I'm failing and gained 7lbs
zeikiya989
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I am starting to feel really defeated. I am losing my way after almost 5 months of doing great. I not only didn't lose weight last month but i gained almost 7lbs. I am so disappointed in myself and I don't know how to shake it. I was so stressed last month an I did not handle it well at all. I over ate so much because of emotions. I am trying so hard to get back to where I was. Guess there is nothing I can do but try harder each day and keep pushing forward. I don't want to give up, but this was the first time in my life after so many failed attempts, that I had success with out giving after weeks. I thought I had finally reached the point where I was changing my life and once and for all felt I could beat this. Now not so much, I don't feel confident anymore that i can do this.
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Don’t get down on yourself! Everyone has day days, weeks, months. Look at the big picture, you have come a long way in 5 months! Pick yourself up and do something to make yourself feel proud. Start extra small if you have to. One small goal a day that you can complete no matter what. Before you know it you will be back to your old self. Hang in there and don’t give up on yourself! You are worth it, remember that!0
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You are changing your life! And you will overcome this bump in the road and keep going!! Shake it off
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I have had a horrible past couple weeks. Haven't even bothered weighing.
I totally understand. It is hard. But it is not impossible.
I lost 50 pounds in 4 months. If i can come back from the backslide the past couple weeks, you can start again too.
Starting today, i am being good. I also took a fluid pill to flush out all the salts i had been eating.
Pretty sure that'll help me stay on spot, i hate this feeling of needing to pee constantly. Ugh0 -
One of the hardest things to do is to not automatically go to our 'safe zone' when we are stressed out or feeling depressed. We have 'triggers' which cause us to instinctively do/behave in a manner which will make us feel safe or comfortable.
If food is a comfort or safe zone. then that's where you go to when you don't feel safe or comfortable.
The kicker is, food is a learned behavior, as infants we cry for whatever reason and one of the solutions is getting food, even if we weren't crying for food itself. Does this mean it's our parents fault, not at all. just that we learned to calm down if fed.
Fast-forward that 20, 30, 40 years later and we get upset, emotional, depressed, hurt, angry, whatever... and we eat a bucket of ice cream to feel better.
The step is to find a new comfort or safe zone.... which is extremely difficult the older we get. And it's not easy, and sometimes you gotta fight with yourself, and sometimes you lose THAT battle. but... you do not have to lose the war.
So, chalk April up to a battle lost and see May as a new opportunity to win the long war. Time and patience.. and a whole lot of stubbornness and I bet you'll win.0 -
You know, I almost envy smokers that try to quit or alcoholics that try to get sober. For their addictions, once they stop, they never HAVE to do it again. It's different with a food addiction. We HAVE to eat; for us it's like having to take just enough of the poison not to kill you every day. What kind of will power does that take? How strong of a person can cope with this type of recovery which is basically transforming your body and mind in how you approach food? This is tough, super tough, probably the toughest thing you, and we, will ever do in our lives. I've tried, had some success, and then failed. Every time for over 30 years. Enough. I'm NOT failing this time. I don't care if it takes me 5 years to lose the weight; I won't quit. I can't because folks like us, well, the alternative is bunch of health issues before a premature death. I will not eat myself to death. Don't beat yourself up; accept what happened, pick yourself up, dust off, and get back on the program. Be patient, be diligent.0
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Just remember weight loss, like life, has ups and downs. And stress will do some CRAZY things to your body. just stay the course and get back to the basics. Track what you're eating and be honest. Pack your lunches and snacks and take them with you. Plan. IF you're going to the grocery store don't go hungry. And find a way to take out that stress, go for a walk, I find Wii Boxing to be good stress reliever.
But MOST IMPORTANTLY KEEP YOUR CHIN UP! You can do this just keep going forward!0 -
Z - you have been having a lot of stress at home it sounds like! I agree with all ..great points...just keep on course best you can and dont give up..to be really sucessful this has to last a lifetime..the better we do, the longer that life will be. Make some changes if you have to, for less stress if you can and keep on keepin on woman! you are strong and can do it!0
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no body has ever tripped over a whole mountain, its the small pebbles that trip us, sweep your path clean and keep climbing. I went on vacation 3 weeks ago and gained 9 lbs. (after a quick 12 lb loss)...I cant seem to get those 9 lbs to GO AWAY again... but im still struggling along. chin up.... even if the tears flow... determination will win in the end0
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