Friday update
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BTW would love to know what a crawfish party entails?? Is it at a beach party or something? Or just that you eat crawfish? And if so , why? And why are there so many of them? Seasonal?? :bigsmile:
Crawfish are in season right now, so that's the big thing everyone's doing. Spicy crawfish (mudbugs) with corn and potatoes are the foundation of a crawfish boil, plus red beans and rice and anything Cajun. Pretty messy to eat, so to me it's more about hanging out with cool people than anything else.0 -
Going out with my sister tonight. FWB is away. So atleast 2 other guys are coming out to flirt tonight. And who ever else we can draw to our table. Probably go out again on saturday night. Then Sunday with my babies....
So had a blast last night with one of they guys. And I will tell you he is the exception to my height rule. He has to be atleast 2 inches shorter than me. We ended up dancing and singing most of the night. LOL though I did have a couple of people ask me where FWB was at lol......
My sister night did not go so well. She totally fixated on this one guy and when that didnt work she got bumed. Oh well shell get over it lol0 -
Good morning all!! My weekend plans include spending time with family. Stayed over at my baby brothers on Thurs night because we had plans to go fishing on early yesterday morning. Had a blast just hanging out and having a few drinks (thur evening). Super excited when I caught my first catfish (he was very tasty too...cooked on the grill). We watched a couple scary movies last night, and a comedy before bed. I didn't want to go to sleep with those last images in my head....the kiddos agreed...LOL For tonight, the boys will all be camping down by the river, doing whatever boys do. And all us girls will be watching the Twilight Series. Yay!!
Hope everyone is having an awesome weekend!!! Good luck to those of you with date plans.
Janiejack, WOW!!!0 -
Good morning all!! My weekend plans include spending time with family. Stayed over at my baby brothers on Thurs night because we had plans to go fishing on early yesterday morning. Had a blast just hanging out and having a few drinks (thur evening). Super excited when I caught my first catfish (he was very tasty too...cooked on the grill). We watched a couple scary movies last night, and a comedy before bed. I didn't want to go to sleep with those last images in my head....the kiddos agreed...LOL For tonight, the boys will all be camping down by the river, doing whatever boys do. And all us girls will be watching the Twilight Series. Yay!!
Hope everyone is having an awesome weekend!!! Good luck to those of you with date plans.
Janiejack, WOW!!!
Yum that catfish sounds good!!0 -
I say "weird" date not "bad" date because the guy seemed like a sweet guy, just with some very strong opinions that don't match my lifestyle. We kept getting into sad topics (like he gave up rights to his daughter) and I kept trying to turn it around. But he kept bringing up every bad thing in his life. The people at the table next to us kept laughing at us. He later said it was because he didn't want to play games and I might as well know up front so I can leave now before I break his heart. I told him some things are best learned over time or in private.
He's put on a lot of weight over the last couple years and developed some other health problems. I like 'em big'n'tall as long as they're still fit, but it bothered me that he seemed to accept it as a natural part of aging, and even said “nothing you can do about it.†It told him I didn’t think that was true, but didn’t change his mind.
Absolute deal breaker was when he said that in spite of his weight gained, poor knees, and limited ability to do all the fun, outdoorsy things, he only wanted a "fit" or "thin" woman.
I don't do hypocrisy. You don't get to enjoy the benefit of my working out (almost) every day to have a great body and don't put forth a similar amount of effort so that I have something to enjoy too.
Oh, and yes, it will be a lot of crawfish. But I’m planning on socializing, not eating.
I certainly understand why you wouldn't want to date this guy but I kind of feel bad for him. I've been to the point where I was packing on the pounds to the point that it affected my health and my mobility and I just seemed lost as I had no idea at the time how to change things and improve the situation. Even the doctors who told me to lose weight couldn't offer more than just eat 500 Calories less per day as advice.0 -
I certainly understand why you wouldn't want to date this guy but I kind of feel bad for him. I've been to the point where I was packing on the pounds to the point that it affected my health and my mobility and I just seemed lost as I had no idea at the time how to change things and improve the situation. Even the doctors who told me to lose weight couldn't offer more than just eat 500 Calories less per day as advice.
It's not the weight that turned me off. It's that he insisted on only a thin or fit woman (and even dug on me for having broad shoulders "well, your shoulders are really broad but I guess it's ok because you are so active that you look good") yet he himself has given up on losing weight and improving his health. That's smacks too much of my ex. The woman gets no excuses. The man gets plenty. No thank you. Sweet guy though, so I'm sure he's perfect for someone...just not me. They say there's plenty of fish in the sea... I think I'll throw this one back for someone else.0 -
They say there's plenty of fish in the sea... I think I'll throw this one back for someone else.
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I certainly understand why you wouldn't want to date this guy but I kind of feel bad for him. I've been to the point where I was packing on the pounds to the point that it affected my health and my mobility and I just seemed lost as I had no idea at the time how to change things and improve the situation. Even the doctors who told me to lose weight couldn't offer more than just eat 500 Calories less per day as advice.
It's not the weight that turned me off. It's that he insisted on only a thin or fit woman (and even dug on me for having broad shoulders "well, your shoulders are really broad but I guess it's ok because you are so active that you look good") yet he himself has given up on losing weight and improving his health. That's smacks too much of my ex. The woman gets no excuses. The man gets plenty. No thank you. Sweet guy though, so I'm sure he's perfect for someone...just not me. They say there's plenty of fish in the sea... I think I'll throw this one back for someone else.
Say whaaaa? He pointed out your shoulders?!?! HA!!! NEXT NEXT NEXT! Jerk.0 -
Met a lady on POF we are going to meet up on Sunday for lunch and who knows. Other than that just chillin with my babies.
Yay for dates!
We treated it as a meet and greet lunch date. She lives about 20 miles from me so I met her at a restaurant near her. After having texted and emailed via POF all week, I was worried we might hit a wall in our conversation. However, we talked non stop the whole time which was about 2 hours and even continued texting afterward. We have a lot in common, she is very interesting, and very attractive, so I felt like it went well.0 -
Met a lady on POF we are going to meet up on Sunday for lunch and who knows. Other than that just chillin with my babies.
Yay for dates!
We treated it as a meet and greet lunch date. She lives about 20 miles from me so I met her at a restaurant near her. After having texted and emailed via POF all week, I was worried we might hit a wall in our conversation. However, we talked non stop the whole time which was about 2 hours and even continued texting afterward. We have a lot in common, she is very interesting, and very attractive, so I felt like it went well.
woohoo! Sounds like an excellent "meet and greet" turned into a true first date. Keep us updated.0 -
Met a lady on POF we are going to meet up on Sunday for lunch and who knows. Other than that just chillin with my babies.
Yay for dates!
We treated it as a meet and greet lunch date. She lives about 20 miles from me so I met her at a restaurant near her. After having texted and emailed via POF all week, I was worried we might hit a wall in our conversation. However, we talked non stop the whole time which was about 2 hours and even continued texting afterward. We have a lot in common, she is very interesting, and very attractive, so I felt like it went well.
Very cool! :drinker:0 -
Say whaaaa? He pointed out your shoulders?!?! HA!!! NEXT NEXT NEXT! Jerk.
I get that a lot, actually. Depending on the picture I post, you can't really tell but, yeah, I'm built like a linebacker.
In fact, when I meet someone in person that I've only interacted online (forums like this, facebook friends-of-friends, online dating, etc), this is the number one comment I get: "Wow, I thought you were a lot smaller."0 -
We treated it as a meet and greet lunch date. She lives about 20 miles from me so I met her at a restaurant near her. After having texted and emailed via POF all week, I was worried we might hit a wall in our conversation. However, we talked non stop the whole time which was about 2 hours and even continued texting afterward. We have a lot in common, she is very interesting, and very attractive, so I felt like it went well.
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Say whaaaa? He pointed out your shoulders?!?! HA!!! NEXT NEXT NEXT! Jerk.
I get that a lot, actually. Depending on the picture I post, you can't really tell but, yeah, I'm built like a linebacker.
In fact, when I meet someone in person that I've only interacted online (forums like this, facebook friends-of-friends, online dating, etc), this is the number one comment I get: "Wow, I thought you were a lot smaller."
Honey, I'm 5'8.5 and I think I'm a pretty broad girl myself so I understand. I have the broad shoulders going too... but I'd smack a guy if he pointed that out!
My friend Heather told me the same exact thing.. I met her from a forum and she said "yeah I thought you were a tiny girl according to your pics.." :ohwell: Jeez thanks!!!
She's a tall one too and not petite (not fat at all) so we relate. She didn't mean it in a bad way but still funny.0 -
Had a third date yesterday with an eHarmony girl at a historical village she used to work at. Had a great time but I think we were both a little tired from the weekend, conversation was not flowing as well as it usually does.
I think this girl is awesome and I can tell she likes me, I just worry that we don't have a lot of chemistry. Maybe I'm just used to girls being a little more touchy and flirtatious. Usually after 3 dates with someone we can't keep out hands off each other but we've barely even touched each other.
I'm not too worried about it though, I should see her again in the next day or two, maybe I should invite her over for take-out and a movie. That's usually my go-to make out date.0 -
Had a third date yesterday with an eHarmony girl at a historical village she used to work at. Had a great time but I think we were both a little tired from the weekend, conversation was not flowing as well as it usually does.
I think this girl is awesome and I can tell she likes me, I just worry that we don't have a lot of chemistry. Maybe I'm just used to girls being a little more touchy and flirtatious. Usually after 3 dates with someone we can't keep out hands off each other but we've barely even touched each other.
I'm not too worried about it though, I should see her again in the next day or two, maybe I should invite her over for take-out and a movie. That's usually my go-to make out date.
I guess that all women aren't affectionate or tactile. I'd say if she keeps on accepting dates, she's into you! :flowerforyou:0 -
Had a third date yesterday with an eHarmony girl at a historical village she used to work at. Had a great time but I think we were both a little tired from the weekend, conversation was not flowing as well as it usually does.
I think this girl is awesome and I can tell she likes me, I just worry that we don't have a lot of chemistry. Maybe I'm just used to girls being a little more touchy and flirtatious. Usually after 3 dates with someone we can't keep out hands off each other but we've barely even touched each other.
I'm not too worried about it though, I should see her again in the next day or two, maybe I should invite her over for take-out and a movie. That's usually my go-to make out date.
I guess that all women aren't affectionate or tactile. I'd say if she keeps on accepting dates, she's into you! :flowerforyou:
I am sooooo not a touchy feely person. It actually takes me a lot to even hug someone. I would suggest starting slow. Like when sitting next to eachother bump shoulders or press your leg against theirs. Another good way to start is hand on the small of her back when she is walking through a door in front of you. I am usually up front with people about it though so they don't take it as I don't like them.0 -
Half the time she's the one asking ME out, so we obviously like each other. I'm just wondering if two people can like each other but just not have very good chemistry. It's actually kind of nice to get to know someone without rushing into anything, I just don't want to get put in the friend zone.Had a third date yesterday with an eHarmony girl at a historical village she used to work at. Had a great time but I think we were both a little tired from the weekend, conversation was not flowing as well as it usually does.
I think this girl is awesome and I can tell she likes me, I just worry that we don't have a lot of chemistry. Maybe I'm just used to girls being a little more touchy and flirtatious. Usually after 3 dates with someone we can't keep out hands off each other but we've barely even touched each other.
I'm not too worried about it though, I should see her again in the next day or two, maybe I should invite her over for take-out and a movie. That's usually my go-to make out date.
I guess that all women aren't affectionate or tactile. I'd say if she keeps on accepting dates, she's into you! :flowerforyou:0 -
I'll be spending the week in Vegas for a business conference. I think I'll be actively avoiding the drinking / social scene, though. This is my first conference with this company and everyone in my field of expertise from all over the world will be there.
I'm putting a good first impression before a good time, here. Maybe a little boring, but probably best in the long run.
In other words, passing out on the sidewalk with my pants off is probably not going to get me any promotions.
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That's actually a really good point, I'm generally not that touchy feely either but if I get it started maybe it will make her more comfortable.Had a third date yesterday with an eHarmony girl at a historical village she used to work at. Had a great time but I think we were both a little tired from the weekend, conversation was not flowing as well as it usually does.
I think this girl is awesome and I can tell she likes me, I just worry that we don't have a lot of chemistry. Maybe I'm just used to girls being a little more touchy and flirtatious. Usually after 3 dates with someone we can't keep out hands off each other but we've barely even touched each other.
I'm not too worried about it though, I should see her again in the next day or two, maybe I should invite her over for take-out and a movie. That's usually my go-to make out date.
I guess that all women aren't affectionate or tactile. I'd say if she keeps on accepting dates, she's into you! :flowerforyou:
I am sooooo not a touchy feely person. It actually takes me a lot to even hug someone. I would suggest starting slow. Like when sitting next to eachother bump shoulders or press your leg against theirs. Another good way to start is hand on the small of her back when she is walking through a door in front of you. I am usually up front with people about it though so they don't take it as I don't like them.0 -
Maybe I'm just used to girls being a little more touchy and flirtatious. Usually after 3 dates with someone we can't keep out hands off each other but we've barely even touched each other.
I'm not too worried about it though, I should see her again in the next day or two, maybe I should invite her over for take-out and a movie. That's usually my go-to make out date.
I am sooooo not a touchy feely person. It actually takes me a lot to even hug someone. I would suggest starting slow.
Two possible explanations:
1) Some people like to get to know each other before getting touchy-feely (but once they do they can't hardly stop). It took a bit, but I was so comfortable with my last boyfriend that I sometimes had to cut our dates short just because I couldn't keep my hands off of him ;-)
2) And some prefer not getting all active in public, but that doesn't mean they don't have a wild, exciting side behind closed doors. I really don't like to get too kissy-face in public, especially now that I'm in a higher-profile job, unless we're secluded or secretive about it (hmm, i think I just discovered thing #2 I miss about my ex... the "bet they can't guess what we're doing" game).I'm generally not that touchy feely either but if I get it started maybe it will make her more comfortable.
Definitely. But if she's not ready it, too much too soon could drive her away. If I met someone online, I'm not sure how I'd feel about going to their house on the 4th date, now that I've learned "movie" is usually synonymous with sex/heavy making out. I just wanna get to know someone first (I know, I know, not everyone is me, lol). I just would hate for you to miss out on someone fabulous since others are getting so much action and you may be worried that if she liked you she'd be the same way.
So glad eHarmony is working out for you (can't wait to tell my friend)!0 -
Well I also don't want to come across as someone who is too much of a wuss to make a move. But you're right, I think we need to be more comfortable around each other before I invite her over. Actually, I think I'm starting to overthink this way too much, I'm just gonna have fun and see where it goes.
Definitely. But if she's not ready it, too much too soon could drive her away. If I met someone online, I'm not sure how I'd feel about going to their house on the 4th date, now that I've learned "movie" is usually synonymous with sex/heavy making out. I just wanna get to know someone first (I know, I know, not everyone is me, lol). I just would hate for you to miss out on someone fabulous since others are getting so much action and you may be worried that if she liked you she'd be the same way.
So glad eHarmony is working out for you (can't wait to tell my friend)!
After about the first week eHarmony has been a total waste of money. That's when they give you most of your matches but after that it really slows down. The only matches I've gotten in the past few weeks have been like 10 years younger, unemployed, and don't even have a picture. I lucked out with the two girls I've met (in a couple months on the site) but I most likely will not be renewing. I need some more options.0 -
She hasn't met anyone in person yet, but just the fact that she's getting SO much interest has really encouraged her. She literally can’t respond to the volume of matches/messages she’s getting. We've been trying to tell her she's the whole package: smart, beautiful, accomplished, loves sports, etc, and this experience just confirms it.0
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Well I also don't want to come across as someone who is too much of a wuss to make a move. But you're right, I think we need to be more comfortable around each other before I invite her over. Actually, I think I'm starting to overthink this way too much, I'm just gonna have fun and see where it goes.
TBH if a guy hadnt made a move to put his arm round me, or hold my hand or kiss me, after 2 dates, I'd think there was something wrong. But I know things can be a bit different in America!!!! So take no notice of me....lol :flowerforyou:0 -
Well I also don't want to come across as someone who is too much of a wuss to make a move. But you're right, I think we need to be more comfortable around each other before I invite her over. Actually, I think I'm starting to overthink this way too much, I'm just gonna have fun and see where it goes.
TBH if a guy hadnt made a move to put his arm round me, or hold my hand or kiss me, after 2 dates, I'd think there was something wrong. But I know things can be a bit different in America!!!! So take no notice of me....lol :flowerforyou:
I'd think the same thing.0 -
Well I also don't want to come across as someone who is too much of a wuss to make a move. But you're right, I think we need to be more comfortable around each other before I invite her over. Actually, I think I'm starting to overthink this way too much, I'm just gonna have fun and see where it goes.
TBH if a guy hadnt made a move to put his arm round me, or hold my hand or kiss me, after 2 dates, I'd think there was something wrong. But I know things can be a bit different in America!!!! So take no notice of me....lol :flowerforyou:
Whoa whoa whoa...I never said I didn't make a move, I did kiss her goodbye after dates 2 and 3 and we do hug when we see each other. I probably should have held her hand at some point but I'm not much of a hand holder. It's just tough to gauge someone's comfort level after a few dates.
Sorry to hijack the thread by the way, I didn't know my "problems" would be so interesting. lol0
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