice for you but just wanted to reach out and let you know you aren't the only one :-)
ps- I'm 29 and have rarely dated guys taller than me, not because I don't want to, but just because it never works out that way.....

I can't speak for myself 5'9" and married hubby is 6'2" But I've noticed a trend in my sons 6'1" and 6'3" and it appears they are more attracted to girls that are really short 5'3" and under. I once asked my son how come he wont date a girl my height and he said it made him feel inferior to have a girl his height. I guess it is a man thing or insecurity thing most likely.

I was there, so I'll share my experience. I never had much luck dating, I went for years and had very few dates. The ones I did have sucked horribly, would cancel at the last minute, were just plain idiots or whatnot. I definitely wanted a guy who was taller than me, matter of fact, I had a list of ideal traits for a candidate. When I actually met the right guy, all of those ideas I had melted away. We are the same height and if I wear heels I am definitely taller than him, it doesn't bother either of us.
From my experience most guys in their early 20's aren't in the 'long term' frame of mind, they are still focused on themselves and having fun. I didn't start dating my husband until I was 26 and we got married when I was 27. One of the major benefits of that was that I got to do a lot of growing in my 20's, figuring out who I was and exactly what I wanted out of life. If I had married my husband at 21, I'm pretty sure we would have divorced.

So I guess what I would say is, have an idea of what you want, but don't shun someone away because they don't meet 100% of a physical code you have in mind. Make sure you are having fun and discovering your own personality. And please, don't waste time on people who make you doubt yourself or are unappreciative of you.

If I have to listen to another pixie sized girl go on and on about how she ONLY dates guys over 6' I'll lose it. If I tried to get away with that I'd end up a nun.

Ha! I have a friend who is 5'5 and will only consider men who are 6 feet+. When I try to explain to her that is equivalent of me demanding men who are only 6'7 or taller...I don't think she gets it. Yet I have noticed taller men usually like and are attracted to shorter women.

If I have to listen to another pixie sized girl go on and on about how she ONLY dates guys over 6' I'll lose it. If I tried to get away with that I'd end up a nun.

same here.... My ex was about 5'8 maybe 5'9 and I'm 5'11. He was so sexy though .... :blushing: :blushing: I didn't even care. It would be nice to have someone much taller than me..... But i dont think its going to happen!!! :noway:

I am 5'11 and My Love is 6'3. I have always dated guys who were taller than me. I just don't give anyone shorter than me a chance, and most women on here will tell me I am missing out, and maybe I am. I did TRY the shorter thing once, the guy was 5'9 maybe 5'10 on a good day, but it didn't work out. I also didn't date in HS really and didn't do anything serious in college. But the guys since college have all been taller than me.

Edited to Add: I have always been ridiculously secure in myself and outgoing. I have been told I just exude confidence. I think that has alot to do with it, I approach tall men. And it is easier for a man to approach a woman who feels good about herself :O) So, shoulders back ladies and smile! If you aren't confident in yourself, no one will be confident in approaching you!

Tall guys rarely approach me. The shorties come right up and talk to me everytime. If I had a quarter for everytime a short guy came up to me and said "You're a tall drink of water " Instant ice breaker! :laugh:

I have dated men taller than me and find that I prefer that. I recently had a okcupid date with a guy who was 5' 7" and I couldn't get over how short he was next to me. I'm 5' 11". There are other reasons we didn't date again, but that was one of them.