Smoking... and Dating...
odusgolp
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Just random thoughts...
1. Do you find most people are honest in an online dating profile regarding their smoking habits?
2. Are smokers an immediate disqualification for relationship potential?
1. Do you find most people are honest in an online dating profile regarding their smoking habits?
2. Are smokers an immediate disqualification for relationship potential?
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1. I haven't been around many dating profiles since I've never really done the dating web site thing. though I have met girls that I first met online.
2. Smoking is a turn off for me. I don't smoke and don't care for the habit. Smoking would be a major hurdle, if not a deal breaker, if I were to consider dating a woman that did.0 -
1 - don't know
2- Smoking is a deal breaker for me. I don't want the smell in my clothes, hair, car much less want to kiss someone that's been smoking.0 -
1. for the most part, yes.
2.. for me? yes. if someone was actively trying to quit and never smoked around me, that would be one thing. but a regular smoker? no way jose!!!0 -
I find that most people who are on dating sites and are concerned about their smoking habits interfering with relationships put "trying to quit" I say this because I am one of those people. I smoke very little compared to most, and I vape more than I smoke regular cigarettes.
I figure as long as they mention it, it's not an issue to me. Like anything, I might ask they not do it around me, but if it otherwise was not a problem, then no biggie.
I think people are far less honest about alcohol usage, as no one wants to admit to being an alcoholic even if they are court ordered to attend AA. That's the biggest hidden issue I've come across...
Otherwise, to each their own body. Don't harm me, I won't harm you... But I do hate it when I get lectures about quitting smoking from non-smokers, especially when my own physician has 1. stated that how much I smoke is not considered a direct health risk and 2. has suggested I not try to quit until other things are under better control, such as my weight.
Anything in life, I think you have to respect it when a person has discussed things with their medical team.
Anyway, um, I guess the answers are:
1. Most of the time.
2. Not for me. I actually kind of prefer smokers, because they tend to be less uptight about other things as well.0 -
Just random thoughts...
1. Do you find most people are honest in an online dating profile regarding their smoking habits?
2. Are smokers an immediate disqualification for relationship potential?
never gone on a date w/ someone from an online dating site.
yes, deal breaker.0 -
As a smoker I have to say I've never had a problem going out with non-smoking people . Plus all the bars down here allow smoking so pretty much everyone you meet is accustomed to it. I never lie and my OKC says I'm a smoker. The only people who don't know are my bosses cuase I dont want to hear it.:smokin:0
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I find that most people who are on dating sites and are concerned about their smoking habits interfering with relationships put "trying to quit" I say this because I am one of those people. I smoke very little compared to most, and I vape more than I smoke regular cigarettes.
I figure as long as they mention it, it's not an issue to me. Like anything, I might ask they not do it around me, but if it otherwise was not a problem, then no biggie.
I think people are far less honest about alcohol usage, as no one wants to admit to being an alcoholic even if they are court ordered to attend AA. That's the biggest hidden issue I've come across...
Otherwise, to each their own body. Don't harm me, I won't harm you... But I do hate it when I get lectures about quitting smoking from non-smokers, especially when my own physician has 1. stated that how much I smoke is not considered a direct health risk and 2. has suggested I not try to quit until other things are under better control, such as my weight.
Anything in life, I think you have to respect it when a person has discussed things with their medical team.
Anyway, um, I guess the answers are:
1. Most of the time.
2. Not for me. I actually kind of prefer smokers, because they tend to be less uptight about other things as well.
I'd rather deal w/ uptight then nasty breath, stained walls in a house and smelly clothes.0 -
I find that most people who are on dating sites and are concerned about their smoking habits interfering with relationships put "trying to quit" I say this because I am one of those people. I smoke very little compared to most, and I vape more than I smoke regular cigarettes.
I figure as long as they mention it, it's not an issue to me. Like anything, I might ask they not do it around me, but if it otherwise was not a problem, then no biggie.
I think people are far less honest about alcohol usage, as no one wants to admit to being an alcoholic even if they are court ordered to attend AA. That's the biggest hidden issue I've come across...
Otherwise, to each their own body. Don't harm me, I won't harm you... But I do hate it when I get lectures about quitting smoking from non-smokers, especially when my own physician has 1. stated that how much I smoke is not considered a direct health risk and 2. has suggested I not try to quit until other things are under better control, such as my weight.
Anything in life, I think you have to respect it when a person has discussed things with their medical team.
Anyway, um, I guess the answers are:
1. Most of the time.
2. Not for me. I actually kind of prefer smokers, because they tend to be less uptight about other things as well.
I'd rather deal w/ uptight then nasty breath, stained walls in a house and smelly clothes.
lol Ok so I DONT allow smoking in the house ( I have kids and prefer to think of them first) and apperantly the smokers you know needs some altoids.... and Laundry detergent ( just playing) :bigsmile:0 -
I have smoked in the past but will never date a smoker. I don't want to have that influence around me or worry about the long-term health effects.0
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1. No! I've got involved with a couple of guys that said 'occasional smoker' and they were proper smokers! :smokin:
2. No, as an ex smoker myself I empathise. I would have a problem with him smoking in the house tho, but not many people do that these days.0 -
I find that most people who are on dating sites and are concerned about their smoking habits interfering with relationships put "trying to quit" I say this because I am one of those people. I smoke very little compared to most, and I vape more than I smoke regular cigarettes.
I figure as long as they mention it, it's not an issue to me. Like anything, I might ask they not do it around me, but if it otherwise was not a problem, then no biggie.
I think people are far less honest about alcohol usage, as no one wants to admit to being an alcoholic even if they are court ordered to attend AA. That's the biggest hidden issue I've come across...
Otherwise, to each their own body. Don't harm me, I won't harm you... But I do hate it when I get lectures about quitting smoking from non-smokers, especially when my own physician has 1. stated that how much I smoke is not considered a direct health risk and 2. has suggested I not try to quit until other things are under better control, such as my weight.
Anything in life, I think you have to respect it when a person has discussed things with their medical team.
Anyway, um, I guess the answers are:
1. Most of the time.
2. Not for me. I actually kind of prefer smokers, because they tend to be less uptight about other things as well.
I'd rather deal w/ uptight then nasty breath, stained walls in a house and smelly clothes.
I don't know who you know but that sure as HELL does not describe me or the people I date. I have natural bone toned teeth, a clean home, and most people I know don't know I smoke because in the 12 years I've done it on and off, I never smell like it. I also have the decency to clean myself every once in a while.
Believe me, I'd rather "nasty breath" due to smoking than to bad oral hygiene. I've known plenty of guys that didn't brush their teeth and thought turning a shirt inside out made it clean.0 -
Smokers might like to think they don't smell but they do. I live in tobacco country and any time someone comes in the office after smoking the smell usually gives me a headache it is so strong. Smokers are usually used to the smell so they don't notice it but non-smokers especially ones that used to smoke can smell you a mile away. In highschool I drove my dads car, both my parents smoked and the smell from the car went into my clothes do everyone thought I smoked. I had friends that refused to ride in the car.0
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Smokers might like to think they don't smell but they do. I live in tobacco country and any time someone comes in the office after smoking the smell usually gives me a headache it is so strong. Smokers are usually used to the smell so they don't notice it but non-smokers especially ones that used to smoke can smell you a mile away. In highschool I drove my dads car, both my parents smoked and the smell from the car went into my clothes do everyone thought I smoked. I had friends that refused to ride in the car.
Definitely true about thinking they don't smell when they do.
It's kind of a dealbreaker for me. I don't care if you smoke every once in a while but if you are a regular smoker, no.0 -
I think in general some are pretty honest
and yeah smoking is a total deal breaker for me. I grew up with a mom who smoked HATED it - house and me always stunk like her ashtray.0 -
1. I've had one guy lie about smoking, but we met in person not online. I've had more guys lie about their age and drinking than anything.
2. Smoking is a dealbreaker. I tried hard to overcome this, since my favorite ex boyfriend was actually a smoker. But I never knew it until I went to his house. I couldn't stand being in there long before the "smoky haze" made me sick. I just couldn't overcome it, and he just couldn't quit or smoke outside the home ("I'm a grown man...")
ETA: Not all smokers smell bad. I never could tell this guy smoked until two months later when I finally went over to his place for a movie. But it was baaaaaad in his house, so I don’t know HOW I never picked up on it in his clothes.0 -
I couldn't date a smoker...being 3 months "clean" myself I couldn't deal with the constant temptation - and yes, for me it would be just that. A temptation.0
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1) Yes, I've met lots of women that claimed to not or seldom smoke only to find they were practically chain smokers.
2) I only go with trying to quit if she seems to have a lot of things going for her. But that almost never happens. And I find out they lied.0 -
1) I have found most guys do state on their profile that they smoke if that's the case. I have more problem with guys lying about their height!!
2) I used to be a smoker and would actually prefer a guy that also smokes (so I knew he wouldn't be bothered when I light up). However, now that I have quit I do look for guys that do NOT smoke. Only for the reason is I don't want to be tempted to start again :happy:0 -
I don't really like to date smokers and I keep harassing my dates if they do.
- "But it's haaaaaaard to stop you can't imagine!"
- "Well, can you then imagine how hard it is to never start? So shoot da fuk up babz!" (Yeah, I'm da man 2nite)0 -
1. I've never done online dating, so I don't know how frequently people lie about stuff like that on their profiles. I would imagine, given the extradordinary number of idiots who seem to roam those sites, the percentage is pretty high.
2. Yes, smoking is a dealbreaker for me. I think it's gross. I've never heard a reasonable justification for it. And I think if you're planning to get married and/or have children someday, it is an incredibly selfish decision that will hurt people who depend on you. Not really what I'm looking for in a man.0 -
I've never met anyone who lied about being a smoker.
I prefer non-smokers, mostly because my vocal folds come first lol0 -
1) I've never come across someone that lied about smoking
2) As long as they don't smoke indoors and are a considerate smoker (don't litter, move away from crowds, etc) then no, it's not a deal breaker for me. Of course, I'm very much a "live and let live" type persona. As long as you aren't infringing on other peoples rights I don't really care what you choose to do with your life.0 -
I prefer a non-smoker, but someone who smokes every once in a while is okay, I guess. I used to be a smoker 13 years ago and still find it hard to resist the temptation.0
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The smell of smoke takes my breath away. I can't stand the smell and I especially do not like the taste, so it's a definite turn off/ no no for me.0
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i think most people are honest.
although i dont smoke and never will, smoking isn't an automatic deal breaker for me. LYING about smoking definitely is. if you say you dont smoke but then forget about that and on our first date and have to take a few smoke breaks then that makes me wonder what else they've lied about on their profile0 -
Never had a problem with anyone lying about smoking.
Yes...deal breaker for me.....I cant stand the smell añd actually sm allergic to moke.....heavy smoky places makes my throat constrict....very glad law passed here- No smoking inbars or restaurants! !!0 -
Just random thoughts...
1. Do you find most people are honest in an online dating profile regarding their smoking habits?
2. Are smokers an immediate disqualification for relationship potential?
1) haven't really done the online dating thing to be able to say yes or no.
2) for me yes. I can be friends with someone who smokes but to persue something beyond friendship, no.0 -
1. I've never done online dating, so I don't know how frequently people lie about stuff like that on their profiles. I would imagine, given the extradordinary number of idiots who seem to roam those sites, the percentage is pretty high.
Number 1: What she said!
Number 2: Dealbreaker without a doubt. a) I'm allergic to cigarette smoke - my sinuses block up, my eyes start to water and I start to wheeze pretty quickly when directly exposed to smoke, and the residual smell on a smoker doesn't help matters either, though it doesn't have quite the same effect. b) I hate being left alone at a table or mid-conversation when someone 'pops out for a cigarette'. Twiddling my thumbs while I wait for them to come back is not my favourite occupation.0 -
a) I'm allergic to cigarette smoke - my sinuses block up, my eyes start to water and I start to wheeze pretty quickly when directly exposed to smoke
Wow! seriously?? Are you allergic to other stuff too? Like dogs or dust or pollen?
b) I hate being left alone at a table or mid-conversation when someone 'pops out for a cigarette'. Twiddling my thumbs while I wait for them to come back is not my favourite occupation.
:laugh: good point! I used to smoke, but thankfully it was before the ban. This current trend of breaking conversations to pop outside for a *kitten* is pretty annoying, I agree. And seeing as most of my friends smoke, I'm like billy no mates at the bar sometimes :laugh:0 -
a) I'm allergic to cigarette smoke - my sinuses block up, my eyes start to water and I start to wheeze pretty quickly when directly exposed to smoke
Wow! seriously?? Are you allergic to other stuff too? Like dogs or dust or pollen?
b) I hate being left alone at a table or mid-conversation when someone 'pops out for a cigarette'. Twiddling my thumbs while I wait for them to come back is not my favourite occupation.
:laugh: good point! I used to smoke, but thankfully it was before the ban. This current trend of breaking conversations to pop outside for a *kitten* is pretty annoying, I agree. And seeing as most of my friends smoke, I'm like billy no mates at the bar sometimes :laugh:
It gets a bit tedious, doesn't it, especially the third or fourth or fifth time.... And yes, very serious about the smoke allergy, and not allergic to anything else - I don't even get hayfever! That said, I don't use aerosol cleaning products, or chemical air fresheners etc, as I was warned these might be an issue as well, and try my best to avoid them outside my home. I'm a professional singer, so my lungs are kind of important to me :laugh:
MY ENT thinks I probably am allergic to one or several of the chemicals released into the air in cigarette smoke, and predictably, the reaction is relative to exposure and concentration. Indoor smoke, when it was allowed in pubs/bars/restaurants, was an absolute nightmare - one of the reasons I didn't have much of a social life in my late teens and early twenties. (HUGE supporter of Indoor Smoking Bans here!) Homes and cars owned by smokers are problematic, even if they haven't smoked recently . I've been known to keep windows wide open during a blizzard in rooms that have been smoked in. Outdoor smoke is generally less concentrated (and more avoidable), so the reaction is less severe. Even the smoke that lingers on a smoker's clothes can be a problem in a small space, so definitely a deal breaker for me.:sick:0
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