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  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    He'll let you know via text msg pretty quickly once you start sleeping together ;)
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    Trust is a prerequisite for anything kinky. Once the trust is built, developed, cultivated and grows, the kinkiness takes on a whole new life of its on.

    It is not kinky anymore, it becomes romantic passion.


    LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    oh wait choking is kinky now isnt it
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    what about role playing and spanking- are those kinky too?

    dang, I need to go read what vanilla is considered to be in 2012.
  • sma83
    sma83 Posts: 479 Member
    I start with biting and see how he reacts to that, lol. If he likes nails down the back or spanking...if all that goes ok, I will usually brink out the more kinky side within a few times of being with a guy. Now that being said, its been forever since Ive had to worry about this, but Im holding out hope that I might get some one day soon! lol
  • craigers13
    craigers13 Posts: 241 Member
    The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha

    Maybe this is why I keep scaring them away :P

    This scares them away?!?!

    The majority of the guys that I have been with are scared to get super rough. I'm sure they could work up to it, but most are quite scared to try :(

    I think a lot of guys are worried that they might hurt you, but once the threshhold is set it sure is fun!
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha

    Maybe this is why I keep scaring them away :P

    This scares them away?!?!

    The majority of the guys that I have been with are scared to get super rough. I'm sure they could work up to it, but most are quite scared to try :(

    I think a lot of guys are worried that they might hurt you, but once the threshhold is set it sure is fun!

    Yes, would you consider signing a release form stating that you understand the risk of choking and rough sex and that we can't be held accountable for any bruising, broken bones, or other injuries up to and including death? You know, for when the police arrive. :tongue:
  • Vodkha
    Vodkha Posts: 352 Member
    but pain is part of the fun! yeah, I'd sign something! :P
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Speaking of kinky...

    I think a good way to gauge someone's passion (or kinkyness) is by the way they kiss.

    I try to let a guy now how passionate I am by the way I kiss them. I want them to get a preview of what it'd be like so I give subtle (and not so subtle hints) through my kissing.:blushing:
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Speaking of kinky...

    I think a good way to gauge someone's passion (or kinkyness) is by the way they kiss.

    I try to let a guy now how passionate I am by the way I kiss them. I want them to get a preview of what it'd be like so I give subtle (and not so subtle hints) through my kissing.:blushing:

    I agree the kiss is key. Now, I really know things will work out okay when the woman initiates as often as I do. But I've known girls who kiss well, but were logs in bed.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Usually my good kissers were good at "other things".

    And my kisses go from soft to hard to nibbling to biting to sucking to nibbling again to soft :bigsmile: .. so I like to think the guy I'm kissing can get a feel of what it'd be like if we ever got to that point.
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Usually my good kissers were good at "other things".

    And my kisses go from soft to hard to nibbling to biting to sucking to nibbling again to soft :bigsmile: .. so I like to think the guy I'm kissing can get a feel of what it'd be like if we ever got to that point.

    I'm not arguing with you on that. Or critiquing your style. :tongue:

    And yes, most great kissers have other important talents. I'm just saying, like some guys only dance from the waist up, some ladies approach the sex/romance the same way.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    aww man, now I want to kiss!! :smooched:
  • AccordingtoTodd
    AccordingtoTodd Posts: 197 Member
    you have a great understanding of a passionate kiss La_Amazona!
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    you have a great understanding of a passionate kiss La_Amazona!

    I'm latina, what can I say?

    Just kidding to all my girls on here.. I'm sure ya'lls kisses are just as passionate. :smooched:
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    We would have to talk about our fantasies and desires before we actually had sex because first impressions are what set it off.

    If the first time is boring "love" making them ima think its always gonna be like that...

    Psh I like it KINKY all the time.

    Show me how its done the first time!!!
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    Speaking of kinky...

    I think a good way to gauge someone's passion (or kinkyness) is by the way they kiss.

    I try to let a guy now how passionate I am by the way I kiss them. I want them to get a preview of what it'd be like so I give subtle (and not so subtle hints) through my kissing.:blushing:

    I agree the kiss is key. Now, I really know things will work out okay when the woman initiates as often as I do. But I've known girls who kiss well, but were logs in bed.

    I agree... if you cant kiss you probably aint gonna get very far with me... Lol.
    Kissing is my fav thing to do so you gotta be real talented. :o)
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
    I imagine it'd take several times before the REAL La_Amazona comes out. Rawr!

    The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha

    I'm down lol, oh wait :D lol
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I imagine it'd take several times before the REAL La_Amazona comes out. Rawr!

    The first few times wouldn't be vanilla but I wouldn't tell my guy the 1st time we're making love to choke me. haha

    I'm down lol, oh wait :D lol

    There was always Vegas... :sad:
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    Well, you can't really go choking or getting all rough with someone after the first couple dates without any prior conversation.

    I usually bring sex up in conversation, and tell them what I like, so they feel comfortable telling me what they like. If somebody does something really kinky that I'm not expecting they're liable to get thrown across the room.
  • Diandra81
    Diandra81 Posts: 128 Member
    I'm pulling out the chickens and midgets day one.

    LMAO
  • hope516
    hope516 Posts: 1,133 Member
    Let your freak flag fly. Chains, whips, chips and dip, its all good LMAO.

    this lol
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Let your freak flag fly. Chains, whips, chips and dip, its all good LMAO.

    this lol

    You know, you might be on to something there. If they dig it, you got some major fun coming. If they don't, you've got some great stories to tell your friends (including us on MFP Single Peeps). :drinker:
  • PeekABooGirl
    PeekABooGirl Posts: 218 Member
    Let your freak flag fly. Chains, whips, chips and dip, its all good LMAO.

    this lol

    You know, you might be on to something there. If they dig it, you got some major fun coming. If they don't, you've got some great stories to tell your friends (including us on MFP Single Peeps). :drinker:

    Yes, I'd like to hear of these escapades too!
  • r1ghtpath
    r1ghtpath Posts: 701 Member
    i think being honest from the get go is the way to go. not necessarily SHOWING them the first time, but through conversation being honest about what you like, don't like, except, want, etc.

    some people are vanilla, and that's all they want. others might have only experienced vanilla but find they like it all after having someone show them how fun it can be.

    others are just naturally drawn to kink more!

    i believe in being honest before anything really gets going because the last thing i would want is someone to be uncomfortable, have there be a major difference in likes/ dislikes, or either person being totally dissatisfied!

    and i agree with the kissing statements. i typically find that good kissers are good at other things. and bad kissers are not good. kissing needs to interesting too. and it's can't be too fast or too sloppy. hard, soft, slow, biting, nibbling, lips barely touching, licking,sucking....... everyone thinks they are a good kisser, but not everyone is!
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I like to keep informed about the murky online dating waters, it just gives me extra incentive not to dip my toes in. Today I stumbled across a forum filled with victims of web cam blackmail/extortion. Many of these guys and gals paid quite a bit of money to keep the kinky stuff they were doing for some stranger online off Youtube.

    The blackmailers/extortionists sent their victims the names of the victims' Facebook contacts, including friends and family, and threatened to send the link of the captured webcam escapades to their contacts, as well as to porn sites. Some of the culprits falsely captioned the footage 'pedophile', too.

    So my new answer to this question is: Sure as hell never online for a webcam. Lots of bad people out there looking to make some money off everyone's favorite new ways to get to know one another.
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